He Said Her Body Looked Too Old and Wrinkled to Make Love to Her
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oakapple
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So it does work out, just as I and Quicksilver have said!
Dating sites have been around for donkey's years, in the old days they were run out of a small office with folk opening snail mail, then came penpal sites and finally online dating sites................. there will be scoundrels on every site, just as there are in every bar, dance hall and supermarket.
Mrs. Robinson
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My niece met her husband on Match.com 12 years ago. They are a perfect match. She was in her early 40`s,never married. He was a couple of years older and divorced with two teenage kids. My eldest daughter met her husband of three years five years ago on Match.com. She figured since her cousin had success with it,she would try it too! She DID met some bozos on there too though LOL. But her hubby is a great guy,we love him to pieces.
QuickSilver
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The problem is that the uninformed equate dating sites with desperation, or sleaziness. That is simply not the case. People are pretty isolated these days. We work long hours.. we sometimes don't have large social contacts that may introduce us to people. We don't socialize as much as when we were younger.. So what do you do if you would like to have a partner? As I said.. hubby and are are from the same city, but from opposite ends.. It's a BIG city. We would have never met sitting in our parlors waiting for the phone to ring. There's no shame in wanting a partner is there? I loved being married... and I had a good marriage.. but that was not meant to be.. I was 50 when he died.. Not young, but not so old that I didn't want companionship. So I decided to look... but I was very careful. It worked out.
Falcon
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Nah, Just kidding around about dating. Besides you're married and my housemate would frown on it.
If a person can't get a date in the usual way and has to resort to the Internet, they are likely to be unattractive or weird, imo!
Of course the question is what is the "usual way" today? Like it or not, for many it is the internet.
QuickSilver
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Well Thank you very much!! How nice of you. Would you like some salt and pepper on your foot?
I really wish you would elaborate on your idea of the "usual way" to meet someone? Cruising the bars is NOT my idea of a way to connect with a decent man. Church? I don't attend.. Perhaps it would have helped though... I could have gone there to PRAY for someone to come along. Friends? oh yes.. sit around and wait to be set up on a blind date by someone's aunt sally.... that usually turns out well.. AH.... work.. I wouldn't have gotten involved with someone at work.. that can have pretty bad consequences too.. Um... let's see... OH YES!! The grocery store!! I usually run in and out... no time to be cruisin' the frozen food aisle.. kwim?
hollydolly
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...well I have to take issue with that. There's a lot of people who live in areas where it wouldn't be safe to go out alone to the more 'traditional ' way of meeting the opposite sex..ie clubs, pubs etc..which these days anyway are geared towards the young.
There are people who live in remote areas where there is simply no-one to meet, much less a partner for life.
There are people who work full time or unsociable hours who are unable to find a soul mate in the 'traditional ' way..even if they are young and able to go to pubs and clubs etc.
There are people who have been bereaved young and old and wouldn't or couldn't face the whole idea of ''picking up a date' by going to clubs and pubs, and in fact usually get to know more about a person by chatting online to them before meeting them initially, unlike when we were asked out by a stranger at a dance or a club, and we'd go knowing little or nothing about the person we've just met and agreed to date.
The internet has opened up a whole new way of meeting like minded people whether it's for long term partnerships or or just making new friends....and although I've never met a partner this way I think albeit that although it has it's obvious dangers as does any type of dating a stranger...this has certainly changed the lives of millions who would otherwise be alone.
Bullie76
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My old boss met a woman through a dating site and eventually married her. He is an out going person, church guy, well liked in the community and very successful in business. He just couldn't meet the 'right' woman after his previous wife died. I was very surprised when I heard he met this woman on a dating site. He was never computer friendly when I worked for him.
I can't see myself using a dating site. My luck the lady would have 3 eyes. But there are plenty of people using them.
A few years ago there was a boom in Thai wife/Russian wife dating sites, and I knew several men who went for it..Not one of those ''marriages'' lasted more than 2 years..
I remember one man...(wow..was he ugly!)..came back from Talis with a Russian bride who looked like a model..
Surely his alarm bells should have started ringing at some point?
She stayed with him for 2 years..just enough to be eligible for a British passport..
QuickSilver
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I think I have stated.... ad nauseum... You have to be careful.. AND most of all.. you have to have common sense. Of course there are bad apples on dating sites.. just like in bars, in grocery stores..at work.. and YES... even at church. There are no guarantees in anything you do is there? Is anyplace 100% and unequivicably safe these days? The internet opens up the whole world to people that otherwise would only know a very small piece of it. There is no way I would have met my wonderful husband left to our own devices.. BUT we took the chance and found one another... and no.. we are not ugly... or weird... or stupid. We are both medical professionals and do very well thankee very much. hehehehehehe
Bullie76
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I've heard of those stories. Just to be clear, the lady my boss met was from the surrounding area.
I think it was a case of the man's brains being a lot lower than they should have been..easy meat!
QuickSilver
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I met my husband to be when I was 15. I wasn't looking for a relationship, I wasn't even that interested in boys. However we somehow clicked, I am still not sure why, we married 4 years later. We are still together after 45 years, and haven't murdered each other yet!
Well that's great!!! When you are 15 and in school... you are surrounded with possible matches... BUT when you are 50.. working full time at a demanding job.. and taking care of a home and business interests.. not so much. In addition... you are lucky.. Not everyone STILL has their husband.. I'm happy you still do.. I was widowed.. Nothing in life is permanent .. kwim??
That happened recently to a young woman in London..met a guy..who turned up in an expensive suit..took her to a fabulous restaurant and told her she could have anything she wanted..so she did..and so did he..just before the bill arrived he went to visit the bathrooms, and was never seen again!!
She had no money to pay...
Not really..apparently she was quite emotional..threw boiling water at him..and tried to poison him with Hemlock tea!!
She then claimed half his house...
...sounds a little like a witch.