Who is there to get angry with?

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grahamg

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My dear mother used to talk about the need to get ones anger out, maybe when playing rough sports like rugby, American football, or whatever.

My question is for those isolated who is there to be angry with, when the mood takes you?

I'm not talking physical abuse here okay, just when your day isn't going too well staring at four walls, what should you do to relieve the feeling there must be more to life than this?

If you have a pet, or other animal, you can at least tell them how you're feeling, but just maybe, our governments, at least right now, haven't factored in how long mere men (and women), can remain effectively in solitary confinement for so many (okay a walk or run in the park is permitted so long as you don't socially interact). Its got to be done for now, I accept that, but for months on end, with no definite idea how any country gets out of this situation(?).
 

I'm not staying in so, I can't say, but I'm getting yelled at a lot for really stupid (to me) things by other people because everyone is so on edge due to this virus and I understand that. Still, it's not good. Maybe keeping occupied with a project could help? IDK.
 

I seem to be feeling anger more often as this lock-down continues - mainly because I read too much. So, you would think that I would just choose to do something else, right? Well, I'm failing to redirect myself bigtime and the pressure is building. I would go to the back yard and try primal screaming, but I fear the neighborhood would call the men in white coats. If the weather ever stabilizes, I can get outside to do heavy yard-work. That should help. (I hope!)
 
Stop reading or listening to the news about all of this as it is depressing as hell and be thankful that you aren’t dying of it. Focus on something else.: anything else except the people who are getting snappy. People are strange.
 
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I think that what gets expressed as anger is actually stress. These days if it's too crummy out to walk, I stair climb 100X on the two steps inside my house, hop as high as I can while holding onto a kitchen counter, do standing push ups against that same counter, walk a loop inside my house, and do other physical exercises to relieve the stress.

I often have a jigsaw puzzle set up on my dining room table and divert my mind with that for an hour or so at a time. I read fiction on my tablet, watch Netflix or Prime. No commercial TV unless it's on the DVR and I can zip through commercials, and no broadcast news whatsoever.

I get all my news from the Internet, meaning I decide what and how much of a topic I want to read. Certain politicians and biased newscasters who raise my ire are refused entry in my home and my psyche - it's surprisingly easy to avoid extra stress when you take full control of who and what you allow to yammer at you.

That's how I keep my stress levels down.
 
I am so grateful that the weather here has been mild, because it allows me to get outside and garden. I'd love to go to my favorite nurseries and buy the annuals that give my porch pots their riots of color and texture, but that's not happening right now, so I've made do with the plants that my grocery store has for sale outside. Not the kind of arrangement I typically do, but I'll take it.

I bought vegetable plants there too, and have planted the veggie garden, brought a bunch of my houseplants out and arranged them on the porch like I do every year, and just generally stay busy outside. Even pulling weeds is therapeutic for me right now.

I also go for walks around the neighborhood, not the kind of power walking I do for exercise, just strolls up and down the streets, noticing people's yards, their plants, waving to the few people who are sitting outside or doing their own garden work.

It's a much slower pace than I'm used to, but I stay busy and productive because it's the only way I've found to keep my heightened anxiety at bay.
 
IrisSenior said:
You could call someone.
Go for a walk.
Scream into a pillow.
Stop reading all the news about Covid-19.
Be thankful every day for what you DO have.
Come here and talk to us.
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A great response! I might add:
Read a good book.
Start an excercise regimen.
Write a letter (remember those? :))
Watch internet videos on subjects that interest you.
Start an email dialog with a friend or acquaintance.
Clean and/or organize something.
Start a diary.
 
I do get disgusted at how easily many humans panic. One thing to take all precautions, another to get hysterical over it.
 
I was sent to a forum that was held by a Psychologist and was “How to deal with difficult people.” When or if you have a job that causes you to deal with people, you soon learn that there are many different types of personalities. As an airline pilot, you need to learn these personalities and how to deal with them. Not everyone has a personality that will cause concern, but then again, a few do.

That forum was held not long after I started working at United. The thing that I liked most about this forum was that it was held as a round table type where everyone was given an opportunity to speak, or ask questions. The Psychologist also asked a few people what made them angry. Everyone that was asked that question gave an answer about when they were driving. It seemed to me that driving may bring the worse out in people.

I grew up in a peaceful home and tried to continue with that type of home when I had my family. I rarely get mad (angry, is there a difference?), but yes, I can hold my own if engaged in a confrontation.
 
"Lock Down?" I've been going out every day ever since this started. I've been visiting friends & bringing my elderly friends food & supplies. From the traffic, not many people are staying home, either.
 
RadishRose said:
I want to see that! :ROFLMAO: :love:
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A few weeks ago I wanted to get something from an upper shelf over my counter. Hubby wasn't handy so I figured I'd just hop up and get it myself. I was incredibly dismayed that I couldn't hoist myself up on that counter. I had to get a stool! (Are you kidding me?) It bummed me out to the point where I decided I'd do something about it.

Starting that very day I began working on regaining the ability to hop up/hoist myself up on that counter - and am now to the point where I can get up there with ease. I do at least one set of 20 repetitions each day. Same with the push ups.
 
win231 said:
"Lock Down?" I've been going out every day ever since this started. I've been visiting friends & bringing my elderly friends food & supplies. From the traffic, not many people are staying home, either.
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Traffic is down dramatically in my area. We went grocery shopping yesterday for the first time in over a week and were out less than two hours, all told. Even local main arteries were nearly empty.

In fact, with the exception of those working in essential jobs you're the only Californian I personally know of, in cyberspace or otherwise, who continues to go out every day.

You're clearly enjoying thumbing your nose at the rules. I hope that doesn't come back to haunt you or your elderly friends.
 
Traffic is down and tickets are being given for those not practising social distancing. The fine is $2,500 and 75 have been handed out in our general area. Police are also stopping cars and asking where people are going. We don’t yet have a lock down but it ‘could’ happen.

Even where we live is eerily quiet. Normally there is an occasional car or pedestrian on our road but it’s been barren lately. I’m still looking forward to another month when annual flowers can be bought at the grocery stores. 🥰
 

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