Have you experienced platonic friendship with the opposite sex?

My two business partners are female friends, we trust each other and there's not much we would hesitate to talk about. We each have our SOs(significant others) and private lives however. My ex-wife had started out as a "platonic" friend until.....<sigh>, too bad we didn't just stay friends.
 
For the women that I know and speak with I like to say, ā€œWeā€™re friendly, but not friends.ā€ I tried being friends with women a few times, but rumors started flying and if you are a State Trooper and want to get fired, that will do it.
 
RadishRose said:
I never believed men really want to buddy up with women. It's not natural to them. If they want a pal to hang around with, they prefer another male to talk sports with, compare sexual conquests with, spit on the sidewalk with and sit in the bar with; to either to pick up women, watch the game or scratch themselves.
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I'm one of the exceptions to your experience. I relate much more to women than I do to men. I don't care about sports, don't kiss and tell, don't like to spit, don't really enjoy sitting in a bar, find conquest tales in poor taste, couldn't care less about most games and try to scratch only in private. I find that the women I've known tend to be more interested in conversations about things that I find interesting (introspection, self understanding, art, music, food, travel, etc...) than the men I've known.
 
tbeltrans said:
So now we twist the subject all around as threads in forums often do, and get:

Have you ever had sex with a platonic friend?

Hmmmmmm...

Of course, a quick recovery would be "So, how is the weather in your area today?".

Tony
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If you sleep with a so called friend, that's classified as FWB (friend with benefits).

No, I do not sleep with platonic friends and plan to keep it that way. Sad to say, the men I meet now outright tell me they already have a lot of friends. They want a lover for possible marriage.
 
hellomimi said:
If you sleep with a so called friend, that's classified as FWB (friend with benefits).

No, I do not sleep with platonic friends and plan to keep it that way. Sad to say, the men I meet now outright tell me they already have a lot of friends. They want a lover for possible marriage.
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I thought a friend with benefits was somebody who paid your way and you could always move in with if things went awry. Oh, wait, those are parents! :)

Tony
 
asp3 said:
I'm one of the exceptions to your experience. I relate much more to women than I do to men. I don't care about sports, don't kiss and tell, don't like to spit, don't really enjoy sitting in a bar, find conquest tales in poor taste, couldn't care less about most games and try to scratch only in private. I find that the women I've known tend to be more interested in conversations about things that I find interesting (introspection, self understanding, art, music, food, travel, etc...) than the men I've known.
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Yes, I did admit to generalizing and you are a grand exception. šŸŒ¹
 
asp3 said:
I'm one of the exceptions to your experience. I relate much more to women than I do to men. I don't care about sports, don't kiss and tell, don't like to spit, don't really enjoy sitting in a bar, find conquest tales in poor taste, couldn't care less about most games and try to scratch only in private. I find that the women I've known tend to be more interested in conversations about things that I find interesting (introspection, self understanding, art, music, food, travel, etc...) than the men I've known.
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This describes me, but I know many men who feel similar. For me, my attitude toward sports was formed when I was growing up (assuming I actually did...). I was raised with the idea that I was to participate in the things that interested me. In other words, don't watch football on TV, go out and play it if that is what interests you. My primary interest and past time is music, and that is what I do as an active participant by playing musical instruments.

Tony
 
RadishRose said:
I'm not sure I understand your "what if" @AnnieA , I am sorry. Maybe I do, but surely I am wrong. My homosexual guy friends (albeit fewer these days) are in no way even curious about women other than in a platonic sense.
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Part of post above I responded to:

RadishRose said:
If they're heterosexual, probably not. They've always seemed to have wanted something more.

I have had good platonic friendships with men...after we'd broken up.
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Abbreviated the quote from your post too much I think in my "what if" response. I meant that with most heterosexual guys, at some point in the friendship I've wondered about more ..."what if" we took that next step.

Wasn't at all talking about my bisexual (best friend who is leans strongly towards men) or my homosexual friends. I've always thought women who try to elicit interest from them are the same type that would try for a reaction from a Catholic priest or an obviously happily married man. A challenge to prove they can do it that's maybe rooted in narcissism or low self worth.
 
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AnnieA said:
Part of post above I responded to:




Abbreviated the quote from your post too much I think in my "what if" response. I meant that with most heterosexual guys, at some point in the friendship I've wondered about more ..."what if" we took that next step.

