I am sitting tight for now. My beloved wife passed 1/30 this year but right now I don't know what I will do. I am disabled and not wealthy so my choices are limited. My home is paid for.
Yes, I can see where having your home paid for would be an anchor. Our home is paid for also and that is one reason my spouse wants to stay put. This is the only mortgage we have ever paid off and it is a great feeling. It only took us 40 years.I am sitting tight for now. My beloved wife passed 1/30 this year but right now I don't know what I will do. I am disabled and not wealthy so my choices are limited. My home is paid for.
Congrats on your anniversary!! That is really a milestone. I would find it comforting to know you could live with your daughter if you are the survivor.I keep thinking that one of us will be the survivor. I keep telling Mrs Manatee that being female, statistically she is required to out last me, but that is a toss up at best. Our ground floor condo apartment requires far less upkeep than a house. We had our 60th anniversary 2 weeks ago so we are slowing down. Likely the survivor could wind up living with our daughter. We are hoping our daughter will return to Florida.
I'm about in the same situation as you. I live in the mts and I'd be too isolated up here to live on my own. I'd have to move down to the flatlands. Possibly taking turns living with my 3 children who are still alive. It wouldn't be my first choice but it'd have to go on my finances at the time.I would like to stay in my home. For me it would be feasible because my son takes care of a lot of the upkeep, even now. If he should move on I would then move closer to my daughter. I wouldn't want to actually live with my kids even though we are very close. I guess it sounds funny coming from a 74 year old but I've never been on my own. I went from living with my parents to getting married. I'd like the experience of living alone and knowing I was able to do it even if for a short while.
So sorry for your loss, OED. I agree that having one's partner die in a place might make it more difficult to stay. My best friend's fiancee died unexpectedly in her house a few years ago. She went upstairs to bed one Saturday night and left him watching a movie on TV. When she got up the next morning she found that he had died on her sofa and was cold to the touch; apparently a massive heart attack. She never got over it and had to sell her house and had the sofa destroyed.My husband passed away in December. I owned this apartment since I was 24. We didn't get together until 23 years later. So no, I did not need to sell after he passed. I'm glad he didn't pass away in the apartment though.
I agree with Lara. When you are grieving, it is not the best time to make life-changing decisions.Don't make any significant changes financially, location wise, etc until at least a year or two goes by.
Thank you so much C'est Moi. Terrible experience for your friend. My cousin's wife had a very similar experience. They went to bed one night and when she woke up the next morning, he was dead in the bed. He was only in his 30's. I believe they were renting and this was decades ago so I don't know if or how quickly she moved. She never married again.So sorry for your loss, OED. I agree that having one's partner die in a place might make it more difficult to stay. My best friend's fiancee died unexpectedly in her house a few years ago. She went upstairs to bed one Saturday night and left him watching a movie on TV. When she got up the next morning she found that he had died on her sofa and was cold to the touch; apparently a massive heart attack. She never got over it and had to sell her house and had the sofa destroyed.