Regrets I've had too many

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hypochondriac

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Here's my list--
-should have addressed my anxiety issues when I was in my twenties
-should have saved more money for retirement
-should have had kids...well my finances might disagree with that
-should have addressed lack of confidence in my twenties
-shouldn't have quit jobs so easily
-should have learnt to hang in there when the going got tough
-should have met the right mentors/advisers
-should have never smoked
-should have never gambled
-should have made a bigger impact on the world
 

hypochondriac said:
Here's my list--
-should have addressed my anxiety issues when I was in my twenties
-should have saved more money for retirement
-should have had kids...well my finances might disagree with that
-should have addressed lack of confidence in my twenties
-shouldn't have quit jobs so easily
-should have learnt to hang in there when the going got tough
-should have met the right mentors/advisers
-should have never smoked
-should have never gambled
-should have made a bigger impact on the world
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Gosh, I think I could have made the same list! I've regretted never having had children or getting a good, high paying job and having a fantastic career, too.
 
At the moment my biggest regret is not saving more for retirement or semi retirement. I had some good well paid jobs but couldn't hang in there. I just needed a bit more patience and grit. A bit more determination. I was nearly there. But no I said "this is too tough. Im outta here."
 
I'll be that someone. :)

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As you get older though, your past gets huger as your future shrinks.
Fortunately I have some great memories. My life has been truly blessed. But who wants to hear about my successes? my joy? my achievements? people want to hear where I screwed up, don't they?
 
hypochondriac said:
As you get older though, your past gets huger as your future shrinks.
Fortunately I have some great memories. My life has been truly blessed. But who wants to hear about my successes? my joy? my achievements? people want to hear where I screwed up, don't they?
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I thought Americans rejoiced in people successes...it's the British who like to build people up to knock 'em down.. ( lots of truth in that sadly)...

...sooo, don't be a debbie downer, ... pick yerself up and lets here about your achievements, and successes... . (y)
 
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Yeah I have regrets, things I should have done differently. I was a different person back in the day, and these 'regrets' or 'life experiences' I believe have helped make me what I am today. Hopefully a better person with a better understanding of it all.

I had an old foreman once tell me, "If you don't mess up once in a while, ya ain't doing nothing."
I've kept that thought with me..
 
I can't say that I have any big regrets but I do get a little bit sad knowing that a few of the things that I dreamed of doing are no longer possible at this point in my life.

Time to make a new list!:)

“If you cannot see the bright side of life, polish the dull side.”― Christina Dodd
 
Heres another one. As a teenager telling my mother I wish I hadnt been born.
My parents were the salt of the earth decent. They deserved better. Much better.
 
here goes then...……………………...
regret--getting married ' wanted to stay single 'be free '
wish I saved when younger more ,
regret seeing more of the world we live in ..wanted to travel far more !
regret not having more will power with sweets ……..lol
biggest regret is not becoming a pro skater .
 
Strange how we Brits seem to love "heroic failures" and are sometimes too quick to criticise success.
Of course I've got plenty of regrets. I often feel I should have chosen my parents more carefully, but I've got on OK in life , more in spite of than because of them .

I sometimes wish I had taken more risks in the past instead of steering a safe course. I justify that by saying that I ensured a safe, moderately comfortable life for my family, but maybe I could have given them a lot more.
 
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Strange how we Brits seem to love "heroic failures" and are sometimes too quick to criticise success.
Of course I've got plenty of regrets. I often feel I should have chosen my parents more carefully, but I've got on OK in life , more in spite of than because of them .

I sometimes wish I had taken more risks in the past instead of steering a safe course. I justify that by saying that I ensured a safe, moderately comfortable life for my family, but maybe I could have given them a lot more.
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I made some good decisions by the grace of God. Marrying my partner was one.
 
My list boils down to this. I regret letting the negative comments of others (especially those of my immediate family when I was a child) define me. Despite having risen above many challenges in my lifetime, I can still hear their words...'you'll never amount to anything', 'no one will ever love you'. My self-confidence was eroded before I was out of elementary school. I eventually worked past all of that but I regret that I carried their words like a satchel of heavy rocks on my shoulders for so many years.
 
I began my list by regretting not studying in school. I could have easily been a straight A student. Then gotten a scholarship, etc. .......But then IF I HAD been a better student, I wouldn't have had the life I did live. It really wasn't that all screwed up with lost opportunities. I'm not sure "regret" is the right word for me. No, I'm not a billionaire, a greek god, nor a famous person; I'm me. And I'm not that unhappy with me.
 
I lived with many regrets for a long, long time. A disastrous marriage was the first thing on the list, though there were others too not quite as all encompassing, but still, other things that I deeply regretted.

But see, I finally realized that for most everything I regretted having done or not done, in that moment I felt that I was making the best decision possible, with all the information I had at the time. It's only in hindsight, with a wealth more information at my disposal, or with a totally unexpected and unplanned for outcome, that I can see how bad the decision actually was.

Even in my marriage, my husband at the time time we married was not the nasty, abusive, negative and wholly toxic person he became . If he were, I can guaran-damn-tee you I wouldn't have even talked to the man, let alone become involved!!

Even those few times were I knew I was making the wrong choice from the outset, I was in a situation where I simply had no other option, because of logistics, or finances or extreme pressure or whatever.

So I've learned to temper my regrets with a dash of cutting myself some slack and the sure knowledge that the wisdom and experience I've gained as a result of making all those wrong decisions had led to a much better ability to make the right ones now. ;) (y)🎉
 
Regrets? Not many....when I think about what I coulda done better, I always ask: would I go back and change it if I could? The answer is always NO.
I really wouldn't change much about what I did, no horrible choices and I'm happy with where I ended up and how my life was lived.

But Jeeeez I shoulda put away more $$......! :ROFLMAO:
 

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