Would You Have Kids Again?

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fureverywhere

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Really, if you knew then what you know now, would you have done the same thing? Looking at jujubes lovely picture...I mean I so remember receiving each newborn bundle and that magic that comes with it. I mean if our finances and health allowed for it I probably would have considered doing foster care in my later years, maybe even adopting.
But I had my kids too early and far too many of them without considering the future houseful of teenagers. If I could do it again it would have been getting settled in a career, then one and done. Until I got older and wiser and was ready to be a foster parent. Then again maybe I would have passed on human kids and had a houseful of cats and dogs...:love_heart:
 

Absolutely! We had a plan right from the beginning. Stuck to it, carried it out flawlessly and reaped the huge rewards.
Married at 23 and 18. Enjoyed each other and saved for two years. Had our first boy. We were doing the take your temperature thing and hit it on the first shot. :smug1: Waited two years and had our second boy. Took us two shots to do that, but still pretty good. I do remember coming home exhausted after a party one night and having my Sweetie wave the thermometer at me.:what1:But somehow we managed. :banana:

Yeah the kids were great, but the grandkids were really fun. We were still young enough to roll on the floor and run around the house with them. Yeah. Kids really were us! Do that part of my life over in an eye blink.
 

Dianne and I married fairly young and had our kids fairly young too. In a way we all grew up together. None of the children show any inclination to parenthood and in a way, I don't blame them. The world is in such state that I would worry for their future.
 
fureverywhere said:
Really, if you knew then what you know now, would you have done the same thing? Looking at jujubes lovely picture...I mean I so remember receiving each newborn bundle and that magic that comes with it. I mean if our finances and health allowed for it I probably would have considered doing foster care in my later years, maybe even adopting.
But I had my kids too early and far too many of them without considering the future houseful of teenagers. If I could do it again it would have been getting settled in a career, then one and done. Until I got older and wiser and was ready to be a foster parent. Then again maybe I would have passed on human kids and had a houseful of cats and dogs...:love_heart:
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I have never had kids and never really wanted to. Sometimes when I hear news stories these days I am glad I don't have kids or grandkids who will grow up with that, without having ever experienced life as I knew it as a kid. But then I remember the world is pretty old, lots of kids have grown up and done well, so ...

But when I was young I thought that I would rather raise ponies and dogs and cats than kids! :)
 
Funny how things work out, even as a small child I knew I didn't want children. Instead I had two sons, and two step daughters, and one adopted sons. I loved them all, but I have wondered many times what my life night have held for me without children.
 
Um, not disrespecting girls in the least...I know many mom's who understood their daughters perhaps even more than their male offspring. I tip my hat to all of you really...I sucked at girls. The boys I did splendid with. Fireworks, wrestling, their books, school activities, soccer and basketball, catching frogs and turtles, SEALS weekend camp, shoot my older boy even taught me basic skateboarding. But I was never a girly girl even when I was young. My daughters all but spoke another language.
 
Ina said:
Funny how things work out, even as a small child I knew I didn't want children. Instead I had two sons, and two step daughters, and one adopted sons. I loved them all, but I have wondered many times what my life night have held for me without children.
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Me, too, Ina. I was diagnosed as infertile at age 22, and prescribed birth-control pills to correct the symptoms I was having. I was happy with that news. But four years later I was Mom to my two sons, and foster Mom to two other boys as well...both of them were with me until they turned 18. I could have been more successful professionally, but I believe having been these guys' mother made me a better person than I would have been.
 
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I was married at 19. I chose not to give birth to that man's spawn, I never got pregnant. A decision I've always been happy about. When I did have my first child I was 26 years old. I feel that each and every child I had was a gift. I've been foolish and stupid many times in my life and might regret my own choices and behaviors, but have never regretted my children or when they arrived. Many times I regret my own mistakes I've made with them & thought a child deserved a better mother than I was , but I don't regret anything about them. As it turns out they are the main joy in my life now that I'm older.
 
fureverywhere said:
Really, if you knew then what you know now, would you have done the same thing? Looking at jujubes lovely picture...I mean I so remember receiving each newborn bundle and that magic that comes with it. I mean if our finances and health allowed for it I probably would have considered doing foster care in my later years, maybe even adopting.
But I had my kids too early and far too many of them without considering the future houseful of teenagers. If I could do it again it would have been getting settled in a career, then one and done. Until I got older and wiser and was ready to be a foster parent. Then again maybe I would have passed on human kids and had a houseful of cats and dogs...:love_heart:
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Our children are WONDERFUL, I don't regret having them.:) If I had to do it again, I wouldn't have had the number of animals we had though, especially dogs and cats I was the one who had to look after them!:mad:
 
I wouldn't change a thing. We have a couple of great daughters, who have given us great grandkids, and now the 4th generation of little ones is joining the family. We all get along great, and keep any criticisms to ourselves, and offer advice ONLY when asked. There are certainly some challenges to raising kids, but helping guide them into a sensible and responsible life is a real reward when they show the ability to make their own way through life.
 
One thing about grandchildren is that you can hand them back to their parents when you have had enough of them, thank goodness!:D
 
I have 2 children and they were the best part of my life until they became parents. Then I got 3 precious Grandchildren that I love with all my heart. I would do it again in a heartbeat.
 
Absolutely! My children are the best thing that ever happened to me. And I'm glad I had them when my husband and I were both in our 20's, and had the energy it takes.
 

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