I'm considering joining a Senior dating site for over 60's.. ..it's not that I want to find a long term relationship... I would just like to find a casual friend basically... Nowdays there's no going down the pub or to a dance hall and meeting a guy like we did in our youth.. and now o/h's been gone almost 2 years it's time for me to start thinking about having a bit of a life before I get too much older... but I have no experience of dating sites per se.. except for some of the horror stories you read about people meeting weirdos and potential axe murderers...
So.. has anyone joined a dating site.. what were your experiences.. and thoughts..
I have. They are depressing, IMO. I also have a theory about Baby Boomer men and here it is: my theory is that so many of them were raised by stay-at-home moms they don't really want a partner who has a full life of her own. Or who still has ambitions and dreams. They want a mother or a nurse. That feels like connection and "love" to them because it reminds them of their mothers, cooking, cleaning and caring for the family.
In other words, "You love me, therefore you cook for me."
Wanna know one of my dreams for the future?
I want to cook for myself only for the rest of my life! Yeah, I'll make a holiday dinner 3-4 times a year. I can do that, but darn it, day-to-day? No more! I'm fine with a big salad for dinner. If you want a 3-course supper, you make it.
All I can imagine is 80% of all Boomer men dumping me if I say that. Because the cooking feels like "love" to them. And yet, not requiring me to cook feels like love to me.
That is also an example of the difference between Boomer Women vs. Boomer Men, IMO - most all the women I know my age want FREEDOM! We are like the slaves of old, finally set FREE! The men? Some want freedom, but some really want to stay home and they expect someone to stay there with them.
I met a Boomer man recently who personified this thing I have seen. He and his wife were about my age, retired, doing great financially, and they were going on an expensive cruise that was going to last a long time, many weeks. Someone asked him how his wife felt about the trip and he literally shrugged and said something like, "It's my money."
He could not care less about how she felt about being trapped on this boat with him for weeks.
It was all about him because he was paying for it and darn it, she is his wife!
IMO, many Boomer men have very traditional thoughts of women, just like their fathers did. This guy was a perfect example of that. An attitude about his wife,
his property, straight out of the 1950s.
LOL, all I could think of listening to this guy was that if I were the woman in this situation, I'd be calling lawyers for a divorce.