What are your triggers? The things that set you off the most.

I must be living on Lidocaine. Nothing seems to trigger me into an angry rut. I seldom get angry and in fact, my wife tells me all the time that I’m not normal because I don’t get mad about anything.

Last week she told me would I please get mad just once so that she knows that I’m not a droid.
 
win231 said:
Especially when you ask someone a question or you want to discuss something & they reply: "I don't want to get into it."
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Oops! I say that to my guy best friend fairly often. Had to call him today and he was in the middle of a project so, thankfully, it was a brief conversation given current events. Let's just say he wouldn't last a day at SF. ;)
 
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Pappy said:
Holding a door open for someone and they can’t bother to say thank you. So I say it and usually get a dirty look.
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Times sure have changed in that regard, haven't they, Paps?

Holding doors open for others... saying "excuse me" when cutting in front of somebody at the grocers... saying "please and thank you"... and referring to others by their name.

All seems to have escaped today's (full of themselves) generation.
 
Guess I must be one of those weird people who are unaffected by others. Nothing angers me. I am saddened and mystified by people's ignorant words and actions at times but I try to understand why they are behaving that way. I don't understand evil, greed and corruption or hatred, but it brings sadness, not anger.
 
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Gaer said:
Guess I must be one of those weird people who are unaffected by others. Nothing angers me. I am saddened and mystified by people's ignorant words and actions at times but I try to understand why they are behaving that way. I don't understand evil, greed and corruption, but it brings sadness, not anger.
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You are a true Master of Zen, Gaer.

I envy you. As much as I try to be like you, I fail, and in a big way, and so quickly, too. On some fronts, what used to bother me in my younger years, no longer bothers me, yet some things I never gave so much as a thought to in my youngers, push me over the edge now.
 
Aunt Marg said:
Times sure have changed in that regard, haven't they, Paps?

Holding doors open for others... saying "excuse me" when cutting in front of somebody at the grocers... saying "please and thank you"... and referring to others by their name.

All seems to have escaped today's (full of themselves) generation.
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I was taught at a very young age to do these things. Heck, I even call someone younger than me ‘sir.”
 
Aunt Marg said:
Times sure have changed in that regard, haven't they, Paps?

Holding doors open for others... saying "excuse me" when cutting in front of somebody at the grocers... saying "please and thank you"... and referring to others by their name.

All seems to have escaped today's (full of themselves) generation.
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Hmm. My experience is a bit different. Many of my clients are between 18 and 35, male and female. They don’t behave like this, nor do the university students I teach. They are courteous, well behaved, concerned about climate change and people in need. They are not full of themselves, students are either trying to better place themselves to deal with the new normal of

the Covid plague and its effect on jobs etc, or deal with the loss of family and friends because of the virus. My trauma clients are searching for ways to cope during these frightening times. We older people have always found fault with the young, going back to ancient times. Writings have

been discovered in Greece, Rome, etc, thousands of years old, bemoaning how rude young people were. Some young people are rude, thoughtless, but not the majority. No more so than middle aged or elderly people are. Some of the rudest, most entitled people I have met have been middle aged and old men and women. But only a small proportion, people are individuals.
Also, many of these younger people volunteer to shop for those stuck at home due to risk factors re the virus. They do it for free.
 
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Shalimar said:
Hmm. My experience is a bit different. Many of my clients are between 18 and 35, male and female. They don’t behave like this, nor do the university students I teach. They are courteous, well behaved, concerned about climate change and people in need. They are not full of themselves, students are either trying to better place themselves to deal with the new normal of

the Covid plague and its effect on jobs etc, or deal with the loss of family and friends because of the virus. My trauma clients are searching for ways to cope during this frightening time. Older generations have always found fault with the young, going back to ancient times. Writings have

been discovered in Greece, Rome, etc, bemoaning how rude young people were. Some young people are rude, thoughtless, but not the majority. No more so than middle aged or elderly people are. Some of the rudest, most entitled people I have met have been middle aged and old men and women But only a small proportion, people are individuals
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I have to say I'm taken aback by your post, but am encouraged by it.

My husband recently dressed-down a police officer for failing to say thank you him for holding the door open for him.
 
Aunt Marg said:
I have to say I'm taken aback by your post, but am encouraged by it.

My husband recently dressed-down a police officer for failing to say thank you him for holding the door open for him.
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Good for your husband! The officer was remiss. I am delighted you feel encouraged by my comments. I wish you could meet some of my young people. They are golden
 
Aunt Marg said:
Times sure have changed in that regard, haven't they, Paps?

Holding doors open for others... saying "excuse me" when cutting in front of somebody at the grocers... saying "please and thank you"... and referring to others by their name.

All seems to have escaped today's (full of themselves) generation.
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I bet if I tried really hard I could annoy you by holding every door open, saying "excuse me" ad nauseum, saying "please and thank you" till you think you've gone mad.........., but other than that I'm completely with you :)!
 
Shalimar said:
My experience is a bit different. Many of my clients are between 18 and 35, male and female. They don’t behave like this, nor do the university students I teach. They are courteous, well behaved, concerned about climate change and people in need. They are not full of themselves
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I think that as "older people" we fall into the same trap as many people-groups do, viewing members of other people-groups in a particular stereotype. 9 out of 10 young people[or, whichever group] may behave just fine, it's that 10th person that isn't that catches our eye.
 

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