What Is Your Greatest Relationship Deal-breaker?

[PamfromTx]

What would be your major deal-breaker that would make you end it with someone you were dating?

<---- has no plans on dating. Too old for that.

 

[davey]

"Great evenin out - sorry about your ripped dress but I'll get back to ya and there's a cheque in the mail for the dress"?

 

[ElCastor]

Strong and unalterable political differences.

 

[Alligatorob]

Looking back, I can see that most of my romantic partners didn't really like me.

Funny how that happens... you'd think it would be a clear deal breaker from the beginning, but its not. All too often.

 

[Tempsontime65]

Ummm... well, not liking the music I dig can get you kicked out real fast....bye!!! refusing a second[McDonald's date]!!

 

[Alligatorob]

Strong and unalterable political differences.

That is usually ok with me, so long as the lady is willing to engage in a reasonable dialog or debate. I find it interesting and often learn things when I disagree with a person.

There are however limits, probably wouldn't want a Nazi or White Aaryan lady.

 

[NorthernLight]

Funny how that happens... you'd think it would be a clear deal breaker from the beginning, but its not. All too often.

At the start, I assumed that they liked me and would continue to like me. When problems started, I thought it was just a misunderstanding and easily fixed. But now I see that they weren't disposed to liking me.

 

[dobielvr]

At the start, I assumed that they liked me and would continue to like me. When problems started, I thought it was just a misunderstanding and easily fixed. But now I see that they weren't disposed to liking me.

I'm sure it wasn't you NorthernLight......it was them.
You may have proven to be too much for them, in a good way, and they couldn't handle it.

So, they bail..

 

[Alligatorob]

At the start, I assumed that they liked me and would continue to like me. When problems started, I thought it was just a misunderstanding and easily fixed. But now I see that they weren't disposed to liking me.

I think it can be hard separating out really liking someone from liking something or some things about them. Either way... Only time seems to tell.

 

[Bella]

Strong and unalterable political differences.

That is usually ok with me, so long as the lady is willing to engage in a reasonable dialog or debate. I find it interesting and often learn things when I disagree with a person.

There are however limits, probably wouldn't want a Nazi or White Aaryan lady.

Learning from someone and disagreeing with them on political issues is one thing, but it affects many important aspects of life and I couldn't constantly be at odds with an intimate partner whose views were very different from mine.

 

[Pookie]

I never really dated but as a teenager, a guy wanted to date me, we went out and on the way to Pizza Hut in his car he gave me a sob story about his dad in jail, Mom on prbation and said the car was maybe stolen from some other family member.

I paid for our meal at Pizza Hut, went to the phone booth there, put my quarter in, called my parents and Dad came and picked me up and brought me home.

With that said, this thing about meeting people on the internet, dating sites and garbage like that going on, why can't people actually get off the damn computer, go out to places and meet people at a nice church, Red Cross organizations, Humane Society stuff, or someplace like that? Join REAL places like community events, neighborhood watch stuff .... ??

When people meet on the computer, oooohh, well, sooo nice ...... and then you're disappointed because they are sponges, want your money, their pics aren't exactly correct, they lied, all of a sudden they have bad credit and want you to copay a car loan, help them with their rent, need help with child support because they are in arrears, need help with traffic tickets ..... the list goes on and on.

Get real, get off the computer. Or stay single. I'd say all of that above is a deal-breaker, unless one is stupid enough to help and not get paid back, then it's on the dummy who let themselves in for a mess and too stupid to see where it was going in the first place.

 

[WheatenLover]

Physical violence - on first dates, I told every guy I dated that if they ever engaged in physical violence, I would have them arrested. So far, no one has ever hit me.
Narcissism
Lying
Oh gosh, the list is so long that I'm going to stop. I will never date anyone again, so it doesn't matter.

 

[Ladybj]

Smoking
A narcissist
Manipulative and controlling
Was physically and mentally abusive in past relationships
Physical and financial infidelity in past relationships
Lack of compassion
Substance abuse

 

[Ladybj]

Top of the list is a woman who tries to manage me; my behavior, habits, interests, etc. I don't do that to women and I don't tolerate them doing it to me.

I also don't tolerate liars, addicts, and slobs, but I can usually identify them by the end of a 1st date, or, if they're really good at the game, by the 3rd date. But at that point there's no deal to begin with, so no deal to break.

You sound like me a little.. I will know quite a bit about a person on the first date. I can't wait until I finish my book. It's amazing to me questions that people are afraid to ask on a 1st date.

 

[Pookie]

Heck, if it were possible, I'd be running credit checks, criminal record checks and everything else I could think of.

Imagine those girls who dated Ted Bundy and lived. Yikes!!

 

[Judycat]

Anyone who enjoys giving me a hard time. By that I mean cruel humor about my upbringing, my family, things that happen to me. Could be the first date or after five years married, I will enjoy giving him the heave-ho. Hopefully it won't kill him accidently, though really, no one needs someone like that in the world.