What did you like / dislike about where you grew up?

Grew up in the East New York section of Brooklyn, NY which is acknowledged as the worse ghetto in USA history. Hated all the violence, drugs, police corruption, arson fires, gangsters, and other social maladies.

What did I like? The sports. ENY has produced more world boxing champions than any other locality in the world. Grew up playing sports with some really excellent athletes and am glad to say that I was a good athlete, myself. However, am rather small. Wish I had grown up to be big and strong as I would definitely tried out for the pro ranks in sports such as baseball, softball, and volleyball.
 

Where I grew up was Miles City, Montana. The authentic cow town of the West!
The Yellowstone River (MY River) was what I loved the most! I spent every day I possibly could at the river or climbing the hills. Loved the Cottonwood trees, the thunderstorms,( which would come up in a moment) the colors in the skies.
the rodeos, parades, the lights downtown at Christmas, the smells of homemade soups at the restaurants, the wheat fields and cow manure,
and when I turned 15, the cutest BOYS!

Your question took me back to childhood momentarily on a nostalgic ride. I really loved being alive, waking up every morning wondering what wonderful things were going to happen that day!
Sounds wonderous.
What I like about forums is that they allow members to remember things that may have been forgotten.
Unprompted, those great memories fade away and by Bretrick asking such a wide range of questions it allows so many members to reminisce back decades.
 
My parents did not have a lot of money but I never went without. I had friends, I could walk to the library. Museums and art galleries were always a great day out. I disliked having to take two buses to go to high school when my best friend went to the school up the street. I disliked having to go to school in the fog, still do not like fog.
 

What did you like... about where you grew up?​

Pretty much everything, I grew up mostly in semi-rural central Florida, with trips and times to Louisiana. I loved my friends and family, the place the weather, the outdoors, exploring, fishing, the list goes on.

dislike​

The times in the place, the racism and bible belt mentality. Did not see it at the time, but it was not a good thing. I carry some of the residual prejudices still...
 
There are a few YouTube videos of drives down Main St. of the town where I grew up. Not much has changed as far as new architecture, but the old brick buildings have been converted into trendy businesses. My high school was converted into an artist co-op and all the classrooms are now art studios. The factory where I used to work was converted into condos and restaurants. No longer is it dumping waste into the creek that runs next to it.

I haven't been back in almost 40 years. Going back there is on my bucket list of things to do before it's too late.
 
I grew up in the British colony of Hong Kong, an American boy in an international city of people from many, many countries. I and my peer group at school thought of ourselves as Hong Kongers, regardless of whatever our passports said. I loved it there and felt totally comfortable fitting in. I was 14 when we left to live in the USA.....after 20 years of my family living abroad....and America was a foreign seeming place to me.
I witnessed a lot more ethnic and racial friction in America than I ever did in that British colony on the coast of China, where we had a dozen or more nationalities in every school classroom.....multiple races too, multiple religions as well.
But I was a white, bourgeois male so I came to know what privilege meant.
Being born and growing up in the far east, an ex-pat, American gweilo, a TCK.....third culture kid (OK, not third world....that's different).....it was the best gift my family ever gave me.
And it's gone now......it's a lost homeland, changed forever, it's another city in the People's Republic, which it was probably always destined to be.
 
I grew up in the British colony of Hong Kong, an American boy in an international city of people from many, many countries. I and my peer group at school thought of ourselves as Hong Kongers, regardless of whatever our passports said. I loved it there and felt totally comfortable fitting in. I was 14 when we left to live in the USA.....after 20 years of my family living abroad....and America was a foreign seeming place to me.
I witnessed a lot more ethnic and racial friction in America than I ever did in that British colony on the coast of China, where we had a dozen or more nationalities in every school classroom.....multiple races too, multiple religions as well.
But I was a white, bourgeois male so I came to know what privilege meant.
Being born and growing up in the far east, an ex-pat, American gweilo, a TCK.....third culture kid (OK, not third world....that's different).....it was the best gift my family ever gave me.
And it's gone now......it's a lost homeland, changed forever, it's another city in the People's Republic, which it was probably always destined to be.
It is so sad what is happening in Hong Kong.
Good that you have great memories of were you were raised
 

What did you like / dislike about where you grew up?​

No dislikes
Woods to hike
Streams to fish
Gramma and Grampa just up the hill (they raised me)
Kids everwhere

Wrote about it a couple months after I joined here;

Recollections

this became rather lengthy....

