Why I prefer these kinds of forums

Carla, you choose your friends, you choose what to share, you choose a level of privacy for your account.

My sister refuses as well and even though she doesn't like that she missed out on some things because some don't want to send a special email to her when everyone else is notified on FB.
 

Annie, I could see that staying in touch with all those folks on four continents could easily become a full-time job for you, whew! FB sounds like the perfect solution.
 
bluebreezes said:
Annie, I could see that staying in touch with all those folks on four continents could easily become a full-time job for you, whew! FB sounds like the perfect solution.
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It is ideal! I thought FB was for kids and college kids, but when I discovered by sis in law was on it, I joined. One of my favourite stories from when I had first joined was while I was living in Uganda, my sister first grandchild was due. Her DIL went into labour, and my sis in law and I were awaiting the birth in the virtual FB waiting room. Baby was born. Photo of happy new family posted on FB. I didn't miss out and nobody had to make a special effort to email me a photo of the new baby.
 

Ameriscot said:
Carla, you choose your friends, you choose what to share, you choose a level of privacy for your account.

My sister refuses as well and even though she doesn't like that she missed out on some things because some don't want to send a special email to her when everyone else is notified on FB.
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Yes, I understand that. I just chose not to. Here is another point. There are people who have been hurt by viewing FB. My DIL told me she found out out on FB that a relative had died. She said she could easily have missed that info. I no longer have the time or the patience to deal with hurt feelings over day to day issues. I try hard not to hurt other people's feelings but there is a lot of petty stuff I just don't want to hear. I also don't want to partake in drama as maybe I said something to offend someone, now guess what it is b.s. Send me an E-mail, give me a call if I am worth that much trouble, if not, it's fine with me too. Sorry if it sounds harsh. I don't care what anyone else does--it's up to the individual. I may sound like an old crab, I am not. I enjoy talking to people rather than being informed about their lives.
 
I do FB but not in a big way. I have some old friends from many years ago that we were friends on a forum that closed and everyone went to FB. I do not like to post my every day habits on FB or many pics of my grandkids. There are just too many freaks in the world that have nothing better to do than sit at the computer all day and try to find out too much information about you. I have a few friends on FB that seem to be on there ALL day and ALL night! Come on...get a life!
 
QuickSilver said:
I'm not sure where people get he idea that having a FB page means you have to lay out all your personal information.. including your last mamo results and bra size. It is not mandatory. You can if you want to.. but you can do that here if you choose. FB is what you want it to be. You pick who can see your page. and you decide who you accept as friends. I love FB in that it has allowed me to reconnect with old friends and keep in touch with family. It's a valuable form of communication and it's with people I know in real life and have a real relationship with, as well as some new found friends from all over. No one knows my personal business, or knows anything I don't choose for them to know..
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QS, I understand the concept and no, I wouldn't include my bra size or mammo results. It is a form of communication I don't care to utilize. I respect anyone's right to partake in FB, but what I don't understand is the attitude that we all should join. It's not for everyone. There may come a day when I change my mind but right now, I am fine without it. I enjoy forums like this with anonymity. I try not to offend anyone and I do try to value the opinions of others even if I disagree. I do have a problem with sharing too much personal information with others, that is just who I am. I don't criticize anyone that does--maybe I am just introverted.
 
FB, for me, is a way of staying in touch with far flung friends and family that I don't see on a regular basis. Like Maggiemae, it's also a way to stay in touch with a few people from old forums that are no longer in existence. It's a place for photos and cute sayings and jokes, mainly quick stuff.

A forum like this is a place for discussions and exchange of ideas on more serious topics. I've been looking for a Seniors forum for a long time and I'm so glad I happened to find this one. Others I had found were commercially sponsored or had very little activity. This one is vibrant and everyone seems friendly. Many other groups don't allow talk about politics because posts get too nasty. It's nice to find a well moderated forum with people who can sometimes disagree but still be civil to each other and remain friends.

I think I'm going to like it here.
 
I started out with a FB account for only one reason, to have up to date photos,videos and info on the lives of my daughter and family. For this purpose it has worked out well, For awhile I just looked and enjoyed, then I participated a bit. I was lured in. Sure enough a few of my posts were taken the wrong way and words were exchanged. This is when I realized I needed something else. People my own age and a place where I can choose the topics that interest me. I found that here. I still have my FB account but am back to just enjoying my families activities. The closet I've come to a comment is to hit the like button and that is working out just fine.
 
Carla said:
QS, I understand the concept and no, I wouldn't include my bra size or mammo results. It is a form of communication I don't care to utilize. I respect anyone's right to partake in FB, but what I don't understand is the attitude that we all should join. It's not for everyone. There may come a day when I change my mind but right now, I am fine without it. I enjoy forums like this with anonymity. I try not to offend anyone and I do try to value the opinions of others even if I disagree. I do have a problem with sharing too much personal information with others, that is just who I am. I don't criticize anyone that does--maybe I am just introverted.
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I'm like you Carla, from all the negative stuff I've heard about and seen on facebook, it doesn't interest me at all to join, never have. Like you I might change my mind in the future, but I doubt it, I don't do twitter or any other ones either.

The family I keep in contact with is small, I use email, snail mail, phone calls and greeting cards to keep in touch or share photos. My sister gave me her password once so I could see all the photos she had there, but although she didn't seem to post much, some people whose posts were showing on her page were off putting, typical angry type political posts that I'm sure she didn't enjoy either.

I certainly wouldn't want to ban everyone from my facebook page who didn't agree with me and had a different political opinion as mentioned here, if I wanted to do that, I'd pull up a chair in front of my mirror and preach to the choir.

I don't mind if people disagree with me, I don't expect everyone to agree with each other on everything, but as long as they stay respectful and keep a civil tone, all is well with me! :yes:
 
Our family is spread far and wide......China, Australia and USA. We have a private group on Facebook and stay in touch, add photos etc that no one else can see.
 
Sitting up in bed this morning with my breakfast and really enjoying seeing all the photos on Facebook of kids in Halloween costumes - grandkids, all my grandnieces and nephews, grandkids of my cousins, grandkids of friends. Wouldn't see these otherwise as no one is going to bother to attach them an email and send it to me. Snap pic with phone - upload to FB. Easy.
 

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