Since my husband died almost 12 years ago, it seems that time has just flown by without any notice. I think I was so lost in my grief I was not aware of time. Is that unusual, I don't know. Do I just get lost in my own mind, doing what has to be done with no thought to the passing time. Has anyone had that moment when they realized a big block of time just vanished without really knowing it was happening. I am at that point, I am looking back and thinking if I want to do that I need to get it done. Like travel, just for me. Can I do it on my own? Where do I want to go? What do I want to do? Who do I want to take with me and can they go? So many questions. Is it just better to not think of those things. Save the money in case the s*** hits the fan? I am happy in my simple life but there are some things I would like to see and do again.
Where does the time go?
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Then maybe you should.
hollydolly
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Do not be scared ... I'm very early in my journey without my husband.. only just under 12 months. I might have seemed normal to you all this last year, but I have little recollection of things I've said and done.. particularly in the first 6 months.. yet to everyone else I seemed fine, many didn't even know I was grieving..still am, but with a clearer head finally.. .. Thank Goodness for this forum.. not only for some very good friends who nursed me through the trauma behind the scenes , and who literally saved my sanity.. but also ironically, for being able to see and know what I had written here, albeit with little memory of it.. but I could read back and see my own state of mind...and just be astonished at the little memory I have for so much of it..
Now ..I have plans to travel..I need to travel.. ( airports upside down at the moment so frustratingly I can;t ).. but I will brave it and go on my own.. and enjoy it... I have to.. or be forever stuck in the same every day ritual .. with my mind not making new memories ...so @Blessed, you must start making new memories, enjoying some new thing and experiences.. before you can't...
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katlupe
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If there are things you really want to do and can do, then take that first step toward doing it. Take some short trips somewhere just to see how you do.
There are charter groups who travel together. Long ago I had a neighbor who was elderly and she traveled everywhere by herself. But she went on the chartered trips and made a lot of new friends plus had a wonderful time. She went to Europe and everyone stayed in the same hotel and went on tours together. Had dinner together but you could venture out by yourself if you wanted. She even went on cruises like that and I remember her taking one of the Alaskan cruises and she loved it so much that she did it a couple more times.
There are charter groups who travel together. Long ago I had a neighbor who was elderly and she traveled everywhere by herself. But she went on the chartered trips and made a lot of new friends plus had a wonderful time. She went to Europe and everyone stayed in the same hotel and went on tours together. Had dinner together but you could venture out by yourself if you wanted. She even went on cruises like that and I remember her taking one of the Alaskan cruises and she loved it so much that she did it a couple more times.
@hollydolly and @katlupe thank you for your replies as I sit here with tears streaming down my face. That means so much to me, that someone understands and has word of encouragment. It is a hard thing to admit and even harder to change. At least I have someone who understands and offers encouragement to get out there even if I have to do it alone.