Senior Views on Spanking - Were You Spanked, Did You Spank Your Kids?

I was spanked twice .. I don't remember what for. I ran away from Mom wielding the wooden spoon. We were all good kids. I was the one who tested the boundaries :)

Only once, when our daughter was around 3 yrs. old, my husband spanked her on the thigh. She was in such shock to have been spanked .. and he felt so bad. After that, there were no more spankings.
 
I was never spanked as a child. My Mom would threaten me and my sister with the wooden spoon but never used it. I have never spanked my children. They said that the look I gave them when they did something wrong was enough to make them never do it again.
 

I was beaten as a child with whatever my mother could lay her hands on. She mostly used dad’s leather belt and hit with full force, bleeding swollen welts up and down my back. In junior high, I used to change clothes in my locker to avoid anyone seeing. For some reason, I was embarrassed and ashamed. If I cried, she put me in a bath full of steaming hot water. I was also slapped. She broke my nose.

My father used his fists.

Gently spanked my daughter once. Gently Slapped my teenage son, once, when he called me the c word. She remembers the spanking because of the circumstances and still thinks it’s funny. He doesn‘t remember.
 
Aneeda72 said:
I was beaten as a child with whatever my mother could lay her hands on. She mostly used dad’s leather belt and hit with full force, bleeding swollen welts up and down my back. In junior high, I used to change clothes in my locker to avoid anyone seeing. For some reason, I was embarrassed and ashamed. If I cried, she put me in a bath full of steaming hot water. I was also slapped. She broke my nose.

My father used his fists.

Gently spanked my daughter once. Gently Slapped my teenage son, once, when he called me the c word. She remembers the spanking because of the circumstances and still thinks it’s funny. He doesn‘t remember.
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Aneeda. Your post is a reminder to me as to what I don't miss about the past... outright abuse. Very sad.
 
My Dad would spank the boys and my Mom would spank the girls. There were 6 of us.

I was hit with a long strap belt several times. Both my parents later said they felt guilty about it.
 
I was never spanked
You know the saying 'seen and not heard'?
I wasn't even seen

Dad wasn't either

Now, Mom....she was a hollerer
Came from a family of hollerers

I've never cared for either

This seemed enough to cure whatever ailed my kids;

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My parents never hit me, but maybe if I was fresh, they sent me to my bedroom....
My Dad was the EASY one....He would come upstairs and tell me, you have to talk
somethings out with Mom....She loves you dearly, and she doesn't understand that she
had a terrible upbringing from her Step Father....( Me, I'll remember that forever♥..
 
Not once did I ever set out to intentionally hurt or cause pain when I spanked them, especially when spanking a younger child, my intent was to simply apply a few smart pops on a behind to get the child's attention (shock value), and in doing so, redirect the child's behaviour and focus away from whatever it was they were doing, or however they were acting.

How humiliating it must be for parents who abused their children, to face their children in the later years, knowing chances are good, their children well remember the abuse they suffered.

Mom used to blister our bottoms, owie... I mean her spankings really hurt bad, and to this day I still occasionally wonder how I grew to accept my mother for some of the things she did, but I'm guessing most children's love runs deep.
 
When I was a kid my mother would threaten with a "switch" plucked from a handy bush. She never did more than dust my legs, hurting my feelings more than anything. I did the same with my children--more threats than action, but they were good kids.
 
Aunt Marg said:
How humiliating it must be for parents who abused their children, to face their children in the later years, knowing chances are good, their children well remember the abuse they suffered.
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Not necessarily. While the mother much later admitted things she'd done to her son, she never managed to acknowledge it as "Abuse"which of course it was. There was also the odd complication of her inability to recognize cause -> effect in any situation, so was never able to understand why he didn't want to be in her life after he grew up.
As for me, I fully believe I would have been abused too, and only was not because my father would not have allowed it.
 
JaniceM said:
Not necessarily. While the mother much later admitted things she'd done to her son, she never managed to acknowledge it as "Abuse"which of course it was. There was also the odd complication of her inability to recognize cause -> effect in any situation, so was never able to understand why he didn't want to be in her life after he grew up.
As for me, I fully believe I would have been abused too, and only was not because my father would not have allowed it.
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So happy to know your father put his foot down when it came to you.
 
strict household- I was the youngest others where older ' but my brother got load of hits from my
awful father ' I never hit my kids' I used to shout at them if they did wrong' and stay in their room till
they had a think but no hitting -seen to much as a child .
 
JaniceM said:
Me too. But I've always felt bad over the way she treated my brother (her son).
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I would, too, Janice.

I remember witnessing my mom spanking my much younger siblings, and there were a few times where I stepped in and yelled at her to - knock it off, followed by - and I mean it, and she knew it. I was in my teens at that point, so not a child, and not small, and would have had no problem getting physical with her in order to gain control of the situation.
 
One thing about our home, my childhood home, even though I had a huge hand in helping care for baby siblings, my mom made it clear from the beginning that I was not allowed to ever raise a hand to any of them, not for any reason.

Still didn't prevent me from threatening them with a good spanking every now and then when babysitting them. :)

Baby brother was still in diapers when I was in junior-high school, and every Friday night was babysitting night for me, and all I had to do when baby brother opposed bedtime, was open the kitchen drawer and reach for one of moms wooden spoons, and baby brother would hightail it to his room. LOL!
 
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Aunt Marg said:
I would, too, Janice.

I remember witnessing my mom spanking my much younger siblings, and there were a few times where I stepped in and yelled at her to - knock it off, followed by - and I mean it, and she knew it. I was in my teens at that point, so not a child, and not small, and would have had no problem getting physical with her in order to gain control of the situation.
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Good for you, for standing up for the little ones!

Edited to add: I regret that I didn't have that option- he was more than a decade older than me, and I never actually witnessed anything. It wasn't til many years later that she informed of the things she'd done, and she actually sounded smug. :mad:
 
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