CinnamonSugar
A Quiet American
I don't mind traveling by myself. I can stroll through a museum, watch a movie, or scope out nature's delights in a park--without the need for company. I do, however, get uncomfortable with people approaching me and the conversation quickly taking a turn for the worst. Two examples:
Spent a weekend in St. Mary's, GA. Was eating dinner in a nice restaurant, reading a book, when a "gentleman" came up to the table and without preamble, put his face right in front of mine (too close) and said, "HI, HOW'RE YOU DOING? YOU STAYING AROUND HERE?" Waves of alcohol rolling over me with each breath. I don't remember how I got rid of him but it wasn't very assertive.
Another time a man in the next booth of a mexican restaurant in New Mexico started talking to me as we ate. It was just general conversation, til all of a sudden he said, "You're really serious, aren't you?" I got self-conscious and stumbled verbally. Of course, 2 hours later, I come up with the perfect (confident) response... "And that is a problem because...?"
I guess my question is, in traveling alone, is rudeness or unwanted advances by the opposite sex something common? What is the best response--a rapier-sharp comeback or gently dodge the situation and/or bow out gracefully? Things you found effective would be appreciated.
Spent a weekend in St. Mary's, GA. Was eating dinner in a nice restaurant, reading a book, when a "gentleman" came up to the table and without preamble, put his face right in front of mine (too close) and said, "HI, HOW'RE YOU DOING? YOU STAYING AROUND HERE?" Waves of alcohol rolling over me with each breath. I don't remember how I got rid of him but it wasn't very assertive.
Another time a man in the next booth of a mexican restaurant in New Mexico started talking to me as we ate. It was just general conversation, til all of a sudden he said, "You're really serious, aren't you?" I got self-conscious and stumbled verbally. Of course, 2 hours later, I come up with the perfect (confident) response... "And that is a problem because...?"
I guess my question is, in traveling alone, is rudeness or unwanted advances by the opposite sex something common? What is the best response--a rapier-sharp comeback or gently dodge the situation and/or bow out gracefully? Things you found effective would be appreciated.