Trying To Deal With Being Lonely

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Lon

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Being almost totally deaf is the main reason. Despite family quite close,their lives are busy an visits infrequent. Many neighbors but we cannot converse. If it were not for Close captionTV, reading, the internet and my IPhone for texting I would have a real problem.
 

Sorry to hear that Lon. If a neighbor speaks louder and more clearly can you hear them? Did you ever look into those implants you mentioned, what was the result? I was hoping they'd be an option for you.
 
Lon, All I can tell you is that you are not alone.

Since I stopped working and have gotten older I have fallen into a sort of solitary confinement about the only direct human contact I have is with people I encounter while I'm out running errands.

One idea might be to see if you can join a local group or find a volunteer tutor that will teach you signing. I don't think that the signing itself is as important as the social interaction and the mental stimulation of learning a new skill.

Good luck Lon, please keep us posted on your progress.
 
As we age I think that we all experience loneliness - we have lost our mates and many of our
friends. Children and grand children are busy with their own lives.
Living in a retirement residence going for a walk means seeing and talking to others. We have
many activities and outings, so it is up to us whether we want to be with others or not.
I don't mind being alone, I am a reader, have my computer and TV. I also have a cat!
I truly believe that if you have a pet it takes the edge off of being lonely.
I feel deeply for those who have lose of earring or sight, they must experience real loneliness.
 
I hope your visit on the 27th offers some hope for you Lon. It's a good thing you are internet savvy and can connect with people this way. How many networking sites are you on?
 
You know Lon, I used to write the sermons for a deaf lady in our church and getting to know her a bit made me more aware of the difficulties that deaf people have to put up with. Even though I tried to help her by writing (I didn't know any sign language) it was really tough for her to be in any kind of group because conversations just flow so fast.

I think if you're a bit of a loner, it's probably easier to live with what you're going through, but I've gotten the impression that you are a bit more gregarious than that so the hermit lifestyle is not your cup of tea. Would that be right?
 
Debby said:
You know Lon, I used to write the sermons for a deaf lady in our church and getting to know her a bit made me more aware of the difficulties that deaf people have to put up with. Even though I tried to help her by writing (I didn't know any sign language) it was really tough for her to be in any kind of group because conversations just flow so fast.

I think if you're a bit of a loner, it's probably easier to live with what you're going through, but I've gotten the impression that you are a bit more gregarious than that so the hermit lifestyle is not your cup of tea. Would that be right?
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You are right about me Deb. I am a gregarious extrovert & sorely miss the social intercourse in which I once participated.
 
Wow, your appointment is a month away. Hope it goes well. That being said, are you being considered for hearing aids? I know you posted about coclear implants. I would consider learning some ASL, or practice reading lips (practice by watching TV with the closed captioning on) I know you are not driving any more, but many senior centers offer ride services to get there and home. A friends mother used the services. I like Ruthannes suggestion of texting. Or emailing folks too.
 
Marie5656 said:
Wow, your appointment is a month away. Hope it goes well. That being said, are you being considered for hearing aids? I know you posted about coclear implants. I would consider learning some ASL, or practice reading lips (practice by watching TV with the closed captioning on) I know you are not driving any more, but many senior centers offer ride services to get there and home. A friends mother used the services. I like Ruthannes suggestion of texting. Or emailing folks too.
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i have worn hearing aids for 25 years an am on my 5th set of State of the Art Hearing aids. Unfortunately they only allow for minimal unintelligible hearing. I have no problem going any where I want via Uber.
 
My stepfather is completely deaf. Started with nerve problems and equilibrium when he was a teenager. I do feel bad for him. He has the TV, reading and the cats. I'm in the same town but not much I can do.
 

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