Perhaps ‘some’ men do but there are men who love deeply and are as loyal as a companion dog and that’s the highest compliment I can make.There are moments when I still grieve but basically I feel I wouldn't be honoring him by doing so. I do think men get over the death of a spouse more quickly than women do. It may seem appalling to us, but it's the way the majority of men feel.
Thank you for some understanding.Perhaps ‘some’ men do but there are men who love deeply and are as loyal as a companion dog and that’s the highest compliment I can make.
I think most men don’t express their emotions the same as women. They are much more discreet concerning their emotions since they have been conditioned their entire lives to be.
Not debating the topic. It’s just a personal opinion.
I agree with that statement 100%. That's how it felt for me. And she became addicted to alcohol several months before, so after doing everything I knew of to help her, the divorce it was like losing my wife after a long, devastating illness.So hard to say. I've been divorced 3 times, some have said that divorce has a similar impact emotionally on a person as the loss of a loved one. I never disliked or hated my ex-wifes, I'd have to say we just weren't on the same page.
My current wife is very sweet, we are close emotionally. I would have to have a couple years to myself, if I lost her.
YupHow long? As long as it takes.
I think it has to do with not causing the departed to want to stay on this plain rather than move to the next because of our grief. It was explained to me once (and at that time I was told it was a 3 month grieving period) but I don't remember the explanation. I am not personally offended but each religion does have it's set of rules and guidelines that need to be respected. There are some guidelines that absolutely work for me and others that do not. Some are even good things because if everyone followed them in this day and age, there would be no venereal diseases, no cheating amongst spouses, more cohesive family units and possibly a much lower divorce rate to cite a few.This is beyond bizarre. I hope you aren’t offended. You, yourself even stated that you don’t understand why. It’s one thing I’ve never quite understood about religion ; having depression is frowned upon and considered a mortal sin.
In my world, being depressed is all part of being human and to deny any part of us is self rejection. I say embrace it all.
I’m sorry to all those who have lost their life partner.
Thats me.Perhaps ‘some’ men do but there are men who love deeply and are as loyal as a companion dog and that’s the highest compliment I can make.
You may be on to something! My mother would say (and she started going white in her '30's) that every white hair on her head was due to ............... ME!He's 55 and looks at least 10-12 years younger. I told him it's because he never had children.
May 23 2020 a month after our anniversary my dear Angela lost to cancer..Still coping it doesn't seem to get easier. My kids and grandkids all think I am so strong but the reality is that I am only learning to live with the pain and it will last my whole life .. I do not see myself getting over 40 years of love,..Now I must suffer old age alone part of me hopes to find love again but part of me only will love my Angela..
Several others have also expressed this same sentiment, and I have to disagree. I've been twice widowed, the first time in similar circumstances as your father, and I remarried after approx a year. The grieving/mourning period has nothing to do with the quality or depth of the "married relationship". Please don't judge the marriage and love and commitment of others because they grieve differently than you think they should.My mother died at age 58.
My father remarried 2 years later.
From what others have told me ,, Dad started looking about 1 & 1/2 year after my mother died.
I think it really depends on the person & their married relationship.
James, so very sorry for your loss. I hope you do find a friend and companionship some day. That, I think, would be a testament to your Angela. Will we ever find true love again? Maybe, maybe not, but you deserve to be happier, andI’m pretty sure Angela would want this for you too. Of course you will always love her...how could you not? But when the time is right, FOR YOU, I hope you find someone...not to relace Angela, but to add to the happiness the two of you once sharedMay 23 2020 a month after our anniversary my dear Angela lost to cancer..Still coping it doesn't seem to get easier. My kids and grandkids all think I am so strong but the reality is that I am only learning to live with the pain and it will last my whole life .. I do not see myself getting over 40 years of love,..Now I must suffer old age alone part of me hopes to find love again but part of me only will love my Angela..
Never gamble on who is going to die first. My brother talks about a guy that drank whiskey almost everyday & lived to a ripe old age while another guy he knows who never drank any alcohol died in his 50s. Go figure. Fact is that in every relationship one is going to die 1st & one will be left alone. Only in very rare cases are both killed on the highway or that plane that falls into the ocean. Age is not a big factor. Just because one spouse is 8 years older does not guarantee that he/she will die 1st. It really is a gamble. Another fact: Sometimes, very healthy people die over night while others that have been crying & complaining about their poor health seem to live on and on and on.My sister lost her husband almost 20yrs ago and she has never had the desire to be with anyone else. We still often cry on the phone whenever we talk about him. My prayer is that I die before my Husband. I don't want to spend one day on earth without him.
Very much agree with that DonI've had several friends, or their spouses, pass on in the past few years. The "grief" involved seems to fall generally into two categories. One...when the death is sudden and unexpected, the grief can be quite severe. Two...when the death occurs after an extended period of illness, the grief almost becomes a sense of relief.