Ever so often, I'd drive up to the ol' place for, well, old time's sake.
I always enjoyed the rush of memories, driving the old lane, and around the corner, up the hill onto the flat where most the kid population was, and where gramma's house, my 2nd home, crowned the hill.
Our place and gramma's place was one property, adjoined by five or so acres of strawberry patch, making the patch a short cut between houses.

Not long ago I hired a new engineer, he was a whip.
Ate up everything I could hand him.
Became our I.T.
Made tedious, complex projects his fun little game.
Interfaced quite well with our clients.
We became friends, even though he was in his late 20's, and I in my mid 50's.
Come to find out, his dad lived at and owned the property out there in the hills of Scappoose.
I had to make the trip one more time.

Our little house was ready for razing. The doors were off, the garage my dad and grandpa built (with a hand saw and hammer) were gone.
We stopped. I boosted myself thru the doorless, and stepless porch entry, the closed in porch was our laundry room.
Wringer washer, clothes line, wicker baskets, sweet smells of Fels-Naptha, my place to take off my day's clothes and grab the tub off the wall.
Rooms, once huge, were now so tiny.

The kitchen, remodeled with the rest of the house, still had the red fire alarm above the sink.
Dad would proudly demonstrate to friends how loud it was, putting a glass of hot water up near it.
The wood cook stove was gone, but the pipe coming outa the ceiling, with the ornate metal ring, bore testament of many a meal.
Meals I learned to prepare, taking a few times to learn how to not break an egg yolk, how to get pancakes to turn out like mom's and gramma's, snacks dad showed how he ate when young, tater slices scorched on the cook top, then lightly salted. Tasted horrible, but really good, cookin' with Dad, good.
The table was gone of course. The curvy steel legged one that replaced the solid wood one, well not so solid, as we lost a meal or two due to the one wobbly leg. But that steel one with the gray Formica (?) top was up town.
There I'd sit, waiting out the meal, spreadin' my peas around to make it look like I ate some.
'If you don't at least take a bite of your peas you won't get any cake!'
Eventually, I'd be sittin' at the table alone, studying the gray swirly pattern of the table top, malnourished head propped up on my arm.
Dad, Mom, and sis would be in the living room watchin' Howdy Doody on the Hoffman, or something just as wonderful.
Eventually, I ate cake...then did the dishes.

One Sunday morning I sat at an empty table, but for a glass of milk and the One-a-Day pill bottle. Dad and Mom were exasperated... 'Your throat is this big, the pill is this big'..minutes-hours passed, shadows on the table shortened...'OK, just drink your milk'
I drained the glass between pursed lips.
The little brown pill remained at the bottom.
Nice try, parents from satan.

We had a lot of beans, navy, pinto, brown.
Beans on bread was quite regular. Got to like'n it..not much choice really.
Had chocolate cake with white icing for dessert. No dessert plates. Cake just plopped on the bean juice.
To this day, I still have a craving for cake soaked in bean juice.

The house was designed so's I could ride my trike around and around, kitchen, living, bed, bath, bed rooms.
They were my Daytona, straight away was the bed, bath and bed rooms.
We had large windows in the front corners of the house from the remodel, 'so we can look out, for godsake'.
Now we could watch log trucks barrelin' down Pisgah Home Rd, and my sis and I could have a bird's eye vantage from the kitchen when Dad backed the Bel Air outta the garage over three of the four kittens puss had had weeks earlier under the porch.
Took my sis quite awhile to get over that, as she'd just named 'em a few hours earlier. I was just enamored with the scene; romp-play-mew-look up-smat.
Dad didn't know until he got home.
Actually, it saved him an' I a trip, as when he thought we had too many cats around, we'd toss a bunch into a gunny sack and once down the road, hurl 'em out the window of our speeding chevy.
I haven't maintained the sack-o-cats legacy, but there have been times....

The living room still had the oil stove that warmed us...in the living room.
A flash of memory recalled the two end tables and lamps, aerodynamic, tables sharp, cutcha, lamps with flying saucer shapes, one had butterfly like images formed into its material, and when lit, enhanced their appearance.
A sectional couch, we were up town.
Before the sectional, we had one that kinda placed you in the middle, no matter where you started. It was my favorite, as sis and I spent many a day on it when sick.
Mom would lay out the sheets and blankets, administering doses of tea, crackers, and toast, peaches if we felt up to it.
Waste basket stationed at the tail end of that couch, since we were in such a weakened state we could never make it to the bathroom.
Mom loved it, our own personal Mother Teresa.
Yeah, we milked it for days...school work piling up.
Recovery would finally occur once bed sores emerged.
When we were actually sick, Doctor Day would visit. Fascinating, black bag, weird tools, gauzes, pill bottles, the smell of disinfectant and tobacco. Then the shot.
It was all almost worth it.

