Women who constantly seek to be desirable to men

My wife and I were married in 1969. She still dresses cute and sexy for me all the time; she is the spice in my life even after over 50 years together and after raising three wonderful kids. Not to mention having six grandkids and one, so far, great-grand child

I still dress the way she likes me to dress. Our love affair continues...!
 
Rose65 said:
I don't respect such women. We all know them, the ones who set store by their figures and beauty status alone, even in old age. Trying to defy time.

What is that? It's encouraged by TV and media, as if life is primarily about sexuality and desirability. Oh I was intent enough in youth of worrying about men finding me attractive and I basked in it when they did. Now I am old and I think I grew up. I really don't care and I see the absurdity of it.

So how important is attractiveness to the opposite sex in mature years? Surely it is programmed in us as a necessary spur to reproduction rather than a perpetual preoccupation.
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This is a cruel and hurtful post which serves no purpose except to cause harm and division. We really have no right to judge others who are not hurting us because we don't like something about them. It's a free world still, so far, and you can have your opinions but publicly, it's better to spread love and good will than enmity.

And I know I mentioned my 94 year old neighbor before. He calls me love when he sees me and it makes me smile every time. There's nothing wrong with people behaving younger if that's in your heart and you mean no harm.
 
chic said:
This is a cruel and hurtful post which serves no purpose except to cause harm and division. We really have no right to judge others who are not hurting us because we don't like something about them. It's a free world still, so far, and you can have your opinions but publicly, it's better to spread love and good will than enmity.

And I know I mentioned my 94 year old neighbor before. He calls me love when he sees me and it makes me smile every time. There's nothing wrong with people behaving younger if that's in your heart and you mean no harm.
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I agree that judging others appearance just isn't right. Taking pride in how you appear in public is a personal choice.
Even the people in this collection, while not what I would consider having pride in appearance they obviously are comfortable in how they look.
Walmart Fashion Show: 2023 Collection of Craziest Outfits
 
Knight said:
I agree that judging others appearance just isn't right. Taking pride in how you appear in public is a personal choice.
Even the people in this collection, while not what I would consider having pride in appearance they obviously are comfortable in how they look.
Walmart Fashion Show: 2023 Collection of Craziest Outfits
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These types wouldn’t make it past the front door here in Canada. They’d be tagged as indecent which they are. They might even be arrested.
 
@CallMeKate & PeppermintPatty

My apologies to CMK. Wasn't my intention.

Continuing with the Ops post but taking it a step further.

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"So how important is attractiveness to the opposite sex in mature years? Surely it is programmed in us as a necessary spur to reproduction rather than a perpetual preoccupation."

Do you think the Walmart fashion people don't seem to be interested in attractiveness? Do you think programming took place with those people? Do you think the way they look spurs interest in reproduction?
 
Knight said:
Do you think the Walmart fashion people don't seem to be interested in attractiveness? Do you think programming took place with those people? Do you think the way they look spurs interest in reproduction?
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I don't know... but those pics were hilarious. I used to wonder if they actually knew their entire tushy was sticking out, but there are so many of them, they have to know. 🤣 I do think a lot of the "Walmart Shopper" pics are staged, though, don't you? If I'm wrong, I don't wanna know. :sneaky: My favorite was the old dude in the purty red dress. 👗
 
Knight said:
@CallMeKate & PeppermintPatty

My apologies to CMK. Wasn't my intention.

Continuing with the Ops post but taking it a step further.

From the Ops post
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"So how important is attractiveness to the opposite sex in mature years? Surely it is programmed in us as a necessary spur to reproduction rather than a perpetual preoccupation."

