Expect the best?!?

mellowyellow said:
What really gets me is when someone says "everything happens for a reason" while looking at a picture of a toddler with brain cancer with only days to live. So what is the reason in that situation?
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I think it's just their way of dealing with a difficult situation, just as some people say 'It's God's will'.
 

grahamg said:
Mellowyellow wrote:
"What really gets me is when someone says "everything happens for a reason" while looking at a picture of a toddler with brain cancer with only days to live. So what is the reason in that situation?"

It is very hard to find any words in those awful situations, let alone the right words, and whoever says the wrong thing could fairly claim to be trying to provide some consolation for the distressed person to hold on to when there appears to be none.
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I strongly believe offering false hope to people struggling is cruel.
 
Aforementioned were "It's God's will" and "whatever" is where I fall. My attitude toward the future has no bearing on what will eventually happen. Resignation about says it.
 
Chet said:
Aforementioned were "It's God's will" and "whatever" is where I fall. My attitude toward the future has no bearing on what will eventually happen. Resignation about says it.
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We come on here for some reason dont we, and occasionally make one another laugh, pulling each others leg perhaps, those with wit using it upon fools like myself, "this must mean something dont you think"? :unsure:.
 
Knight said:
None of the choices since "whatever" is situational. I can be any of the choices depending on what is happening.

Situation
Winning Power Ball

optimist I bought a ticket I have a chance

pessimist I won't win I won't buy a ticket

Pragmatist The chance of winning next to none but if I don't buy a ticket I won't know.

Start as Pragmatist go to pessimist then to optimist
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You could also say: "I don't gamble," fact is, if I had bought the national average of lottery tickets since it started and not had a win, I would be worse off by some Ā£12K.
As for pessimism over optimism I prefer the, is the glass half empty or half full option. my glass has always been half full.
 
I like the mantra: hope for the best, but plan for the worst.

Like if you buy new tires, hope they don't try to screw you, but check their work. Half the time, they'll charge you for things they didn't do. And comment on Google and Yelp if they do screw you. "Cancel" them. :)
 
I'm a pragmatist - a realist - an optimist but never a pessimist.
I don't always strive for the best outcome, but try to find a workable solution.
 
Mr. Ed said:
Things happen for a reason, it's called cause and effect.
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Mr. Ed said:
Things happen for a reason, it's called cause and effect.
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Sometimes things don't happen for a reason we can discern, like a baby who gets cancer or a day that starts out great, but is one where you end up in a life changing accident through no fault of your own. Things like this kill my optimism. Always have. It makes no sense to me.
 
chic said:
Sometimes things don't happen for a reason we can discern, like a baby who gets cancer or a day that starts out great, but is one where you end up in a life changing accident through no fault of your own. Things like this kill my optimism. Always have. It makes no sense to me.
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There are reasons we can't understand from our Earthly view, for every moment of our lives.
All struggles,all pains and all setbacks are for a reason. Someday you will know why these occurred.

Ishould add: IMO
 
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chic said:
Sometimes things don't happen for a reason we can discern, like a baby who gets cancer or a day that starts out great, but is one where you end up in a life changing accident through no fault of your own. Things like this kill my optimism. Always have. It makes no sense to me.
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I've always struggled with such as well.
 
Gaer said:
There are reasons we can't understand from our Earthly view, for every moment of our lives.
All struggles,all pains and all setbacks are for a reason. Someday you will know why these occured.
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I've always tried to believe something more awaits, and in many ways I hope it does, just not here on earth. I'm done with this planet.
 
chic said:
Sometimes things don't happen for a reason we can discern, like a baby who gets cancer or a day that starts out great, but is one where you end up in a life changing accident through no fault of your own. Things like this kill my optimism. Always have. It makes no sense to me.
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I agree, some disease occurs in those with no possible reason discernable, your example being a good one by definition, because no baby can carry responsibility for their own illness, and no fault can be attached to any parent so far as cancer is concerned.
No reason however to kill your optimism however, as by your own example its something that cannot be avoided, like a large meteorite hitting our planet, wiping us all out, though if you think about that too much it won't do you any favours "optimism wise", I agree! :)
 
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