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My hubby and I in the past have purchase $100 tickets to St. Jude Children's Hospital for the drawing of a house and to donate. The commercial came on tonight and I said we normally buy a ticket. He said, no, I don't remember buying a ticket.. I'm like What, you motivated me to by a ticket. This is not the first time I reminded him of things and he do not remember. Is this the first sign of Alzheimer's? For me to post this, I am a bit concerned.
 

Ladybj said:
My hubby and I in the past have purchase $100 tickets to St. Jude Children's Hospital for the drawing of a house and to donate. The commercial came on tonight and I said we normally buy a ticket. He said, no, I don't remember buying a ticket.. I'm like What, you motivated me to by a ticket. This is not the first time I reminded him of things and he do not remember. Is this the first sign of Alzheimer's? For me to post this, I am a bit concerned.
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Not necessarily Alzheimer's. There are other causes of memory loss. Look it up online and include his age. Then you should talk to his doctor.
 

My husband is like your husband sometimes @Ladybj but it is only because it is maybe not
quite so important because he knows you will take care of it as you have in the past
I worked in a Nursing Home for many years and the Staff would always say everyone forgets sometimes
You might forget where you put the keys to your car but if you forget you can drive then get checked out
 
Everyone loses their memory at times. It’s not necessarily Alzheimer’s. Only a doctor can diagnose him. Just chill some. I agree with peramangkelder. Men have selective memory too at times or at least mine does.
 
There's a kind of way to differentiate plain old forgetfulness, and Alzheimer's. Anyone can forget where they misplaced a fork, but if you forget what a fork is for-that's an indication of more serious issues. And A. has a host of other tells, it's not just a little forgetfulness. It's changes in mood, combativeness, and irritability.
 
My husband used to forget a lot of things. If something happened last week he'd say it happened yesterday. From what I've seen, buying tickets for anything other than a sports event, truck pulls, or the circus, tends to not stick in a man's brain.
 
My mother in law, (/ex mother in law), used to make some very positive statements about the benefits of being able to forget generally, as it helps clear your mind.
Obviously she was not referring to cases where there is a major deterioration in ones memory, but when my memory slips I do remember her views on the subject, and feel reasonably good about not remembering something! :)
 
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This may be an isolated incident. I wouldn't be too concerned.
BTW, thanks for donating to my also favorite charity, St. Jude Children's Research Hospital.
 
Sometimes my husband has these memory blips too. It’s is worrisome because I know this may be the start for him, or maybe he just forgot. I know I forget things too and my mother had dementia. I wish I could remember at what age it started. It progressed slowly.
 
win231 wrote:"Of course women don't have selective memory"
Keesha said:
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Maybe being a bit selective in whatever we remember, (or choose to remember), is an intrinsic and necessary part of being human?

How dreadful to remember everything equally well for the person with that ability, ("including every slip up of your partner").

I worry a bit that those overly concerning themselves about the level of forgetfulness of others may unwittingly to adding stress to whoever it might be, causing them to repeat their mistakes, (almost a self fulfilling prophecy situation, or vicious circle). :(
 
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win231 wrote:"Of course women don't have selective memory"

Maybe being a bit selective in whatever we remember, (or choose to remember), is an intrinsic and necessary part of being human?
I worry a bit that those overly concerning themselves about the level of forgetfulness of others may unwittingly to adding stress to whoever it might be, causing them to repeat their mistakes, (almost a self fulfilling prophecy situation, or vicious circle). :(
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Actually I agree with you. Even the suggestion that you might be losing your mind isn’t something most people want to accept or acknowledge. This type of inquiry may cause a person to lie or have selective memory. Absolutely.
 
Keesha said:
Actually I agree with you. Even the suggestion that you might be losing your mind isn’t something most people want to accept or acknowledge. This type of inquiry may cause a person to lie or have selective memory. Absolutely.
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There may at the same time be benefit in assisting a significant other to remember things perhaps. I quite often find myself saying "I'll remember this or that in a moment", (someone's name usually), and friends of mine who don't put pressure on you to remember seem to help, because when you stop trying things so often come back to your mind.

When I'm attempting a crossword puzzle I often find I'm completely stuck, especially when tired, but after I've slept I'm amazed at the easy answers I'd been stuck on and couldn't remember before! :)
 
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Ladybj said:
My hubby and I in the past have purchase $100 tickets to St. Jude Children's Hospital for the drawing of a house and to donate. The commercial came on tonight and I said we normally buy a ticket. He said, no, I don't remember buying a ticket.. I'm like What, you motivated me to by a ticket. This is not the first time I reminded him of things and he do not remember. Is this the first sign of Alzheimer's? For me to post this, I am a bit concerned.
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Even if he suggested it in the past, were you the one who actually bought the tickets? Unless he actually performed the action of buying the tickets, the memory or significance of the St. Jude's tickets may be more in the forefront of you memory than his, even if he suggested it.

We all get forgetful as we age, some of us have always been a bit like that, but never paid attention until we got older. I can understand some concern, I don't think there's any couple here who hasn't had some concerns about their spouse or partner in our later years. Please don't go to the serious suspicion of Alzheimer's too soon, just doing that is counterproductive, in my opinion to both you and your husband.

Stay positive and light about it. My husband may mention things to me that clearly stuck out in his mind in past memory, and I didn't give them that much thought. Even when discussing things from our childhood with my sister, I remember things that she's not even aware of, and she'll remember something that I recall, but not in the same way.

This is just my opinion and take on things, as I've experienced them.
 
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