Do you think the Walmart fashion people don't seem to be interested in attractiveness? Do you think programming took place with those people? Do you think the way they look spurs interest in reproduction?
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No need to apologize. We didn’t ‘have’ to click on the link. I’m surprised these people weren’t arrested. It’s truly indecent. What people wear in their own homes is none of our business. What people wear at the store is. Nobody should have to be exposed to that type indecent behaviour. That’s just plain rude.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
No need to apologize. We didn’t ‘have’ to click on the link. I’m surprised these people weren’t arrested. It’s truly indecent. What people wear in their own homes is none of our business. What people wear at the store is. Nobody should have to be exposed to that type indecent behaviour. That’s just plain rude.
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When I said I couldn't unsee it, it was because it seared my brain, not because I was shocked or anything. Those Walmart things are always good for a long belly-laugh. 🤣
 
Our Ladies like to be noticed & they certainly like a decent compliment, you noticed them, u open a door, let them go first.
Of course us men are taken advantage of. Why else?
 
The main reason we Muslim women are told to cover, not accentuate our beauty (aka breasts, butt, etc) is so that men won't look at us lustfully. The first thing a man should be attracted to is our intelligence, grace and class. I've told my granddaughter...be classy, not trashy. When men see a woman who is letting it all hang out, of course they think she wants them to see her goodies and some act accordingly. This comes off as being disrespectful, even if it is not meant to be. And some women do dress in a provocative manner because they think it makes the look "hot" and they do want men to come on to them. That sets the tone for a relationship based on lust, not mutual respect IMO.
 
OneEyedDiva said:
The main reason we Muslim women are told to cover, not accentuate our beauty (aka breasts, butt, etc) is so that men won't look at us lustfully. The first thing a man should be attracted to is our intelligence, grace and class. I've told my granddaughter...be classy, not trashy. When men see a woman who is letting it all hang out, of course they think she wants them to see her goodies and some act accordingly. This comes off as being disrespectful, even if it is not meant to be. And some women do dress in a provocative manner because they think it makes the look "hot" and they do want men to come on to them. That sets the tone for a relationship based on lust, not mutual respect IMO.
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You know, maybe just me but, that just sounds like an excuse for men to behave inappropriately to women who they have judged to be deserving of disrespect because of the way they dress and, in my opinion, it is disrespectful :confused: It really smacks of the attitude that, should a man be disrespectful to a woman than she probably deserved it

Thankfully, there are many men who are grown up enough to realise that women are not necessarily motivated by a desire to tempt men into coming on to them. 🤷‍♀️

On this subject @OneEyedDiva we absolutely disagree :)
 
OneEyedDiva said:
The main reason we Muslim women are told to cover, not accentuate our beauty (aka breasts, butt, etc) is so that men won't look at us lustfully. The first thing a man should be attracted to is our intelligence, grace and class. I've told my granddaughter...be classy, not trashy. When men see a woman who is letting it all hang out, of course they think she wants them to see her goodies and some act accordingly. This comes off as being disrespectful, even if it is not meant to be. And some women do dress in a provocative manner because they think it makes the look "hot" and they do want men to come on to them. That sets the tone for a relationship based on lust, not mutual respect IMO.
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I understand your point, Diva. I too prefer to dress modestly, although my idea of modest is not exactly the same as traditional Islamic clothing. I don't much care for men who want to parade around showing all their wares to everyone.
 
George1959 said:
I see it the same way as Trish. There is absolutely no reason for a woman to cover sexy parts of their body and much less their hair only because some men might react in a lustful way. It's the men who should tame their desires.
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The only article interview I ever walked away from completing was on this subject. The interviewee said, and I quote, "She should have seen it coming. I mean look at what she was wearing." Unquote. The subject concerned a brutal rape that had happened. A RAPE! And some #$#! thought it was deserved! I didn't trust myself to respond because I could have very well gotten blacklisted for slapping or tongue-lashing a witness.
 
CallMeKate said:
The only article interview I ever walked away from completing was on this subject. The interviewee said, and I quote, "She should have seen it coming. I mean look at what she was wearing." Unquote. The subject concerned a brutal rape that had happened. A RAPE! And some #$#! thought it was deserved! I didn't trust myself to respond because I could have very well gotten blacklisted for slapping or tongue-lashing a witness.
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Totally agree, CMK. There is no excuse for rape, just as there is no excuse for murder or torture.
 
