Duneman
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Is it typical for elderly couple woman 69 man 72 to snap at each other mote often over silly things ?
Is it normal ?"Elderly" might not be a factor, perhaps just the way that relationship has evolved.
Feeling our attitudes on life changing . easily upset is that normal aging ?Is it normal ?
My husband and I are around that age group, and no, we don't snap at each other, didn't do it when we were young either.Is it typical for elderly couple woman 69 man 72 to snap at each other mote often over silly things ?
Think as we get older we need to examine our emotional responses more and make extra effort to smile more also and to take a deep breath before lashing back at the smallest irritations. Its probably the frayed nerve endings acting up. "Don't sweat the small stuff" is a good motto I've found.Is it normal ?
I don't think it's normal, a lot of older couples are more forgiving with each other as their love grows with time. You should sit down and have an open minded conversation about it, sometimes communication about one's feeling can bring things into the light in a positive way, good luck.Feeling our attitudes on life changing . easily upset is that normal aging ?
Thank you sound about right . you want all perfect but it ain't that way.@Duneman for my parents...with their personality traits...health issues and all this time together they do snap at each other regularly. They love each other. I just think sometimes they get tired of one another. They've been together over 50 yrs. A lot of what takes place is due to their health issues making them crabby.
As for normal I don't know. I don't see a whole lot of couples snapping at each other. Some folks' attitudes do change over time along with their tolerance level. Mine has changed over the past yr. or so. So my tolerance level is a little different. If you're together all day every day you're bound to get aggravated with each other sometimes I'm sure. Maybe find something separate to do for a bit.
Yes over the years my patience level has lessened. I don't have the patience to do certain things anymore that didn't used to bother me. I just try to take a deep breath and let it out and just deal with the moment at hand. Try to think of it this way...it's only for a certain amount of time. Say the irritation is only for an hr. From a different point of view it's only for an hr. and not the whole damn day. You see what I mean? It's all temporary.Thank you sound about right . you want all perfect but it ain't that way.
No... IMO being easily upset is under each person's control/discipline. Blaming anything or anyone else is a cop-out, IMO.Feeling our attitudes on life changing . easily upset is that normal aging ?
If someone is in severe pain 24/7 it's not a cop out.No... IMO being easily upset is under each person's control/discipline. Blaming anything or anyone else is a cop-out, IMO.
Considering our thoughts are the only thing we all really have control over, it is incumbent and beneficial to work on ourselves to avoid being easily upset
I can somewhat agree..I was thinking more along the lines of psychological, not physical pain when I said we have a total choice.If someone is in severe pain 24/7 it's not a cop out.
Sometimes regardless of whether it be physical or psychological we are not always in control of our faculties depending on what's wrong with a person. You have to keep that in mind. People get angry. It's a normal emotion in life. It happens for various reasons. Sometimes we don't always know the reasons. But generally if all is well most don't get angry.I can somewhat agree..I was thinking more along the lines of psychological, not physical pain when I said we have a choice.
Nice to hear..and good for you!!My husband and I are around that age group, and no, we don't snap at each other, didn't do it when we were young either.
In some cases, of course you are right....but I also think many overreact due to lack of control or self-disciple and introspection. . I think it is just good to keep in mind we do have control over our thoughts, attitudes and therefore reactions unless there is a physiological condition involved.. We may not be 100% successful but for the most part, we can usually do better.Sometimes regardless of whether it be physical or psychological we are not always in control of our faculties depending on what's wrong with a person. You have to keep that in mind. People get angry. It's a normal emotion in life. It happens for various reasons. Sometimes we don't always know the reasons. But generally if all is well most don't get angry.
That is interesting..I was never aware older couples' divorce rates were higher..It's hardly surprising if people are getting 'snappy' in the present situation. Families are being forced to spend more time together, and all the little irritations are multiplied.
If you mean in general, again, it's understandable. When both partners are involved with work and bringing up a family, they can tolerate each others differences. When the children have grown up and both are retired, those differences can seem so much worse.
It's a fact that divorce is common among older couples, and it's easy to see why. Especially if there is the prospect of becoming an unpaid carer to someone you no longer love.
I think Nathan has a point."Elderly" might not be a factor, perhaps just the way that relationship has evolved.