Tony's reply certainly resonates. You couldn't say that I am an alpha male but I have spent a lifetime in charge of working people, hard working people, who won't take any sort of nonsense, but if I didn't assert myself they would have walked all over me.It depends on the people themselves. Different personalities will have different "chemistry", and that can change over time. I don't know how something so individual an be considered typical.
There could be an underlying problem, like depression or mood changes. fear of aging or death, or confusion due to early stages of dementia. You should talk to your doctor about it.Is it typical for elderly couple woman 69 man 72 to snap at each other mote often over silly things ?
I think that was Isaac Asimov that said that, wasn't it? IIRC, and if it was him that said it, he said it sometime in the 70s and estimated that almost everyone would be psychotic in about 30 years from then, so we're already past the point.I read once quite some time ago (seems everything is quite some time ago these "daze") that we are a neurotic society and that in the future (meaning now . . . ) psychotic would be the norm. Considering the events of the last few years . . . uh, Yeah.
You've been eavesdropping. When I get called by some insult or other, she just melts when I respond with: "Yep, I'm the same." She might say an insulting endearment, (is there such a thing?) "Oh you lovable old fart, how can I not love you?" That's when I will tease her with something like, "when you can't afford it!" Usually that will result in a playful slap, but it has broken the friction and we are talking again.What I've found helpful here lately, when Huzz says something I can't stand, I pretend that I'm an in-home caretan I not love youaker for a mean old man, one whom I don't care what he thinks since this is just a job, and I just need to keep my mouth shut & nod or else only say stuff like, "Yeah" or "I know" or else I'll get fired. It's been helping me keep my temper; I've tried other stuff, reasoning with him, etc. but this is the only thing that works.
Good replyI think Nathan has a point.
In my case I am far from wanting to give up my interest in our home. I love to putter in the yard and thinking of new ideas for around the house.
The hubby just gave it all up. He is perfectly content to just sit. He has no interest in our home at all. He has no major health issues, is not depressed and finically we can afford to spruce up the place a bit.
Up until a few years ago we were on the same wave length.
His dad did the same thing.
I try to do my own thing but there are times when I need some input or a helping hand.
Usually his response is," its fine the way it is."
I try very hard not to snap but it is difficult especially since my dad was just the opposite. Everything was in tip top shape inside and out and he was that way until 6 months before he passed away.
When asked if she would ever marry again if I died and made her a widow. My wife just smiled and said: "No, I don't think so."I didn't say divorce rates are higher, I said it's common. Of course, older people are more likely to be actually married rather than just living together.
LOL well she has a good sense of humor, doesn't she. That is soooooooo very important IMOWhen asked if she would ever marry again if I died and made her a widow. My wife just smiled and said: "No, I don't think so."
Our friends thought that so romantic. "Romance has nothing to do with it," my wife retorted, adding: "I just couldn't face all that training again."