Our son with DS loves Thanksgiving probably more than Xmas. He is a foodie guy. It’s a big thanksgiving week for him. He would have thanksgiving meal at his work place, a restaurant. Then at his sheltered workplace. Then at group home providers main office. Then out to eat with us at our favorite place for the meal.
Then, his favorite aide, has him over to her families Thanksgiving meal. A large Hispanic family who welcome him over. Thanksgiving with our friend and his large family. I tell him we are his “token” white people to prove he is not prejudice. He tells us we are only allowed to come if we bring our DS son, who they love
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Our sons life, during this holiday, is filled with all the people he loves and all food he loves. He has lost all that.
Thanksgiving at his house, which we have always provided but will not be provided this year due to virus concerns by the group home. Food choices will be limited.
And our family gathering which would include my husband and me, my daughter, her husband, her two adult children, one boyfriend, and one grandchild. My son, his girlfriend, his daughter, her husband, her two children. Plus to much food to eat in a week. Gone.
This year he will come to our house and have lunch with us. He will have dinner at the group home. He is very sad, he misses everyone. We are talking to him about it.
I know everyone will struggle this year, those with families and those without. We all have our plans, our normal, which is now, for most of us, gone. But be thankful that you have the ability to understand the reason behind the disruptions in our holiday routines.
Many do not.