What did you try to tell your children was most important?

grahamg

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Did you tell your child to put their own interests first, or did you try to emphasise putting the interests of others before your own sometimes?

My father told all his seven children, "Its every man for himself in this world"!

My mother told me she thought life was about survival, ahead of love even.

I'm not sure I remember exactly what I told my daughter, but I did have the thought in mind I'd like her to consider others as well as herself.πŸ‘¨β€πŸŽ“πŸ‘©β€πŸŽ“πŸ‘ͺπŸ‘ͺπŸ‘©β€πŸ‘¦πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘¦ .
 

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Pepper

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My instructions were simple, and were fulfilled. I told my son from the time he was little not to be in a job he hated; to make sure it provided enough money not to be broke; and most of all, to find a partner he loved and trusted.

Mission accomplished.
 
Did you tell your child to put their own interests first, or did you try to emphasise putting the interests of others before your own sometimes?

My father told all his seven children, "Its every man for himself in this world"!

My mother told me she thought life was about survival, ahead of love even.

I'm not sure I remember exactly what I told my daughter, but I did have the thought in mind I'd like her to consider others as well as herself.πŸ‘¨β€πŸŽ“πŸ‘©β€πŸŽ“πŸ‘ͺπŸ‘ͺπŸ‘©β€πŸ‘¦πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘¦ .
Sounds like you took a much better approach than both of your parents.
 

Aunt Marg

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Did you tell your child to put their own interests first, or did you try to emphasise putting the interests of others before your own sometimes?

My father told all his seven children, "Its every man for himself in this world"!

My mother told me she thought life was about survival, ahead of love even.

I'm not sure I remember exactly what I told my daughter, but I did have the thought in mind I'd like her to consider others as well as herself.πŸ‘¨β€πŸŽ“πŸ‘©β€πŸŽ“πŸ‘ͺπŸ‘ͺπŸ‘©β€πŸ‘¦πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘¦ .
We led by example for the most part, and the rest we hoped the children picked-up on through our subtle and sometimes direct guidance.

We were always there for our kids, and I believe they grew to become good people.

It's a balancing act, teaching them to look out for themselves, but not to the point of becoming self-centred/self-serving and non-caring.
 

grahamg

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Sounds like you took a much better approach than both of your parents.
I wouldn't knock my parents approach to the matter at all, no siree, I'd say no one should ignore their words or warnings in their/your own lives, wherever you live.
You should have met them, listened to their views on life, and as my dad used to say, "Getting away with it in life", was important too, and pretty much they did just that together, facing all the troubles that came forth in life with fortitude and not a little humour. My dad may have told his children, " Its every man for himself", but didn't act that way though, as far as we were concerned.
 

grahamg

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As this thread seems to be waning we could perhaps turn it into our best guess as to the most important thing a famous person might have advised their children about?

The first thought coming to my mind was the saying attributed to Groucho Marx, "Never give a sucker an even break", (or was that W.C.Fields? :unsure:).
 

Gaer

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Since their father was no influence or a negative influence, I had to show them how to behave, not tell them. I did tell them to not be afraid to stand alone in their beliefs, to try to affect the quality of the day in the most positive ways, don't be afraid to take risks, keep the highest thoughts.
It hurt me very much that I couldn't pay for their higher educations but they did it themselves! They turned out so wonderful!
They tell me I'm the coolest Mom ever, so I guess I influenced them a little!
 

Phoenix

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I told my furry children to please not put their backsides over the edge of the litter box when they did their business.:LOL:
 

Phoenix

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U S
Yeah, but Phoenix, did you finish off your advice to them with the words... or else? :)
I repostioned them in the box and then got a bigger box. It worked most of the time, until they got old, and I had to put them in the box myself.
 

grahamg

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I didn't say I had any success with it, I just said I tried it. :ROFLMAO:
Quote:"I used to think it worked with real kids",(?), ........doesn't mean you had any success with it, simply that you were utterly deceiving yourself as to whether it worked? :unsure:πŸ˜‹πŸ€ͺ .

What would W.C.Fields have made of that I wonder(?). πŸ˜ͺ🎩 .

My mum used the rub their noses in it and then chuck them outside routine not favoured so much nowadays, but the dog caught on pretty quick I have to say, (the smart boy literally opening a window by biting the frame near the catches, so keen was Lassie not to make a mess on the floor ! πŸ• ).
 

grahamg

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Since their father was no influence or a negative influence, I had to show them how to behave, not tell them. I did tell them to not be afraid to stand alone in their beliefs, to try to affect the quality of the day in the most positive ways, don't be afraid to take risks, keep the highest thoughts.
It hurt me very much that I couldn't pay for their higher educations but they did it themselves! They turned out so wonderful!
They tell me I'm the coolest Mom ever, so I guess I influenced them a little!
Out of those things you did list as having said to your children which one was most important, or said most often?
At least, whatever else he was, your husband left the field open so far as influencing, and heightened your sense you needed to be a good role model perhaps. :unsure: .
 

fancicoffee13

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Location
Texas
Love, forgive, take one day at a time, stay in church, work hard, take care of your family, and do unto others as you would have them do unto you (in a positive way). Things like that. I also think listening more than talking is important, giving to the poor also.
 
1) Salvation. 2) Raise your children in the church, it will mold them where you cannot. 3) I am the boss, but when you go to college, you must go away to college to grow up and be away from my domination.

1) Both my children, two inlaws, and seven grandchildren are in church almost every service. Four grandchildren have been baptized, six have a profession of faith.
2) My children and grandchildren have a kindness I could never teach them. And, they are servants, yet leaders. One teaches in private, Christian school, the other is a supervisor where they work. Both set good examples of citizenship, and they work in their local churches, as do their spouses.
3) They went away to college.... and never moved back.... I wish they lived closer, but they live where they want to be and work.

They are good parents.... They teach their children 1) salvation..... 2) Raise your children in the church. 3) I am the boss, but don't move away from me.


lol....:D(y)
 

grahamg

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Love, forgive, take one day at a time, stay in church, work hard, take care of your family, and do unto others as you would have them do unto you (in a positive way). Things like that. I also think listening more than talking is important, giving to the poor also.
Are your list of things you've tried to instill in your children in the order of importance as you see it, or are all equally important would you say, (if it is in some kind of order I'd suggest its a pretty good one!)?
 

grahamg

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Ellen Marie wrote:

"1) Salvation. 2) Raise your children in the church, it will mold them where you cannot. 3) I am the boss, but when you go to college, you must go away to college to grow up and be away from my domination.

1) Both my children, two inlaws, and seven grandchildren are in church almost every service. Four grandchildren have been baptized, six have a profession of faith.
2) My children and grandchildren have a kindness I could never teach them. And, they are servants, yet leaders. One teaches in private, Christian school, the other is a supervisor where they work. Both set good examples of citizenship, and they work in their local churches, as do their spouses.
3) They went away to college.... and never moved back.... I wish they lived closer, but they live where they want to be and work.

They are good parents.... They teach their children 1) salvation..... 2) Raise your children in the church. 3) I am the boss, but don't move away from me."


Grahamg's comments:
Once again are your list of things in any order of importance as you see it?
(Good list again ! ):)
 

fancicoffee13

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Location
Texas
Are your list of things you've tried to instill in your children in the order of importance as you see it, or are all equally important would you say, (if it is in some kind of order I'd suggest its a pretty good one!)?
I would say they are in the right order of importance.
 


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