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Another thread reminded me of something.
I used to have a long-time friend who liked to control phone calls – i.e., she called me but didn’t want me to call her at home because she said “I’m never home”. Even when she called from her cell she would leave me vm messages “Don’t call me, I’m never home. I’ll call you tomorrow.” I asked her once where she kept her clothes, and where she took a shower and slept.
But I knew it was really about her weird, controlling husband. He and I didn’t like each other, and she was sneaking…calling me on the sly. She would “allow’ me to call her when he was out of town. For goodness sakes, I felt like we were having an illicit affair. It was creepy and bothered me.
They retired early and lived in another state. No children, a few friends, but her husband’s strange behavior had resulted in her being isolated from her mother (who eventually died) and siblings – they refused to tolerate it and stopped communicating with her. But she was in complete and total denial….gave the word a new meaning. (I talked about them in the "Cheapskate Stories" thread)
Well, about 4 years ago I got sick and tired of going along with the nonsense. It was silly, and an insult to my intelligence. She told me (via email) that I was just being (begins with “b” and rhymes with ‘itchy’.). The upshot is that a 40+ year friendship that began in college ended. I knew I could not win that battle and frankly I didn’t even want to. I was done.
Ever had a relationship with a friend (or relative) that ended because of their spouse/partner?
I used to have a long-time friend who liked to control phone calls – i.e., she called me but didn’t want me to call her at home because she said “I’m never home”. Even when she called from her cell she would leave me vm messages “Don’t call me, I’m never home. I’ll call you tomorrow.” I asked her once where she kept her clothes, and where she took a shower and slept.
But I knew it was really about her weird, controlling husband. He and I didn’t like each other, and she was sneaking…calling me on the sly. She would “allow’ me to call her when he was out of town. For goodness sakes, I felt like we were having an illicit affair. It was creepy and bothered me.
They retired early and lived in another state. No children, a few friends, but her husband’s strange behavior had resulted in her being isolated from her mother (who eventually died) and siblings – they refused to tolerate it and stopped communicating with her. But she was in complete and total denial….gave the word a new meaning. (I talked about them in the "Cheapskate Stories" thread)
Well, about 4 years ago I got sick and tired of going along with the nonsense. It was silly, and an insult to my intelligence. She told me (via email) that I was just being (begins with “b” and rhymes with ‘itchy’.). The upshot is that a 40+ year friendship that began in college ended. I knew I could not win that battle and frankly I didn’t even want to. I was done.
Ever had a relationship with a friend (or relative) that ended because of their spouse/partner?
