What to do when you don't enjoy being with certain friends anymore?

Michael Z said:
I know at one point when my mom was in her 80’s, she was uncomfortable talking on the phone for more than a minute. I would learn that this was dementia beginning.

As far as my close friends go, I only have two, so I am hanging on to them, even if things are not quite the same as in years past. I think we are all busier with grown kids and grandkids. And our lives take a slower and slower pace as we get older.
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my mum is exactly the same with telephone conversations now michael.....im always saying .....mum, are you still there ? shes 97
 

Throughout adult years people you meet, bond with, associate with and even take trips with.....come in and out of your immediate life. It doesn't mean you cast them off, they get busy, meet new friends, new interests and so does their mate, if they have one.

I have found that even if you haven't seen someone in several years, when you reconnect, that friendship is still there. The respect for each other is still there, and so you do a few things together again. Often, I remind myself that when you make a friend, unless they deliberately offend you in some way, they are making a pleasant life for themselves, and just because I am not involved, doesn't mean we are any less friends.
I would hate to think that because I don't call of invite them to join me every week, or month, they are less important to me. A good balance of time, interests, and interactions is very important to each one of us.

I have ended friendships over the years, simply because when it weighs on you, and you no longer enjoy their company, it's time to quietly break away. I haven't regretted my moves.
 
There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living
 

My circle has gotten so small. I don't like to be around negative people & so many people are now days. I think the pandemic brought out the worst in people. I go back & forth between wanting to seek out new friends and not. When I was younger all those traits did not bother me. Now that I'm not working I don't have that avenue to meet new people. Maybe I'm just in a winter rut!
 
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