Complimenting oneself, or enjoying the sound of your own voice

grahamg

grahamg

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As you know I'm prone to commenting upon people/men I come across in my life, (remember "so called friend" comments etc.).

Well, I've come across someone this week who I'd met before and vaguely knew in a social context, but hadn't spent much time in his company.

Another mutual friend who I do know fairly well, and worked with for about ten years when I was a young man, told me his view of the guy I'm going to describe to you, saying he was "boring"! 😮.

I now think I know what he meant, because I came pretty bored listening to his monotonous voice, whilst we worked together this week, and I couldn't help but notice his tendency for self promotion, bigging himself quite a lot, and because of his competitiveness, and sense of entitlement perhaps, I did get very bored or tired listening to the guy. đŸ˜ȘđŸ„±.

Sure, he's got some achievements under his belt I couldn't match, having completed an eight hour "Iron Man" event for example, (he said "more people have climbed mount Everest than completing this challenge", and whilst that's impressive, it is just possible far fewer folks wanted to do it, rather than anything else).

There we are, another thread about folks/men who annoy me, (probably I did the same to him, and I did tell him "he had no imagination", at which he bridled and said I didn't need to be personal). Still, there is some good news, I'm out of his company next week, and I doubt we'll ever have to work together again! (y)đŸ„Ž.
 

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A bit of research:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...1511/boss-intoxicated-the-sound-his-own-voice

Quote:
"Every word was terribly important. He reveled in his word choice, inflection and clever use of vocabulary. He noticed that the average, mortal colleagues around him did not quite grasp the full brunt of his extraordinary messages. When mere employees attempted to respond or get a word in edge wise they were rebuffed and rebuked by this eloquent, arrogant and somewhat delusional.

...., had little interest in what his employees had to say. He seemed to gloat in victory when he berated a high ranking engineer to “shut up” and “check your facts” at a performance meeting. His impatience and attack mode led him to consistently interrupt his direct reports and colleagues to the point where he was being avoided like a tsunami."

Break

"This was not just a case in bad manners or questionable workplace behavior. It rather knocked on the door of organizational pathology. Lacking a diagnosis or treatment and subjected to a malevolent leader employees desperately looked for relief. They were failed by their human resources and employee assistance programs. They looked for alternative channels of conflict resolution and soon found their way to the social media. Anonymously entering their complaints onto the internet and beyond employees found a temporary outlet."

Break

"It all started with the ........, intoxication with the sound of his own voice. But it did not begin and end with this self-infatuation. The trail extended far and wide. Individual pathology metastasized into organizational psychopathology. ......’s fascination with his perception of his own divine speaking voice and exalted leadership skills was accompanied by extraordinary intolerance for other voices and minds in the organization. ........ celebrated himself and feverishly, relentlessly diminished colleagues and subordinates."
 
grahamg said:
A bit of research:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...1511/boss-intoxicated-the-sound-his-own-voice

Quote:
"Every word was terribly important. He reveled in his word choice, inflection and clever use of vocabulary. He noticed that the average, mortal colleagues around him did not quite grasp the full brunt of his extraordinary messages. When mere employees attempted to respond or get a word in edge wise they were rebuffed and rebuked by this eloquent, arrogant and somewhat delusional.

...., had little interest in what his employees had to say. He seemed to gloat in victory when he berated a high ranking engineer to “shut up” and “check your facts” at a performance meeting. His impatience and attack mode led him to consistently interrupt his direct reports and colleagues to the point where he was being avoided like a tsunami."

Break

"This was not just a case in bad manners or questionable workplace behavior. It rather knocked on the door of organizational pathology. Lacking a diagnosis or treatment and subjected to a malevolent leader employees desperately looked for relief. They were failed by their human resources and employee assistance programs. They looked for alternative channels of conflict resolution and soon found their way to the social media. Anonymously entering their complaints onto the internet and beyond employees found a temporary outlet."

Break

"It all started with the ........, intoxication with the sound of his own voice. But it did not begin and end with this self-infatuation. The trail extended far and wide. Individual pathology metastasized into organizational psychopathology. ......’s fascination with his perception of his own divine speaking voice and exalted leadership skills was accompanied by extraordinary intolerance for other voices and minds in the organization. ........ celebrated himself and feverishly, relentlessly diminished colleagues and subordinates."
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I had to laugh as this person sounds like an utter ass....:ROFLMAO:
 

we have a few at work that must love listening to themselves because they never shut up and they drone on about crap that is totally unimportant.
 
ClassicRockr said:
My wife compliments me and I do it to myself as well. It can be called "self-confidence", which isn't a bad thing.
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Could it also be a sign of under confidence sometimes, and a feeling someone needs to bolster themselves or their own position, because they're not hearing the level of praise they feel they deserve or need from others?

The best managers or bosses I've come across didn't seem to feel the need to compliment themselves, though I accept I've probably been guilty of it myself, (but then again "man or woman management" was never my strong point! :) ).
 

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