fmdog44
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Ever come across something like product that you got excited about and despite you urging your friends to try it they "just never quite got around" to trying it?
When No One Listens To Your Advice
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officerripley
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I'm trying to remember if there ever was a time when somebody took my advice about anything...hmmm...nope, still nuthin'.
Kathleen’s Place
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I've learned never to offer advice unless it's asked for. Even then, many people seeking advice are just looking for a sounding board, an affirmation of their own beliefs, or worst an argument. Advice offered aggressively can cross over into constituting an imposition. On products, one man's meat can be another's poison. Remember that commercial for Alka Seltzer that featured the dialogue, "They said, try it, you'll like it. So I tried it...thought I was gonna die! Took two Alka Seltzers..."
Lee
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- Chatham, Ontario
yes, when asked by a lady what I used on my hair I told her about the product which keeps curly hair bouncy. I know she did not try it as she still has flat hair 
^^^LOL. Ya got that right.
Two friends chatting:
"Linda, do you think I should marry Bob?"
"Cathy, why would you marry a verbal abuser who doesn't respect you & probably abuses you physically when I'm not there?"
"Aw....he's a great guy, what do you know about love & commitment?"
In my 20's, my girlfriend & I were friends with a married couple. The husband worked hard 40 hours/week despite serious medical complications.
My girlfriend & I found out his wife was sleeping with the next-door neighbor (in their bed) while her husband was at work. We both had a talk with the wife about the emotional damage she was doing to him, plus AIDS was a big concern, especially with his health issues, in addition to other STD's.
We debated telling the husband so he could at least protect himself while having sex with his wife. We told him - as gently as we could & suggested he protect himself.
At first, he acted like he wished we didn't tell him, but after he had time to think about it, he thanked us & he divorced her.
He died at 30 after a kidney transplant....and after many years of dialysis & problems.
At his funeral, I must have given the wife angry looks. She asked me, "What's your problem?" I replied, "I'm lookin' at it."
My girlfriend & I found out his wife was sleeping with the next-door neighbor (in their bed) while her husband was at work. We both had a talk with the wife about the emotional damage she was doing to him, plus AIDS was a big concern, especially with his health issues, in addition to other STD's.
We debated telling the husband so he could at least protect himself while having sex with his wife. We told him - as gently as we could & suggested he protect himself.
At first, he acted like he wished we didn't tell him, but after he had time to think about it, he thanked us & he divorced her.
He died at 30 after a kidney transplant....and after many years of dialysis & problems.
At his funeral, I must have given the wife angry looks. She asked me, "What's your problem?" I replied, "I'm lookin' at it."
officerripley
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Yeah, I'd like to know too.
A number of years ago my husband took a friend under his wing to try and help guide him through troubled financial times. Seemed no matter what my husband suggested, his friend knew it all, and would throwback and rub in my husbands face whatever dear husband suggested, so having had his fill of talking to a wall, dear husband put a halt to saying anything.
Fast-forward a year after the fact, dear husbands friends marriage ended, he lost his house, and is now pretty much destitute, yet it didn't have to be that way.
Me personally, I don't mind extending advice if it's the right time and related to the right person, but for the most part I'd rather not involve myself with other peoples woes or trials and tribulations, and as far as recommending something that I deem as being great, that, too, is contingent on how receptive someone else is to the idea of.
fmdog44
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I recommended Michelob Ultra Light beer to a buddy about ten years ago thinking I did him a big favor. Sometime later I asked him about it. He said he threw the beers out and that it tasted like pee water.
Your post reminded me of a little something that happened to dear husband back in January of this year.
He had gone out for lunch with a couple of his buddies, and when the server asked if he could get them any drinks, dear husband asked if the establishment had Labatt's Blue, and the server quickly replied, "we don't carry that garbage".
My husband wasn't enthused, and IMO it reflects poorly on the server. No class.
Don't ever think that, Chic.
Some of the most mundane of suggestions I have given to others proved to be the best recommendations and advice those on the receiving end ever garnered.
Just knowing the way you are, I would accept your suggestion and advice on something in a heartbeat.
officerripley
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- Porlock, Calif
I agree; just what Aunt Marg said.
Thank you Marg.
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grahamg
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I've noticed those who can't stop themselves dispensing advice at every opportunity seem to resent it if you just attempt to help them in any way, (worn down with cynicism or their ego can't take it perhaps, so "they have to believe they're the great I am"
).