Wasn't at all talking about my bisexual (best friend who is leans strongly towards men) or my homosexual friends. I've always thought women who try to elicit interest from them are the same type that would try for a reaction from a Catholic priest or an obviously happily married man. A challenge to prove they can do it that's maybe rooted in narcissism or low self worth.
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Oh, I see. They were called an incredibly rude name. :censored:
 
Have you experienced platonic friendship with the opposite sex?

RadishRose said:
I never believed men really want to buddy up with women. It's not natural to them. If they want a pal to hang around with, they prefer another male to talk sports with, compare sexual conquests with, spit on the sidewalk with and sit in the bar with; to either to pick up women, watch the game or scratch themselves.
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This thread reminds me of something I writ in my early tenure here;

Wimin

The most mysterious beings of our planet

I found out long ago, about sixty years or so, that gaining favor with the finer gender of our specie is not necessarily in my best interest.
Whole different frequency
Wired different
Fiber optic vs 9 gauge single conductor
Fascinating, mystical, attractive, you bet
Sensitivities Iā€™d never remotely considered
But, hanging with a group of ladies?

Canā€™t

Mentally; exhausting

Socially; this ogre doesnā€™t stand a chance

Spiritually; beyond any reach I may have thought I had

Physically; like looking into the sun, can go blind if obsessing too long

Gaining favor?
Whimsical touches
Nothing of depth
Any more than that and I find myself precariously dangling off a mental precipice

I can do one, maybe two per sitting
and that is mostly because they sense my discomfort to the point of putting forth effort to discuss what Iā€™m interested in
Iā€™ve learned to pick up on this and placate for a bit, then find a way to excuse myself

I donā€™t avoid ladies, but have learned not to seek them out
Itā€™s what shops are for

Iā€™ve been fortunate

My lady has put up with me for half a century

When I become too much and I (for some unknown reason) anger her,
I found placing my calloused hand on the small of her back will still cause her to flinch
ā€¦.and she begrudgingly forgives me

We have had this tryst, this romance that has yet to fade

Sheā€™s plenty for me

Forever


So, here I remain
Baffled, yet attracted at the mysteries, complexities
A sentry
A defender
A protector
A willing grunt

Keeping the fire

best I can

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Have you experienced platonic friendship with the opposite sex?

Well I've tried, really, really tried, but ladies have such lovely shapes, and when they start playing tantalizing games with their eyes, pouting their lips and giving quick blimps of their cleavage, I tell you, it's really, really 'hard'. šŸ˜Š
 
Gary O' said:
Have you experienced platonic friendship with the opposite sex?




This thread reminds me of something I writ in my early tenure here;

Wimin

The most mysterious beings of our planet

I found out long ago, about sixty years or so, that gaining favor with the finer gender of our specie is not necessarily in my best interest.
Whole different frequency
Wired different
Fiber optic vs 9 gauge single conductor
Fascinating, mystical, attractive, you bet
Sensitivities Iā€™d never remotely considered
But, hanging with a group of ladies?

Canā€™t

Mentally; exhausting

Socially; this ogre doesnā€™t stand a chance

Spiritually; beyond any reach I may have thought I had

Physically; like looking into the sun, can go blind if obsessing too long

Gaining favor?
Whimsical touches
Nothing of depth
Any more than that and I find myself precariously dangling off a mental precipice

I can do one, maybe two per sitting
and that is mostly because they sense my discomfort to the point of putting forth effort to discuss what Iā€™m interested in
Iā€™ve learned to pick up on this and placate for a bit, then find a way to excuse myself

I donā€™t avoid ladies, but have learned not to seek them out
Itā€™s what shops are for

Iā€™ve been fortunate

My lady has put up with me for half a century

When I become too much and I (for some unknown reason) anger her,
I found placing my calloused hand on the small of her back will still cause her to flinch
ā€¦.and she begrudgingly forgives me

We have had this tryst, this romance that has yet to fade

Sheā€™s plenty for me

Forever


So, here I remain
Baffled, yet attracted at the mysteries, complexities
A sentry
A defender
A protector
A willing grunt

Keeping the fire

best I can

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I remember when you wrote this. šŸŒ¹
 
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