CallMeKate said:
The only article interview I ever walked away from completing was on this subject. The interviewee said, and I quote, "She should have seen it coming. I mean look at what she was wearing." Unquote. The subject concerned a brutal rape that had happened. A RAPE! And some #$#! thought it was deserved! I didn't trust myself to respond because I could have very well gotten blacklisted for slapping or tongue-lashing a witness.
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I would have walked away too @CallMeKate.

It beggars belief that anyone could try to justify any attack by blaming the victim but, it happens a lot. Years ago a friend of mine had met up with friends after work. Later she took the bus home, which stopped two streets from where she lived. On the short walk to her house, she was attacked. I remember her telling me afterwards that she had lost count of the amount of people who asked her "What on earth were you doing walking home on your own at night?"
 
Trish said:
You know, maybe just me but, that just sounds like an excuse for men to behave inappropriately to women who they have judged to be deserving of disrespect because of the way they dress and, in my opinion, it is disrespectful :confused: It really smacks of the attitude that, should a man be disrespectful to a woman than she probably deserved it

Thankfully, there are many men who are grown up enough to realise that women are not necessarily motivated by a desire to tempt men into coming on to them. 🤷‍♀️

On this subject @OneEyedDiva we absolutely disagree :)
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What exactly do you disagree with?!
~It's a fact that some women who dress in revealing clothing do it to attract the attention of men. The operative word here is some. Unfortunately what they don't realize is that once they turn a guy on, it may be hard to turn him off.

~I should have stated that some men act in disrespectful manner with women they see dressed in revealing clothing. The operative word here again is some. Do you disagree with that? I would venture to guess that most men do not behave that way.

~Not one thing I pointed out was meant to say that women dressed in a sexy manner is a good excuse for men to behave badly. I just stated facts as I know them from what I've seen when I used to go clubbing, from what my husband has told me of what he's seen and from what my son has told me about what he witnessed when he was deejaying in clubs.

So it seems to me we are more in agreement than disagreement!
 
Warrigal said:
I understand your point, Diva. I too prefer to dress modestly, although my idea of modest is not exactly the same as traditional Islamic clothing. I don't much care for men who want to parade around showing all their wares to everyone.
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I'm glad you understand Warrigal. I have never worn traditional Islamic hijab, but I do dress modestly. I have always loved long, flowy clothing (think Dorothy in Golden Girls) and comfortable slacks or jeans that are not tight. I wear long dresses or long skirts and love the fact that I haven't had to deal with pantyhose in decades! Those darned things were a pain and often would get runs after just one or two wears. And I always found that the more expensive ones got runs quicker.
 
I dress very modestly also. I never show off my legs. I’m almost always wearing leggings that aren’t tightly fitted. My shirts are always extra large and never form fitting. I’ve usually got a thin sweater like piece of clothing covering my arms, usually even in summer.
I definitely dress very modestly and it makes me feel comfortable.
 
Trish said:
You know, maybe just me but, that just sounds like an excuse for men to behave inappropriately to women who they have judged to be deserving of disrespect because of the way they dress and, in my opinion, it is disrespectful :confused: It really smacks of the attitude that, should a man be disrespectful to a woman than she probably deserved it

Thankfully, there are many men who are grown up enough to realise that women are not necessarily motivated by a desire to tempt men into coming on to them. 🤷‍♀️

On this subject @OneEyedDiva we absolutely disagree :)
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I thought she was quite clear in her message.
No she didn’t deserve it. Unfortunately some men take sexy clothing as an invitation to come on to them or attack them.

Women should be able to wear what they want . Unfortunately there sometimes are needless consequences for doing so. This isn’t to say ‘women who dress sexy, deserve
to be attacked.’
 
PeppermintPatty said:
I thought she was quite clear in her message.
No she didn’t deserve it. Unfortunately some men take sexy clothing as an invitation to come on to them or attack them.

Women should be able to wear what they want . Unfortunately there sometimes are needless consequences for doing so. This isn’t to say ‘women who dress sexy, deserve
to be attacked.’
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I thought she was quite clear too. I also thought my response was pretty clear. (y)
 


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