Should Dad be there at the start ?

Wren

Wren

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One in five fathers did not attend the birth of their child a study has found, and one in ten skipped two or more births.
Work, traffic, and even watching football were among the main excuses, but in some cases the moms did not want their partners to be present

Dads, were you there at the birth of your children or, Moms, did you want your your husband with you ?
 

I would have loved to have had my husband with me. We did not have a hospital on our common-defense installation, just a clinic, so expectant mothers were sent about 10 days before due date to the hospital in Ankara. Off I go and the doctor says I won't deliver for at least two more weeks. My husband was going to catch a flight in a week and stay on leave until I deliver. Well, nobody told the baby and she promptly pops out bright and early the next morning.

I have a male doctor and a male corpsman as my companions for the blessed event.

I rushed to the hospital when my daughter went into labor and the first thing she said when she saw me was, "I WANT DADDY HERE!!!" So, he was there for the whole thing (at the head of the bed, of course, comforting my son-in-law......I was taking care of the bottom of the bed and got to "catch" my granddaughter!)
 
When I had my first child a son Father's weren't allowed in the delivery room. When I had my second child my daughter my husband was allowed in the room until a problem arose and he had to leave the room. He was worried but honestly by the look on his face he looked happy that he wouldn't be in there. Thankfully everything turned out fine and my baby girl was alright.
 
I've had three babies and my husband wasn't present at any of the births. The second two were born at home so he could have been, but I didn't want him there and that was that. He waited outside the door and saw his sons minutes after they were born.
 
I had just got a promotion from warehouseman to Outside Sales, where I got my own sales route. On the day of my daughters birth, my "ex" and I knew I'd be on that route. There were no cell phones back then (1976). Being this was the first day for me, I wanted to show the Sales Manager that I could handle doing a Route. I told a grocery store manager that my wife was having our baby and he told me "get your butt out of here and go to the hospital". By that time, my daughter was already born and her, my "ex" and her mom were on their way back to our apartment.

My wife agreed with me about going on the Route for the first time, but I truly believe that she didn't like it. Less than a year after my daughter was born, she met another guy, at her brothers business, and filed divorce on me.
 
When my kids were born it wasn’t allowed. He was with me through labor though but when they took me to delivery he wasn’t there...with no epidurals then, I didn’t much care at that point.

Had a very long and painful labor with my daughter ...close to 30 hours.

Wasnt so bad with my son but they induced him.
 
I have five kids. They were natural births, at home. My ex-husband was there for all of them, along with my closest friend who acted as an additional coach and helper.
 
Our 4 kids were born in the "waiting room" era for husbands, 1957-62. You could sit bu your wife while waiting for the big event but when the moment arrived you were ushered out into the "waiting room" with any other expectant fathers that happened to be present. No discussions about staying or not staying, it was hospital policy.
 
My husband was there for all three of our children’s birth, to tell you the truth my eyes were closed on the delivery I thought it was pretty scary looking at it and it sure does kill the romance when your husband is looking there and seeing that scary event as well, but I wouldn’t change it for the world he needs to be there to welcome his children into the world just like I need to be there to welcome my children into the world This was back in the 80s and early 90s
 
My husband was there for my daughter's birth and I'm glad he was. Never mind that he fell asleep during labor, he was there for my delivery. I had a hard delivery and frankly I'm glad he saw what I went through. The miracle of birth is something he won't forget.
 
For the birth of my/our first child, my husband was on the golf course. He'd dropped me off at the hospital then gone off for his usual game of golf.

For my second child, he was well over 200k away, attending a dog race. He thought my labour would be longer.

In both cases, he didn't turn up for two to three days after the birth to look at his child.
 
I was there when our first daughter was born....the doctor had me wait in an adjacent waiting room during the final moments, but I was allowed back in within a few minutes. When our second daughter was born, I was thousands of miles away in Thailand.
 
Yes, dad should be there. After all, he's partly to blame.
Maybe I should re-phrase that. He's partly responsible.....
:LOL:
 

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