Would you get a roommate?

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IF there was a situation where you lived alone in a large home with several bedrooms, and everything else was the same, would you consider getting a roommate? For whatever the reason, loneliness, financially, or "X", would you consider getting a roommate, if you had the room?
And why, or why not?
 

I could see accepting a roommate depending on who it was and what our arrangement was. However my current roommate (my wife) takes precedence and is not up for replacement.

Generally though I think I'd rather live by myself in many cases. If having a roommate that I enjoyed allowed me to live in such a way that was more appealing to me than living alone I would consider it. Some of the situations which would be living in a place that provided the type of surroundings I wanted. This would include such as in London during normal times where there were live music shows and the place was near transit lines or living in a place with spectacular views.
 
Absolutely not. I couldn't stand someone living in my home especially sharing my kitchen.
Maybe, and that's a big maybe, I would consider it if I could put in a separate bath and kitchen and even then I probably wouldn't be happy. I love peace and quiet. What if they have the TV or music on all day or half the night? I'd go crazy.
 

I'm absolutely fine by myself.. that's been proved by the 18 years between my divorce and remarriage ... but if I had a large house as suggested in the OP... then yes I'd probably let one of the rooms to a Handyman or woman
 
Been there, done that. Nope. Of course, my house was not big..a 3 bedroom double mobile home. Not a lot of private areas. But when I first moved there, I got room mates for help with expenses. Had three different ones, and none worked out,
I am not saying I was perfect, and the fault all theirs (OK, maybe except for the one who I found out was rather prejudiced, and also "forgot" rent too often).
But decided not again. Until my husband, of course. Even then it was still hard getting used to living with someone.
So, no I would no longer consider it.
 
I would if the only shared areas were the kitchen and laundry room. I'd have them sign a detailed rental agreement, too, even if they're a family member. But if there's any way a room mate could refuse to move out and I'd have to deal with that for months on end, then no.

I'd look into that kind of stuff thoroughly before taking a room mate.
 
If I had a separate mini suite, I’d consider renting it to the right person, if I felt I needed someone close by for health & safety reasons. As Murrmurr said, a detailed rental agreement would go along with that.

When I was a single mom, I rented out a room a couple of times. It wasn’t bad. I was probably less set in my ways & more laid back in those days.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
IF there was a situation where you lived alone in a large home with several bedrooms, and everything else was the same, would you consider getting a roommate? For whatever the reason, loneliness, financially, or "X", would you consider getting a roommate, if you had the room?
And why, or why not?
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If my home was laid out as such where the basement was self-sufficient, and I knew what I was doing was benefitting and truly helping someone out in need of a place to live, I could do it.

My reservation related to such is today's namby-pamby laws, where once you get a renter in, you can't get them out. That's where the fine-line would be for me, that would be a deal-breaker for me.
 
No! not ever! I'd knock out walls and have a huge studio, a huge library and a gym. I'd rather be alone.
I'd rather have a small cottage surrounded by trees and blue flowers than a huge mansion though!
 
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Our house is set up so we could easily rent out the basement. We would have to put in a kitchen but there is a place for that. I am not sure but might consider it if I knew the person.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
IF there was a situation where you lived alone in a large home with several bedrooms, and everything else was the same, would you consider getting a roommate? For whatever the reason, loneliness, financially, or "X", would you consider getting a roommate, if you had the room?
And why, or why not?
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fuzzybuddy said:
IF there was a situation where you lived alone in a large home with several bedrooms, and everything else was the same, would you consider getting a roommate? For whatever the reason, loneliness, financially, or "X", would you consider getting a roommate, if you had the room?
And why, or why not?
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fuzzybuddy said:
IF there was a situation where you lived alone in a large home with several bedrooms, and everything else was the same, would you consider getting a roommate? For whatever the reason, loneliness, financially, or "X", would you consider getting a roommate, if you had the room?
And why, or why not?
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I would consider it but only with my cousin, who is my only blood relative. I currently live with my spouse and son. I have MS, the worse kind. Should my husband predecease me, I wouldn't be able to live alone . (assuming my son lives his dreams far, far away).
 
If I had a larger home, I would sell it (I did). I've been in my own place for over 12 years, and have no desire to have anyone living here with me. I love company, but at the end of the day I need some quiet time just for me. I am rarely bored, and can always call a friend if I need a human voice. I have helped family members who need a temporary space, but that's different, and....it's temporary.
 
no---i sold my mobile home and moved in with my daughter and husband and i hate it--i havent been able to find a place i can afford in a safe neighborhood so i am stuck--my daughter is fine its the other one
 
I have thought a lot the past year about getting a roommate, but the potential problems worry me too much.

When I was in college dorms/apartments, and once as young adult not making much money, I had roommates. One roommate was awesome until she suddenly hated me (I realized years later she probably thought I was in cahoots with her boyfriend who went home on vacation but decided not to return). Then I had another roommate which was awesome except she stipulated we would take turns dusting each week, and I had a couple books on my shelves but she had a myriad of little delicate knickknacks plus a plant with a million leaves. She was still an awesome roommate but I felt the dusting would have been better if we each did our own. OTOH she expressed no complaints about me letting a dirty stray cat sleep in our dorm room.
Then I had another roommate who was awesome except her boyfriend came over when she wasn't there and turned off the air-conditioning, telling me it was nice out and we didn't need it on wasting electricity, and he proceeded to sit at his leisure in front of the opened (screened) patio door while I sweated in the kitchen cooking.

If I had better social skills and assertiveness, and got lucky with a choice of roommates, it would be okay. But I am the type who smiles and nods in agreement to what other people suggest, then I let my true feelings pile up until I all of a sudden am not okay with any of it and want out of the agreement.
I think I'd do better with a relative as a roommate because for some reason I would be more comfortable immediately expressing how I really feel about things.
 

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