Phoenix
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It's good it works for you. For me, I don't cry because stereo-typically too many women have used that to get their own way. I meditate.
Why do we shout when we’re angry?
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Phoenix
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That's how it usually is for me.I thought I was angry a few moments ago, but I realized I wasn't. I was hurt.
Sometimes Anger hides other feelings.
Camper6
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When you shout when you are angry it sends a message that you are thoroughly pissed off so stay away. It's in our genes. The ones that don't shout have evolved farther from the ape man ancestors.
ClassicRockr
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I have a tendency to raise my voice, which sounds better than saying "shout or yell", when I'm angry. Now, my wife, who has a sensitive personality, and, at times "overly" one, so when she gets angry, she can raise her voice and cry as well. Thank God, I'm able to calm her down and tell her "I'm sorry, I love you", if I create the anger she gets.
Since my working environments have been pretty different than hers, I have a tendency to raise my voice over a tv, A/C and other loud things around me. My wife hasn't worked around machinery, forklifts or in other loud places.
She doesn't like confrontation, if she can help it, but confrontation doesn't bother me. However, I do know who, and who not to, confront.
Since my working environments have been pretty different than hers, I have a tendency to raise my voice over a tv, A/C and other loud things around me. My wife hasn't worked around machinery, forklifts or in other loud places.
She doesn't like confrontation, if she can help it, but confrontation doesn't bother me. However, I do know who, and who not to, confront.
Phoenix
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I don't like confrontation either. Generally it turns out badly. If someone confronts me all the time, I back away, and while I may not say much, underneath it all I may be seething. I find other ways to get over it. When things calm down and during the quiet moments that's the time to address what's wrong. It's good you apologize. The "overly sensitive" part is probably related in part at least to estrogen. The shouting could be related to testosterone. That which makes the differences in the sexes appealing also often creates unnecessary misunderstanding until we learn how to handle it....at least that's how it seems to me.
I apologize for quoting myself, but I realize when I'm hurt and take it for anger I believe I am angry with myself as I've given you (generically) the power to hurt me.I thought I was angry a few moments ago, but I realized I wasn't. I was hurt.
Sometimes Anger hides other feelings.
eta--that I gave up my power and gave it to you. Sorry, sounding confused maybe, but it is a deep subject.
Phoenix
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I remember hearing that kind of things years back, that when someone hurts us, we have given them that power over us. While I believe in someways that's true, I also think that if we don't allow for our natural reactions to something, it damages us.
Phoenix
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Yes. That's how it works. I get tired of the endless circle. I divorced two husbands who tried to control me with their anger.
Well, yes...yes, the effing missing adjectives
Of course the blue color represents the air around me
Hollering guttural words laced with the letters 'G' and D', and of course 'F' are very therapeutic
when venting
