That's the thing. Too many tolerate it and do nothing. So it's definately under reported. Too many segments of society consider it a personal matter.Russia's domestic violence laws are incredibly weak. So what we see in their numbers probably doesn't scratch the surface of what's really going on.
Both my first and second husband were verbally abusive. I dumped them. But I had to plan it carefully so that I would not be living in the street. In the first relationship he spent three times more than we earned. We were dirt poor. In the second one he was from old money. Both thought they had the right to control me. Wrong. The second one told me if I ever took any of his money in a divorce I would find myself floating in the pond. Before I met him they found his mother dead in the river. There were local rumors that said his father did it. He had enough money and power to instantly have her cremated. My 2nd was so sweet when I met him. Two things happened that changed that. My brother committed his crimes and my 2nd husband got access to the first part of his inheritance. I carefully made a plan and left him when it was all in place. In the divorce I only asked for about a 5th of what he had. I got it. He did not murder me...as you can tell. He wanted me back. In a pig eye! It was all about control. The immature have a need to control. My 3rd husband's first wife was that way. He eventually dumped her.
She was also protecting her meal ticket - which is often the case.
Ask anyone who knows - like a cop.Seriously?!?
Unfortunately I've seen that too - the rubberstamping. One of my cousins husband and kids treat her badly. She has denied it for years. Finally it got so bad she was ready to get a divorce. They went to counseling. He didn't change, but she stayed with him. He still walks on her, tells her she's done things she hasn't done, like agreed to give their house to their youngest son - who drinks way too much. I told her he couldn't do that without her signature. I suggested things she could do. She didn't want to hear it. She takes prozac and thinks her religious beliefs are her answer. I feel so bad for her. Once upon a time we were best friend little girls who giggled and laughed. Oh, and the jerk came on to me off and on over the years. The last time was a few years ago...at this age for crying out loud. She is living miserably ever after, and there is no way I can help. It's sad.
Abuse encompasses a lot of factors including women whose fathers abused their moms and them just as one example. So the abusive partner continues the codependency cycle of the family and the victim protects the abuser as family. Economics can certainly play into an abusive relationship but I've know women personally who supported deadbeat abusive men.
Ironically the partner I mentioned poses as being religious. She has more interest and motivation than some others but is definately not devout or an expert. In the meantime she rubberstamps and/or validates the abusers behavior which makes it worse. He's asks a question she frequently answers defensively. She'll also rat you out in a second. She could pretend to be buddy buddy but she'll be reporting back to the abuser. They almost broke up and death in the family/inheritance extended the relationship. Both are schemers and would make excellent grifters because they will work you and others for they want over time. Sometimes it's just the wear you down with repetition other times every syllable they utter has strategic importance to a plan. In the meantime the abuser throws childlike tantrums and gets violently upset when things aren't going their way. Half century old man stomping and screaming like a teen arguing with parents or teachers.
^^^^ BINGO.
"99%?" That study you did must have taken years. That figure came directly from your imagination.
