I'm surprised Gary, given your lifestyle over the years.What do you Fear most?
SNAKES
No
Gives me the heebeejeebees to just think about a snake, let alone worst-case scenario
I'm surprised Gary, given your lifestyle over the years.What do you Fear most?
SNAKES
No
Gives me the heebeejeebees to just think about a snake, let alone worst-case scenario
I was around 'em down south.I'm surprised Gary, given your lifestyle over the years.
I have lost loved ones, and believe me, you might not want to go first. They will grieve over your loss, so that in itself is a downer.My only real fear is losing a loved one. I want to go first.
Trouble is, though, if you don't have family who are willing and able to take care of you, the nursing home is where you're likely to end up if you live long enough. For years I've known people who swore they would never put a loved one in the nursing home but had to anyway. And my nephew and niece-in-law have both worked in nursing homes and the places are full of residents who had sworn they'd never end up there. It's sad and I don't want to go into one either but realize that it's most likely in my future.I fear, I suppose, nursing homes. I will not allow myself to be placed in one, no matter what it takes. My daughter worked in one, and I heard plenty of stories.
My ex-husband spent nearly 3 months in a nursing home. He caught Covid at the nursing home, and when he recovered from that, he came down with sepsis. He has other health problems now that were caused by staff negligence - they either didn't notice or they didn't do anything about them, which is their job. He has been in the hospital in the ICU for about 2 weeks. He was finally able to talk to me a couple of days ago and his voice sounded strong for the first time since he broke his ankle.
He is not going back to the nursing home, period. He may go to a rehab center at another hospital once they move him from ICU and see how he's doing.
I agree with you about the nursing homes. I also have heard too many horror stories. There is no reason for him to have gotten sepsis if he was in a nursing facility, which shows he wasn't being monitored.I fear, I suppose, nursing homes. I will not allow myself to be placed in one, no matter what it takes. My daughter worked in one, and I heard plenty of stories.
My ex-husband spent nearly 3 months in a nursing home. He caught Covid at the nursing home, and when he recovered from that, he came down with sepsis. He has other health problems now that were caused by staff negligence - they either didn't notice or they didn't do anything about them, which is their job. He has been in the hospital in the ICU for about 2 weeks. He was finally able to talk to me a couple of days ago and his voice sounded strong for the first time since he broke his ankle.
He is not going back to the nursing home, period. He may go to a rehab center at another hospital once they move him from ICU and see how he's doing.
I will euthanize myself if I get so sick I need to be in a nursing home. I'll be on the way out by then, anyway.Trouble is, though, if you don't have family who are willing and able to take care of you, the nursing home is where you're likely to end up if you live long enough. For years I've known people who swore they would never put a loved one in the nursing home but had to anyway. And my nephew and niece-in-law have both worked in nursing homes and the places are full of residents who had sworn they'd never end up there. It's sad and I don't want to go into one either but realize that it's most likely in my future.
I think maybe I would rather euthanize myself also--if I haven't gotten past the point of sound mind to make the decision due to Alzheimer's or whatever--but then I live in a right-to-die state; there are only 8 (WA, OR, CA, CO, HI, ME, VT, & NJ) here in the U.S.; doesn't look like Pennsylvania is one of them, not at this time anyway.I will euthanize myself if I get so sick I need to be in a nursing home. I'll be on the way out by then, anyway.
I watched my mother suffer in agony while she was hospitalized with various cancers, and taken care of by people who kept saying she could go home soon. Right after I was told she didn't qualify for hospice, the hospice people came to persuade her to go there. She died the next night.
I refuse to ever suffer like that. When I was a teenager, my mom had a book she kept on the coffee table by the Hemlock Society. I was appalled then, but no longer. I believe my mom kept herself alive and went through all the horrible stuff just so she wouldn't have to leave my sister and I alone. The last thing she said to us was to not be afraid if she died. I am pretty sure she didn't mean afraid of her dead body. I think she meant, somehow, not to be afraid because she was no longer with us. Of course, I said, "Afraid? Me? Don't worry about it, not gonna happen." At that point, I thought she was talking about her dead body. She knew me well, so maybe she thought my sister was a wimp.![]()
If I had to, I'd move to ME or VT. I've got all the hospital paperwork handled, so they know I am a DNR patient. Too many stories of people being kept alive, and if the docs succeed, that person has a horrible quality of life. I think quality of life is very important.I think maybe I would rather euthanize myself also--if I haven't gotten past the point of sound mind to make the decision due to Alzheimer's or whatever--but then I live in a right-to-die state; there are only 8 (WA, OR, CA, CO, HI, ME, VT, & NJ) here in the U.S.; doesn't look like Pennsylvania is one of them, not at this time anyway.
I definitely understand. I love reading...it would be a bit difficult losing my vision. But as long as I have my hearing, I can enjoy my music.These are my biggest fears.
One I’m dealing with is the possibility of losing my vision. My vision is destroyed in one eye and the other has problems.
If you don't mind sharing - what fears do you have about the thread?This thread!![]()
itself.If you don't mind sharing - what fears do you have about the thread?