How important are you? (A Study)

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How Important Are You?​

by James Clark Ross

https://www.thehumanfront.com/embracing-your-ego-part-i/

"It’s easy to conflate ego with some kind of big-headed obnoxiousness. But it’s a very real notion which is applicable to all kinds of people. Take Piers Morgan and the 14th Dalai Lama, who both have big egos. I don’t expect Piers Morgan’s bloated ego to be contested by anyone reading this. But you may deny my claim that the Dalai Lama presupposes his own importance. Allow me to contest this.

With self-entitlement which is characteristic of egotism, one preaches to the public in a manner that suggests he believes his voice is vastly more important than anyone else’s despite a lack of credentials. The other, while in a position of great power, exudes humility and values virtue highly. But the difference between the two isn’t the presence and absence of ego: it’s how they choose to answer to it, for it is definitely there in both cases.

It’s a necessary truth that the Dalai Lama holds onto a high sense of self-importance: he sees himself fit to speak for an entire religion (a hugely popular one at that). Being in a position of great influence like this requires a staunch belief in oneself, much like Morgan’s—a belief that one’s words carry significant importance (unless the person completely unaware of the power they possess, which seems wildly unlikely for the Dalai Lama). Both Morgan and the Dalai Lama, then, must have big egos; they just express them differently."

Egos Dalai Lama.jpg
 

IMO we are the ones that give people, things, ideas, events, etc... their importance.

Take Piers Morgan, he has no significance or importance in my life.

My Mother was very important to me but your Mother had no importance in my life.

The American flag has significance to me but the Norwegian flag has none.

Etc...
 

jujube said:
Want to see how important we are individually? Put your hand into a bucket of water. Remove it slowly. Other than a slight ripple, how much impression did you make in the water when your hand was no longer there?

Of course you can try that with Jello and get results you'd probably like better.....but everything is more important with Jello....
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I just did have my hand(s) in water and the dishes came out clean. What does that mean? :unsure:
 
The Dalai is in a very different position than almost everyone else in the world. He has to believe he's important because it is a basic tenet of his religion that the people who chose him when he was a two year old child were guided to him spiritually. To doubt himself would be to doubt his religion.

The only person I can think of off hand who would understand him would be Queen Elizabeth II. I don't think she has a big ego at all, but I do think she is aware of her importance as the monarch of a huge empire.

I don't share the writer's dislike of Piers Morgan so I'm not sure Piers has a huge ego. He may have I just can't tell. His job is to have and express opinions about topical issues. Just because he does that, doesn't say to me that he thinks he's more important than anyone else or that he is always right. He may go home and second guess himself every night for all I know.
 

How important are you?​


Graham, once upon a time I may have done a few important things, but I can't remember what they were, so they cannot have been very important, therefore, this old wrinkly can't be bit important. :)
 
Aunt Bea said:
IMO we are the ones that give people, things, ideas, events, etc... their importance.
Take Piers Morgan, he has no significance or importance in my life.
My Mother was very important to me but your Mother had no importance in my life.
The American flag has significance to me but the Norwegian flag has none.. Etc...
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You may have liked my mother more than you could imagine, as she could be fairly described as a "complex character"!
She could be a complete pushover when dealing with grandchildren, especially my daughter, whilst being the complete opposite when dealing with my father and his drinking, (my father admitting that for all her soft nature, and being so dependant upon him she couldn't sleep if he wasn't there, she had a very strong core in her character).
 
Della said:
The Dalai is in a very different position than almost everyone else in the world. He has to believe he's important because it is a basic tenet of his religion that the people who chose him when he was a two year old child were guided to him spiritually. To doubt himself would be to doubt his religion.
The only person I can think of off hand who would understand him would be Queen Elizabeth II. I don't think she has a big ego at all, but I do think she is aware of her importance as the monarch of a huge empire.
I don't share the writer's dislike of Piers Morgan so I'm not sure Piers has a huge ego. He may have I just can't tell. His job is to have and express opinions about topical issues. Just because he does that, doesn't say to me that he thinks he's more important than anyone else or that he is always right. He may go home and second guess himself every night for all I know.
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Good to see a single post in favour of Piers ego, and appreciation of it/him, (I'd admit he can serve a useful purpose, drawing out differing opinions, putting former cohost on a breakfast show in her place, and so on).
Piers Morgan interviewed the Dalai Lama and put it to him he didn't have as many twitter follows as Kim Khardasian. His holinesses response did show he did have an ego, but was none the less a good one, "I may not have as many twitter followers but I do have wisdom" he said, (giving a good example of his wisdom in my view). :)
 
fmdog44 said:
No one is important that is why we wither and die.
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I think that's pretty accurate

But

Value

We all have value

Plain folk are really good at it
.....because they jus' don't know


I so love to write about 'em

A Friend

I had a friend, last name of Greasser (of all the names), weighed around 360 lbs in high school and college...just did anything that would cause a stir...a perpetual grin on his ever so ugly mug.
Longish brown hair lying flat on his forehead, somewhat matted.
Always brushing it out of his eyes.
White, almost transparent skin.
Loose, ill fitting clothes.
Shoes, warn down in odd places from the inhibited stride of a fatso.
He was around 6’ 6” and had no hind end, just blubber around his middle, tapering to essentially nothing, and walked with a slump, the backs of his hands pointed forward, arms immobile...like a friggin’ sasquatch.
Quite intelligent, however.
I learned to never strike up a conversation with him on the subject of political science.

Nobody talked about his appearance.

We loved him.

We tried to get him to join in in a scrub game of half court.
His feet never left the ground, and although quick wristed, has hands were like anvils when it came to handling a basketball.
Still, he got a kick out of it, and I knew he loved being included for once in something other than cerebral confabs.
Football was funny.
He just stood there, turning, like he was on a giant electric football field, vibrating nowhere.

He made Western Civ class a riot....even inspired me to crack a book....once.


Met up with him a few years after college (I’d dropped out long ago, he was degreed in several things).

But, selling LP albums out of the trunk of his ’68 Olds 98.

A real free spirit...looking back, reminds me now of Uncle Buck.



I was recently told of his fatal maladies..bunch of stuff, kidneys, liver, heart...all hooked up...hospice.

Damn he loved his gin, weed, fast garbage food, and all night parties.

I miss him right now....really miss him.

To you, Greasser, you magnificent yeti son of a bitch.
 
There are some great lines in Dickens, (obviously! :) ), I mean slightly related to the thread topic.
It concerned a young apprentice lawyer, or some such, working alongside the main character, (possibly David Copperfield, his said to be autobiographical publication).
It was stated early in the book that the young apprentice I mentioned maybe lacked the ability, or business sense to succeed. However, towards the end of the book, when many years had passed, it was admitted there was a failure of judgement, as the apprentice had succeeded far better than expected.

The relevance, if there is any, to the thread topic, is that those negative thoughts about the young apprentice didn't destroy his confidence, or damage his ego, (perhaps they were not passed on to him?).

On other threads all kinds of psychology comes up doesn't it, self esteem playing such a big part in all our lives.

An old boss of mine had many very succinct sayings, concerning judgement failures etc., one being, "When I was growing up I thought how foolish my father was, and when I reached the age of thirty I was amazed how much he'd caught up and learnt in the meantime"! :)
 
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