Passing on Items to Your Family

Jules

Jules

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You could have knocked me over. I sent a text to both my daughters asking if they wanted the tablecloth crocheted by their grandmother. Almost instantly got a reply that they both wanted it. Told them to fight it out.

At that point I opened some drawers to look for other non-breakables that I could send. Found one set of appetizer knives. Still no takers on the silverware. I have a feeling one granddaughter might take them and they would just end up in storage in my DD’s house.

I did find another of my mother’s crocheted table runners. I’ll include it in the package. It’s not to my taste but maybe they have a use for it.

I had been at the point of donating to charity.

Maybe I’ve been offering them the wrong things.
 

I'm at the point where I have nothing of interest to pass on to my kids/family anymore. Well maybe some old photo albums if they even want them, but that's about it.

They already have everything of value ... all jewelry, coins and sentimental things of their father's and grandparents.
I made sure they had everything before I made my move to my apartment.
It's a good feeling. ... Now they don't have to wait for me to die to get something ... lol
 
There's a note in an envelope in an old book of Tennyson's poetry that I know my kids will look in after I'm gone. It says "Take whatever you guys want. Know for certain that I know the rest will get tossed out, and I am 100% ok with that."

I probably didn't have to write it but I just want to make sure they don't feel weird tossing a bunch of my crap in the bin.
 
Jules said:
You could have knocked me over. I sent a text to both my daughters asking if they wanted the tablecloth crocheted by their grandmother. Almost instantly got a reply that they both wanted it. Told them to fight it out.

At that point I opened some drawers to look for other non-breakables that I could send. Found one set of appetizer knives. Still no takers on the silverware. I have a feeling one granddaughter might take them and they would just end up in storage in my DD’s house.

I did find another of my mother’s crocheted table runners. I’ll include it in the package. It’s not to my taste but maybe they have a use for it.

I had been at the point of donating to charity.

Maybe I’ve been offering them the wrong things.
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perhaps they'll sell them on FB marketplace :D
 
When we were a younger couple, beginning our family - we were THRILLED to get anything given to us!! We had very little and the budget was tight. Now days, it seems that young couples can just go buy what they want, any time! sigh.

We recently downsized into a smaller home but the downsizing continues yet - just at a slower pace. We have 3 sons and only one is married with 2 sons. I hate to just send them things but told them I would let them all know before I got rid of things - just in case. (My parents sold a whole set of crystal that I would have liked but they never asked and we lived a few states away at the time.) Anyway, I have tried to give provenance whenever I can so they know the history but I doubt they will ultimately take much. It kind of breaks my heart not to have a daughter or granddaughter to pass on special jewelry or more feminine-type things. My only niece doesn't think she wants children so it all ends here. Not sure what do to with some of the precious little bits.
 
Manatee said:
When they come to visit, tell them to write their name on the bottom of anything that they want to have.
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They live on the other side of the country and they don’t come to visit. It’s not that they don’t want to, it’s just not possible logistically because of their work. I go see them.
 
Let's see now, I have two of my granddaughters fighting over my shoe and clothes collection.
my jewelry has already been allocated, between my 3 children, my crochet runners, tablecloths are going to my daughter, My Crystal wear goes to my youngest son and my eldest son wants my stamp and coin collection.
They can fight over whatever else is left. ( shame I won't be around to watch the fighting 😁 )
 
When I moved to my apartment, I passed on my mom's cedar chest (AKA hope chest) to my niece. It is over 80 years old. I had planned on her having it anyway, and knew I would not have a place for it here. When I go, she already knows she gets any of my books she wants..as I fostered her love of reading.
 
I've been passing on down items for years; I don't like to accumulate. I am always afraid that I'll pass first and my husband will be stuck with so many items. Recently, I started going thru a HUGE plastic tub of photos and have been sorting. I took some to my sister Lucy... last week. She enjoyed them. Furniture and small appliances have been given to my stepson.
 
The few things I treasure will probably be viewed as junk to my children.
My daughter is much like me. She gives no worth to THINGS! They're meaningless!
My Son likes STUFF! so he gets to go through all this crap after I die! I've already apologized to him in advance!
 
does this include ===== GAS BILL
ELECTRIC
just kidding ---i will leave all to the boys / pocessions -i have !!
 
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