Hello from Delaware

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Ditzy Blonde

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Hi I am Leslie and I am 54 years old from Delaware. I am actually just going to copy and paste what I wrote in my about you section on my profile page since that kind of sums it up.

I was born and raised in the Newark, Delaware area. I suppose you could say I have never left. I met my future husband through a friend of mine who happened to be her older brother. At first while I was only 16 years old and he was 20. My parents were not too thrilled about this.

We stayed together and once he graduated college which was the same time I graduated high school we decided to move into an apartment together. Strike two, as my parents did not like that idea much at all either but I had just turned 18 so I did it anyway. We kept on dating and eventually got engaged and then married when I turned 21.

We lived happily and brought a beautiful daughter into the world who is 24 years old now. 3 years ago however I lost my husband to a sudden heart attack at the age 54. I was 51 at the time. Throughout my life I was only a housewife and a mother. I know how to take care of my husband and daughter and the house.

I never had a job or knew nothing of the finances or bills our future or anything like that. Around the same time I also lost my dad. So it was really hard. In the 3 years I have really struggled trying to understand the financial part of things. I have had to get my first ever job as a maid at a hotel and even though it doesn't sound like much it keeps the roof over my head. My daughter who at this moment still lives at home helps as well. My daughter and my mom have even suggested I start dating again. It has been just over 3 years and they both tell me that I still have a lot to give a man and a lot of life to live. It is something that just every time I think about it I struggle with.
 

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@Ruthanne I was hoping for some support from other women here. I am also sorry for your loss. It is really hard. Just don't know even as it has been 3 years if I can move on to dating like some have suggested.
 

Ditzy Blonde said:
@Ruthanne I was hoping for some support from other women here. I am also sorry for your loss. It is really hard. Just don't know even as it has been 3 years if I can move on to dating like some have suggested.
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It takes time. It was very hard for me. I never remarried so far but dated some and had a few bfs. It's been a long time that I lost mine, though. If you want to date again I think it's best to do it in your own time. I find it hard now a days to find someone. I have used a dating app. and am talking to a few guys now but don't know if we will meet with this virus out there. I am also very cautious about dating these days from the internet. @Ditzy Blonde
 
Hi Leslie, my condolences for the loss of your husband.

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I agree @Ruthanne with this virus still the way it is I will not be pursuing any man. I am also not thinking about going the route of internet dating. I have a core group of married friends who also have single friends and they said whenever I am ready they would be pleased to set up a double date type of scenario and see how it goes. I have also already met some of these single guys at parties in the past just as casual group chatting at a party that these friends of mine are speaking of and they are all business type men who are successful.
 
Welcome! I grew up in Delaware - just south of the PA border but still "Wilmington!" I was recently back to that area to bury my Dad (at 95) - not quite what we were used to but a small graveside service was still uplifting for us. My Mother dropped dead at 58 and we all miss them both! I still have my husband to watch over but I know you will find some camaraderie here. The Financial section is always full of good ideas and there are many here to offer help and point you to the right source. Best of luck!
 
@Aunt Marg & @Pinky thank you both for your support and welcome. I have had my share these past few years with losing my husband and dad. I also take care of my mom a lot as I am an only child. She does pretty well though. My main thing is I was married rather young. Never went to college. Never had a job other than a housewife and mom until now. The things that I am still really confused with are my finances, how to handle my future, and a lot of this online paying bills. I was pretty much thrust into it and was clueless and much of that stuff is private stuff. So not having a husband around is tough.
 
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Welcome! I grew up in Delaware - just south of the PA border but still "Wilmington!" I was recently back to that area to bury my Dad (at 95) - not quite what we were used to but a small graveside service was still uplifting for us. My Mother dropped dead at 58 and we all miss them both! I still have my husband to watch over but I know you will find some camaraderie here. The Financial section is always full of good ideas and there are many here to offer help and point you to the right source. Best of luck!
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I really appreciate this. My finances and building for my future is what I am quite clueless about. My husband worked as an Electrician so get money from his company each month and that money goes directly to our mortgage. I then had to get a job to pay for the remainder of the bills and my daughter also helps with that as well as she still lives at home. So I Thank God my husband worked all those years or the same company and made a fantastic salary or I would be sunk most likely.
 
Hi Leslie,welcome so glad you found us
So sorry to hear about your husband,hope with each passing day your pain has subsided
You'll meet wonderful group of people here at SF from around the world,we are here to offer advise,support as you&your daughter continue on with your lives
I've been to Del a couple of times,yrs ago long time friends of my parents lived in Rehoboth Beach,loved visiting them in summer
Enjoy yourself here
Sue in Buffalo,NY
 
Hi from NJ, Leslie. My son who is 54 lost his wife 2 years ago to cancer. She was just 49. I lost my husband to Viet Nam when he was only 35 and I was 33. When it is time to start dating or even think seriously about it, you will know it. No one can tell you when, only you will know it. I never remarried, but did eventually date, never seriously. My son cannot even conceive of dating at this time. You will find many empathic ears here and some very light moments to bring a smile to your face. Enjoy the company.110231437_3168979343137844_3307926649321170490_n.jpg
 
Well Howdy @Ken N Tx and thanks for the welcome.

@Lewkat I really appreciate those kind words and I feel the sorrow for both you and your son. I know each day I wake up wishing I open my eyes and my husband is there to hold me and kiss me. I miss that so much. I miss the casual talks we had. I also look at my life and I say to myself I had this man as a part of my life from the age of 16 to 51. I married him at 21. Had his daughter at 30. I spent many loving years with this wonderful man.
 
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