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fancicoffee13

fancicoffee13

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Lately, I am determined about being positive. Being positive in the face of what someone has said, or a physical impairment is hard, but then when being determined to actually find something positive about it can be hard, but it can be done. Just like training for a job you want, if you want it (or it's paycheck) really bad, you do whatever it takes in order to get it. The pay off in being positive is so wonderful to me, that I want to practice it often. Being positive is great for your health and others (whether they admit it or not) wish they had your positivity.
 

NorthernLight said:
To be able to look after myself, as long as possible. Perhaps not for the usual reasons. Most foods cause physical problems. If I were in a nursing home (or otherwise dependent), I'd be given foods I can't eat.
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Right. I just turned 70 and am still in good health for now. Many don't make it this far, so I love to take care of myself and make my own choices while I can. That is freedom.
 
NorthernLight said:
To be able to look after myself, as long as possible. Perhaps not for the usual reasons. Most foods cause physical problems. If I were in a nursing home (or otherwise dependent), I'd be given foods I can't eat.
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That is not true here, many special meals are required, due to health issues. Does not make a difference, in the hospital, assisted living or nursing homes they pay attention to what you can and can't eat. There are many who suffer diabetes, can't chew or swallow well. Every facility my Mom was in made sure she got proper diet with her conditions. In fact, over time they learned what she did and did not like.
 
I’m determined to keep dreaming. In my last relation my dreams were always met with disappointment. Now I’m free again to dream. In my playlist when walking I have the song “Happy Talk” from South Pacific to remind me to keep dreaming. As the song goes nothing will happen without a dream!

Happy Talk
 
MountainRa said:
My mom turned 89 today. I determined to keep caring for her in my home as long as I possibly can.
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I understand, I always promised my Mom she would not have to go into a home. She came to live with me when she was 85. I spoiled that girl rotten. She set the menu, I made what ever she wanted. The funny thing she asked for was dessert after breakfast. Cracked me up but yes, she got dessert 3 times a day.

Things went downhill fast, her friend dementia decided to move in. Dressing, bathing, cutting her hair, nails and then her diapers were not a problem. It got to the point where I could not keep her safe. She would get up in the night and fall. Many broken bones, many trips by ambulance to the hospital. There was no choice then, it had to be done, I broke my promise but it was to keep her safe. To give her the care she needed at night.

I know what you are doing, I know it is hard but please keep in mind that you have to keep her safe and you have to think about your own health and wellbeing. You may have to make the decision that will keep you both safe and healthy.
 
Blessed said:
I understand, I always promised my Mom she would not have to go into a home. She came to live with me when she was 85. I spoiled that girl rotten. She set the menu, I made what ever she wanted. The funny thing she asked for was dessert after breakfast. Cracked me up but yes, she got dessert 3 times a day.

Things went downhill fast, her friend dementia decided to move in. Dressing, bathing, cutting her hair, nails and then her diapers were not a problem. It got to the point where I could not keep her safe. She would get up in the night and fall. Many broken bones, many trips by ambulance to the hospital. There was no choice then, it had to be done, I broke my promise but it was to keep her safe. To give her the care she needed at night.

I know what you are doing, I know it is hard but please keep in mind that you have to keep her safe and you have to think about your own health and wellbeing. You may have to make the decision that will keep you both safe and healthy.
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You did what you promised and you kept her happy and safe and now things are different. You have a sound mind and made the right choice. You are the best daughter I know of, well besides my own.
 
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