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I checked with my daughter to see if her and her boyfriend will be coming over for Christmas. I am not planning anything big at all - Thanksgiving was awesome. Well, she informed me that she will be spending Christmas with her boyfriend family...they live out of State 😥
This will be the first Christmas without my baby girl. However, she and her bf spent Thanksgiving with us...therefore I do understand. I still plan on cooking a little - my son may come over. We were invited out on Christmas Eve night but hubby and I will play it by ear... that is a busy time. I start cooking my Christmas dinner on Christmas Eve.

To those that can relate, how was it not spending time with your adult children for the first time on Christmas?
 

We "rotate" the holidays with the In-Laws. One year, we will have our family together on the 25th, and the next year we select a date before or after so the In-Laws can be with their families on the 25th.

This year, our crew will gather on the 18th for a nice dinner and exchange of gifts. Depending upon the weather, my wife and I may just go to the casino on the 25th....where I imagine there will be a lot of Seniors who have similar plans/schedules.
 
Ladybj said:
To those that can relate, how was it not spending time with your adult children for the first time on Christmas?
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You`ll have to ask me in a few weeks. Since we have moved out of state,this will be the first Christmas that we haven`t spent Christmas with all the kids and grands (and greats). We didn`t want to plan on driving to California for Christmas due to the likelihood of bad weather. Also we are hoping to go in January for a big baby shower for our grandson and his wife. Baby girl is due in early March.
 

I can remember for many years being expected to spend Xmas eve, part of Xmas day, and New Years Eve with the in-laws. In between, I would be expected to race out of state often in heavy traffic and with uncertain weather to visit my parents and relatives. Christmas week was a wearing marathon of meeting the expectations of others while barely getting a day to call my own. I’d be glad to go back to work so I could resume normality…🎄
 
I have been spending a quiet Christmas alone for many years now. Not so terrible since I've always been a homebody. I am invited to my son's for Christmas Eve. Their house will be full of his wife's family. Not really interested in hunting stories and their rude behavior toward my son and daughter-in-law. They are afraid of me though so I guess I'll go.
 
If I don't want to spend Christmas alone I have to travel since the closest family (my sister in law) is in the Houston area and I'm in east Texas near Dallas. My niece in Tennessee has been having Christmas at her house for years. It's a long drive and I have to spend one night in a motel coming and going which gets expensive. The first year of Covid we decided everyone should just stay home. The second year of Covid I went to my sister-in-law's home and the two of us enjoyed Christmas together. Now here is the third year of Covid and the plan is for my niece and her husband to fly to Houston and we will celebrate at my S-I-L's house. My S-I-L is 89 and not in good health so this arrangement is probably best for her. Not sure what next year will bring. I would not mind just staying at home where it's quiet, safe and warm with the dog and lots of movies to stream on the tv.
 
It's time to redefine your version of Christmas as empty nesters.

Take some comfort and joy in the fact that the kids are not still sleeping on your sofa or living in your basement.

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"There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other, wings." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
 
4 of my 5 kids live within 35 minutes of me. The oldest lives in California with his wife and 4 kids. He’s lived there since the 90’s so I’ve had plenty of time to get used to not being with him. Both Ron’s kids live in town.

Christmas is a hectic time, though it’s lots of fun too. This will be the first year since Covid that we’ll all gather together. We did a virtual gathering last year.
 
Aunt Bea said:
It's time to redefine your version of Christmas as empty nesters.

Take some comfort and joy in the fact that the kids are not still sleeping on your sofa or living in your basement.

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"There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other, wings." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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I am embracing being an empty nester. This is one hurdle I will get over. I have a feeling, at some point she will be moving out of State. As long as she is doing ok.. All is well. Hubby and I have no problem spending Christmas together.
 

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