Asian flu was a bit serious, but chicken pox was horrific for me.
It was Christmas, fever, pox forming.
Presents! Guns! Six shooters!...only there was this pock right on my trigger finger. It was like free ham for a practicing orthodox Jew.


Dad, always the entrepreneur, would use the living room as the media center, inviting salesmen with projectors and actual reel to reel set ups, showing us how to become a thousandaire overnight.
Nutri-bio was one, to take the place of one-a-days I guess.
The Chinchilla movie was fascinating, and we even took a trip to a guy's garage to see how they were raised. Turns out they need an even controlled temp to get a good coat, and actually keep 'em alive.
The Geiger counter became something to show company, and become an antique.
Dad and Mom's bedroom held few memories for me except for the time Mom found a nest of baby mice in the bottom dresser drawer...and a hammer.
There was that other brief time, but seems we were all pretty shocked.
My bedroom was actually our bedroom, sis and me.
After the remodel, we got twin beds, new ones.
Recall my first migraine in my new bed, pressing my head into the pillow. Teddy no consolation, but then I didn't really give it an honest try to fix his dented plastic nose either.
Dad was the bedtime story teller, Goldie/bears, red/the wolf, pigs/wolf..pretty standard stuff....but did the job.
Had a framed picture of a collie baying over a lamb in a snow storm hanging over my bed. It hangs over my light stand table today, found in some of my mother's stuff.

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The yard was not spectacular, but when sequestered from the woods, was plenty for me. I'd play in the dirt.

FTiWAqO.jpg

Mom, in her no-remote-thought-of-divorce-happiest-I'll-ever-be-but-don't-know-it days, would be cleaning the house, wiping something on the windows that would become a swirly fog, then wiping that off. Cleaning the floor was sweep, mop, wax. Linoleum was the rage.
Lunch would be a great, but simple sandwich, with lettuce, and soup.

The icebox held short stemmed dessert glasses of homemade chocolate pudding, each centered with a half maraschino cherry. For the longest time I thought cherries came that way straight from the tree.
Cross over the Bridge, or Sunny Side of the Street played on the radio. Then it was a Paul Harvey segment.



Nobody close died, there were no wars I was aware of, and folks were generally at ease during that eight year era of fond memories, just fragrant recollections.


This aging cynic, years of crust giving way to a soft spot, down deep, had a hard moment of holding back visual emotion, as we drove away from the last tangible vision ever to be seen of the house of a sweet early life.
 
There are a few YouTube videos of drives down Main St. of the town where I grew up. Not much has changed as far as new architecture, but the old brick buildings have been converted into trendy businesses. My high school was converted into an artist co-op and all the classrooms are now art studios. The factory where I used to work was converted into condos and restaurants. No longer is it dumping waste into the creek that runs next to it.

I haven't been back in almost 40 years. Going back there is on my bucket list of things to do before it's too late.
Sounds like they have sensible town planners, keeping the original and converting. So many towns razed to the ground , no greenspace condos etc, etc. Maybe other city councils should be looking at your town.
 
I live very close to where I grew up.

I like our weather with the four seasons, and, it's generally mild. It's rural here and crime is relatively low.

I like the wildlife that live here, the waterways and mountains. Some good trails. It's a paradise if you're a motorcycle rider. The night sky is not very contaminated with light so star gazing is decent.

Not a lot to dislike here.
 
I grew up 1/4 mile from a paper factory. This was years before environmental regulations. The smell of sulfur frequently hung in the air, especially on warm, humid days. I even remember the huge piles of coal and sulfur along the highway. Many employees that worked there died from cancer - my dad included. This is how it looked many years ago from an old postcard. It shut down in 1971 when they couldn't meet the new environmental regulations.

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I loved growing up in NYC. All the museums, zoos, etc. were free. When I was a teenager I began hanging out in the Village. I appreciated the transit system to get me to these places. I loved when, as an adult, I lived rural, and I loved living in suburbia but I'm so glad I grew up surrounded by so many advantages.

