Was money the biggest problem in your marriage(s)?

Ralphy1

Ralphy1

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It was the biggest problem in mine and others that I know. It seems that those who have enough to keep everybody happy that these marriages were less rocky. "Your love gives me quite a thrill, but your love don't pay my bills, I need money..." as the song goes, don't you agree?
 

No, but we struggled in other ways. I have to shoulder the blame. My wife probably should have divorced me. I spent too much time with the boys and not enough time at home. I was also a workaholic trying to move ahead of the pack. I finally went to counseling and got straightened out. Today, we have been married for 47 years, but I never would have thought we were going to make it through the first 5 or so. My wife was and is very patient. Me, not so much. I still lack patience, but I am getting better.
 
In my first marriage money was an enormous problem, we simply had very little, and what we did have he gambled away, so it completely destroyed the marriage.

What is the old german proverb?.?..'when poverty comes in through the door love flies out through the window''
 

Money was a major issue in my first two marriages, especially the first one. Not an issue in my current marriage although we don't always agree on how to spend it.
 
We've been through some difficult financial times in our 48 years of marriage. We weathered them... so far. When we took our vows in 1966, we did the "for richer or poorer" part. And, we've seen both sides. I won't say money was one of the biggest speed bumps we've face. We had a difficult time with one of our children through her teenage years. We've seen all of our parents now gone, some earlier than ever expected. And, we both have changed physically and emotionally over almost 50 years. She's still the love of my life, hoping she will put up with me for a few more years!!!!!
 
Nope, money wasn't an issue in my marriage, we were fine as far as finances were concerned, both were pretty good at managing money. We divorced for other reasons having nothing to do with finances.
 
Money was somewhat of an issue in my first and second marriage. Both marriages, same lady. Annulment first marriage, divorce second one. Anyway, her family was pretty upper-class. They lived in a very nice area and her father was the President of the company he worked for. She worked at a very nice restaurant that I decided to check out one night. Didn't eat, but did talk to her. As for me, I was driving an old 1962 Ford Falcon when I met her in 1974. Now, what attracted me to her, believe it or not, my Emergency Medicine uniform.

My marriage now........we both know that she makes much more money that I do, but then again, she has the major college degree that I never got. We only WISH that SS paid as much money as she makes.
 
When I went to see the minister to arrange my marriage, his first question was "Did we have our own home?" Struck me as strange, but he said that in his experience, marrige needed a solid financial foundation as we would have enough challenges without worrying about money or having to live with parents. Just over 41 years now and still going strong. Had enough money to pay for the childrens' university education and have a modest but comfortable life.
 
Ralphy1 said:
It was the biggest problem in mine and others that I know. It seems that those who have enough to keep everybody happy that these marriages were less rocky. "Your love gives me quite a thrill, but your love don't pay my bills, I need money..." as the song goes, don't you agree?
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Ralphy, The biggest problem in my marriage in the early years, besides not enough money,
was that I loved the King and my husband did not. :)
 
Your husband was a jerk, but you should have checked out his feelings about the King before you married him...
 
:lol: I persuaded him to sit through some of the King's movies and he had to listen to his
music or move out. He came around after awhile and realized what a great singer Elvis was so it all worked out.
 

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