Ronni
The motormouth ;)
- Location
- Nashville TN
remember, you have to live the rest of your life with the choices you make in the next few days.. so make them for you...
@hollydolly mentioned this in another thread and I didn’t want to hijack that thread so I decided to make another one. Just last night Ron and I were discussing this concept, how frequently we make decisions based on needs or
references of the grandkids or kids rather than our own.
As we’ve been working to renovate the house, buy or make new furniture, rearrange and decorate we found ourselves falling into the habit of considering decisions based on what would work for the grandkids and in some cases our adult children even more than ourselves.
e.g. The couch can’t be too light in color because it will be too easy for the grands to dirty it. The living room arrangement needs to be this way not that so there’s lots of floor space for the grands to play. The floor lamp should be so and so, we should install a ceiling fan etc because of kids’ preferences rather than our own.
Then we realized how ridiculous we were being. Even though we’re a very close- knit family and we have gatherings here all the time now that everyone is vaccinated, those times still only comprise a very small percentage of our lives. WE live here all the time, therefore WE get to make whatever decisions we want to for US!
We still accommodate the grandkids in many ways. The guest room has a dresser filled with puzzles and books and craft stuff, crayons and markers and stickers, toys and games. There’s a big tub outside in porch area where we spend a lot of time that’s filled with outside toys..water guns and big collecting equipment, chalk, balls, all manner of planes and other things that fly. There’s a couple jars on the kitchen counter that are always filled with granola bars and other snacks, foods in the panty and fridge that we never eat but kids and family do….things like that.
Those of you who have family that visit frequently, what do you do?