I did not want my child growing up rural. I saw too many drunk driving & really bad drugs among teenagers because life in a rural community is boring for many kids. I know this because I asked them. Kids need stimulation.
 
I was a kid in the 70's and a teen and young adult in the 80's. Growing up in the 70's I loved playing hopscotch outside with my girlfriends. I also was kind of a tomboy so I loved being outside. There was no phones attached to our hands and all this Tik Tok and Snapchat stuff like it is today. Kids today don't get outside and play today much at all. In the 80's in high school, I loved the music U2, REM, The B-52's, Journey, Bon Jovi, The Go-Go's, and The Bangles. This was also the MTV time when MTV actually played cool music. I also remember hanging at the mall a lot with my friends thinking I was the coolest thing in the world and probably driving the adults who were trying to just shop crazy.

In the 70's I hated Disco. In the 80's a lot of teens and young adults smoked and drugs were big. That was not my thing at all.
 

What did you like / dislike about where you grew up?​

No dislikes
Woods to hike
Streams to fish
Gramma and Grampa just up the hill (they raised me)
Kids everwhere

Wrote about it a couple months after I joined here;

Recollections

this became rather lengthy....

Ever so often, I'd drive up to the ol' place for, well, old time's sake.
I always enjoyed the rush of memories, driving the old lane, and around the corner, up the hill onto the flat where most the kid population was, and where gramma's house, my 2nd home, crowned the hill.
Our place and gramma's place was one property, adjoined by five or so acres of strawberry patch, making the patch a short cut between houses.

Not long ago I hired a new engineer, he was a whip.
Ate up everything I could hand him.
Became our I.T.
Made tedious, complex projects his fun little game.
Interfaced quite well with our clients.
We became friends, even though he was in his late 20's, and I in my mid 50's.
Come to find out, his dad lived at and owned the property out there in the hills of Scappoose.
I had to make the trip one more time.

Our little house was ready for razing. The doors were off, the garage my dad and grandpa built (with a hand saw and hammer) were gone.
We stopped. I boosted myself thru the doorless, and stepless porch entry, the closed in porch was our laundry room.
Wringer washer, clothes line, wicker baskets, sweet smells of Fels-Naptha, my place to take off my day's clothes and grab the tub off the wall.
Rooms, once huge, were now so tiny.

The kitchen, remodeled with the rest of the house, still had the red fire alarm above the sink.
Dad would proudly demonstrate to friends how loud it was, putting a glass of hot water up near it.
The wood cook stove was gone, but the pipe coming outa the ceiling, with the ornate metal ring, bore testament of many a meal.
Meals I learned to prepare, taking a few times to learn how to not break an egg yolk, how to get pancakes to turn out like mom's and gramma's, snacks dad showed how he ate when young, tater slices scorched on the cook top, then lightly salted. Tasted horrible, but really good, cookin' with Dad, good.
The table was gone of course. The curvy steel legged one that replaced the solid wood one, well not so solid, as we lost a meal or two due to the one wobbly leg. But that steel one with the gray Formica (?) top was up town.
There I'd sit, waiting out the meal, spreadin' my peas around to make it look like I ate some.
'If you don't at least take a bite of your peas you won't get any cake!'
Eventually, I'd be sittin' at the table alone, studying the gray swirly pattern of the table top, malnourished head propped up on my arm.
Dad, Mom, and sis would be in the living room watchin' Howdy Doody on the Hoffman, or something just as wonderful.
Eventually, I ate cake...then did the dishes.

One Sunday morning I sat at an empty table, but for a glass of milk and the One-a-Day pill bottle. Dad and Mom were exasperated... 'Your throat is this big, the pill is this big'..minutes-hours passed, shadows on the table shortened...'OK, just drink your milk'
I drained the glass between pursed lips.
The little brown pill remained at the bottom.
Nice try, parents from satan.

We had a lot of beans, navy, pinto, brown.
Beans on bread was quite regular. Got to like'n it..not much choice really.
Had chocolate cake with white icing for dessert. No dessert plates. Cake just plopped on the bean juice.
To this day, I still have a craving for cake soaked in bean juice.

