Which do you think is more the marrying kind-men or women, both?

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As a boy I can tell you teenage girls think of marriage way more than boys. I don't think the marriage gene kicks in until the late 20s for men- for women it's never off. But ,while the timing to wanting to marry may strike men and women at different times, the idealized life of the house with the picket fence, kids and pets is equal in both men and women. That's my two cents.
 

Then I'm not your typical 'girl'. Never wanted a family and even wrote a poem in high school about not wanting the house with the picket fence. I would've married if I'd ever found a guy who didn't want kids and was okay with living in a house with separate his/her suites. So... lol ...I've never married!
 
I feel that many girls nd women back in the 50's and 60's when I was a teenager felt that to catch a lad or older male and get them up the aisle was foremost. Some lads and men didnt want the commitment and shied away but many did wed and want to and remember those Shotgun Weddings?

However, times have changed havent they?And traditions have changed drastically in many ways. I do think that many girls and women like the Marriage scene still and like to be woo'd.I like that word.

I wed at 21 to my long -standing boyfriend in 1964. It was mutual no pressure from me we just wanted to be together as Husband and Wife and have children.
 
StarSong said:
Absolutely agree, RR. Particularly as we drift into senior years, the less interested women are and the more interested men seem to be.
Lots of guys looking for a nurse with a purse...
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Back when I was 18 I told my parents if I didn't get married by age 25 I would commit suicide. I got married at 19 1/2. I think it was my fear of being called a ''spinster''. After I got divorced I didn't really care if I got married again, and never did, I am too much an individual and hate to compromise, like to do things my way. If I got remarried, it would have never lasted anyway. I agree with what StarSong and RR said re older men looking for someone to take care of them.
 
wow are we being cynical and bitter lol --I do find a lot of people become bitter when they divorce '
and anti men/women/ so far I would say both sexes are the marrying kind ' how can you say one and not the other '
plus there is a lot of older women to who are looking to be comfortable in later years !!
 
I think it changes with age.

When younger, women are wired to think about children and security and that usually comes with marriage. Young men are all about having fun without responsibilities. Maturity brings marriage thoughts to both sexes equally.

Past child bearing and rearing age, women like the freedom of a single life. Older men like marriage because it usually brings the guarantee of companionship so they don't have to search for it anymore.

NOTE: Exceptions to all rules, of course.
 
CarolfromTX said:
These days, it would seem neither. Living together without benefit of marriage almost seems to be the norm.
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The only reason I got married was to have kids, with all of the legal ramifications that go along with that. Nowadays, it seems very few people feel that even that is necessary. Were I younger, again, I'd still not want to have kids without marriage, but that's just how I was raised. I guess if I was of the current child rearing generation, maybe I'd feel differently, although I doubt it.

As far as living together: Yeah, Janet and I are coming up on fifteen (mostly) happy years together. I am not one to want the government telling me how to conduct my relationships, vis a vis marrage and divorce laws, so there's no way I'd ever remarry, unless I was going to have more kids, a true nightmarish thought, at my age!
 
I feel there is still a leaning and for many a yearning for commitment between a couple even now in these so-called enlightened times. Impo, a good strong marriage can bring stability and security to a relationship and security to any children. Sadly when a marriage fails it can and does bring heartbreak to the whole family unit family especially if it's a bitter break-up.

History can repeat itself and maybe if society as we know it sinks to an all-time low regarding behaviour and morals, and it's heading this way for sure, and maybe just in the Western World; when a sense of fear and regret will turn history around and try to turnthe clock back to some semblance of order.

Crikey...Im worn out conveying all that onto my small Android...typos galore😆
 
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AnnieA said:
Then I'm not your typical 'girl'. Never wanted a family and even wrote a poem in high school about not wanting the house with the picket fence. I would've married if I'd ever found a guy who didn't want kids and was okay with living in a house with separate his/her suites. So... lol ...I've never married!
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You sound a little like my daughter..she is 27 yrs old. She is a beautiful young lady. She lives alone, no kids. She informed me that she is not sure if she will marry. I am at the point where I am accepting it..but its hard, however it is her life and I want her to be happy whatever decision she makes. She has to live her life, not live her life as I see fit for her. But I do foresee marriage for her and a Gbaby would be a HUGE PLUS....Let us Pray 🙏 lol.
 
StarSong said:
Absolutely agree, RR. Particularly as we drift into senior years, the less interested women are and the more interested men seem to be.
Lots of guys looking for a nurse with a purse...
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God forbid anything happen to hubby before me. I will be looking for a man with a financial plan (already in place)..lol I have to say there are a lot of older men in good health and enjoy doing things in life.. that would be my type of guy. However, not looking to marry again. He would have to be a HECK OF A GUY....PLUS a bit more for me to consider marriage...lol
 
Ladybj said:
You sound a little like my daughter..she is 27 yrs old. She is a beautiful young lady. She lives alone, no kids. She informed me that she is not sure if she will marry. I am at the point where I am accepting it..but its hard, however it is her life and I want her to be happy whatever decision she makes. She has to live her life, not live her life as I see fit for her. But I do foresee marriage for her and a Gbaby would be a HUGE PLUS....Let us Pray 🙏 lol.
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My parents have always been okay with it, thankfully. And I'm the oldest. My sister married at 30 and they never pressured her either. It's not like I didn't always have boyfriends when younger but around the mid 20s when people tend to marry around here, the kids thing became a deal breaker. I broke up with two great guys after they proposed because they wanted children and I didn't. That's not an issue for which you can hash out a compromise.
 
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AnnieA said:
My parents have always been okay with it, thankfully. And I'm the oldest. My sister married at 30 and they never pressured her either. It's not like I didn't always have boyfriends when younger, but around the mid 20s when people tend to marry around here, the kids thing became a deal breaker. I broke up with two great guys after they proposed because they wanted children and I didn't. That's not an issue for which you can hash out a compromise.
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I feel my daughter may marry late in life if ever which I have accepted. She has been hurt by a couple of guys so I do understand. However, I have shared with her, do not allow anyone to determine your future. Those guys I am sure have gone on with their life.
 
I agree, there's no compromise when it comes to children, even when dad stays home with them instead of mom.

Many, many people bear children while secretly afraid they won't "love" the child enough, only to be overwhelmed by deep love and gratitude after all.

But some people know deep in their souls, it's not for them. One has to do what one knows is best all around.
 
My 19 year old GD is at Uni studying for her chosen career Journalism. She is very focused and wants to travel when she can. She has not had a boyfriend and shows no sign of wanting one in a romantic relationship but she has boy friends who she goes around with and is happy.
 
CarolfromTX said:
These days, it would seem neither. Living together without benefit of marriage almost seems to be the norm.
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This is just my humble opinion but in some circumstances I think the government has a little to do with that for older adults. Once a spouse pass away and the other collect SS.. that will go away if you marry again and some people are not in a position to loose their SS because their new spouse is not financially secure. I know of a few instances. Young adults, I agree..however they are not thinking long term.
 
RadishRose said:
I agree, there's no compromise when it comes to children, even when dad stays home with them instead of mom.

Many, many people bear children while secretly afraid they won't "love" the child enough, only to be overwhelmed by deep love and gratitude after all.

But some people know deep in their souls, it's not for them. One has to do what one knows is best all around.
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I feel my daughter would be an awesome mom and she will know what it feels like to feel unconditional love for a child. 🙏
 
Ladybj said:
Young adults, I agree..however they are not thinking long term.
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Maybe they are but just view it differently than we did. Maybe they grew up having step-parents, step-siblings, half siblings--this seems to be a common occurrence while I never saw this at all as a kid.
 

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