The house was designed so's I could ride my trike around and around, kitchen, living, bed, bath, bed rooms.
They were my Daytona, straight away was the bed, bath and bed rooms.
We had large windows in the front corners of the house from the remodel, 'so we can look out, for godsake'.
Now we could watch log trucks barrelin' down Pisgah Home Rd, and my sis and I could have a bird's eye vantage from the kitchen when Dad backed the Bel Air outta the garage over three of the four kittens puss had had weeks earlier under the porch.
Took my sis quite awhile to get over that, as she'd just named 'em a few hours earlier. I was just enamored with the scene; romp-play-mew-look up-smat.
Dad didn't know until he got home.
Actually, it saved him an' I a trip, as when he thought we had too many cats around, we'd toss a bunch into a gunny sack and once down the road, hurl 'em out the window of our speeding chevy.
I haven't maintained the sack-o-cats legacy, but there have been times....

The living room still had the oil stove that warmed us...in the living room.
A flash of memory recalled the two end tables and lamps, aerodynamic, tables sharp, cutcha, lamps with flying saucer shapes, one had butterfly like images formed into its material, and when lit, enhanced their appearance.
A sectional couch, we were up town.
Before the sectional, we had one that kinda placed you in the middle, no matter where you started. It was my favorite, as sis and I spent many a day on it when sick.
Mom would lay out the sheets and blankets, administering doses of tea, crackers, and toast, peaches if we felt up to it.
Waste basket stationed at the tail end of that couch, since we were in such a weakened state we could never make it to the bathroom.
Mom loved it, our own personal Mother Teresa.
Yeah, we milked it for days...school work piling up.
Recovery would finally occur once bed sores emerged.
When we were actually sick, Doctor Day would visit. Fascinating, black bag, weird tools, gauzes, pill bottles, the smell of disinfectant and tobacco. Then the shot.
It was all almost worth it.

Asian flu was a bit serious, but chicken pox was horrific for me.
It was Christmas, fever, pox forming.
Presents! Guns! Six shooters!...only there was this pock right on my trigger finger. It was like free ham for a practicing orthodox Jew.


Dad, always the entrepreneur, would use the living room as the media center, inviting salesmen with projectors and actual reel to reel set ups, showing us how to become a thousandaire overnight.
Nutri-bio was one, to take the place of one-a-days I guess.
The Chinchilla movie was fascinating, and we even took a trip to a guy's garage to see how they were raised. Turns out they need an even controlled temp to get a good coat, and actually keep 'em alive.
The Geiger counter became something to show company, and become an antique.
Dad and Mom's bedroom held few memories for me except for the time Mom found a nest of baby mice in the bottom dresser drawer...and a hammer.
There was that other brief time, but seems we were all pretty shocked.
My bedroom was actually our bedroom, sis and me.
After the remodel, we got twin beds, new ones.
Recall my first migraine in my new bed, pressing my head into the pillow. Teddy no consolation, but then I didn't really give it an honest try to fix his dented plastic nose either.
Dad was the bedtime story teller, Goldie/bears, red/the wolf, pigs/wolf..pretty standard stuff....but did the job.
Had a framed picture of a collie baying over a lamb in a snow storm hanging over my bed. It hangs over my light stand table today, found in some of my mother's stuff.

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The yard was not spectacular, but when sequestered from the woods, was plenty for me. I'd play in the dirt.

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Mom, in her no-remote-thought-of-divorce-happiest-I'll-ever-be-but-don't-know-it days, would be cleaning the house, wiping something on the windows that would become a swirly fog, then wiping that off. Cleaning the floor was sweep, mop, wax. Linoleum was the rage.
Lunch would be a great, but simple sandwich, with lettuce, and soup.

The icebox held short stemmed dessert glasses of homemade chocolate pudding, each centered with a half maraschino cherry. For the longest time I thought cherries came that way straight from the tree.
Cross over the Bridge, or Sunny Side of the Street played on the radio. Then it was a Paul Harvey segment.



Nobody close died, there were no wars I was aware of, and folks were generally at ease during that eight year era of fond memories, just fragrant recollections.


This aging cynic, years of crust giving way to a soft spot, down deep, had a hard moment of holding back visual emotion, as we drove away from the last tangible vision ever to be seen of the house of a sweet early life.
I love reading your stories, @Gary O' - keep them coming! I felt I was there. Thanks also, for sharing the photos.:)
 
We moved around a lot when I was young, but it was all in the Cleveland area. I disliked the snow immensely. In the heart of winter, I had to wait outside for the school bus, the biting cold numbing my face and hands. I remember the wool scarf wrapped around my face would keep me somewhat warm but many times, it wasn't enough, and often it got icecicles, and my glasses would fog up. Many a time, I slipped on the icy sidewalk trying to get on the bus. That kept me humble! :)
 


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