Do You or Did you Have an Escape Fund?

Sorry, I no longer need one at my age and stage. My most recent escape fund was spent on a prepaid funeral...:D
 
Ken I understand that most people are very happy in their partnerships especially (as ralphy says)...at this age..but many are not, and to suddenly find yourself homeless or in need of an escape with nowhere to go and no money to go with is a terrifying concept for the young but more so for older folks who usually have no financial income of their own, so hence the question...do You now..or did you ever in the past, have an escape fund or even wished you'd had one?
 
hollydolly said:
Ken I understand that most people are very happy in their partnerships especially (as ralphy says)...at this age..but many are not, and to suddenly find yourself homeless or in need of an escape with nowhere to go and no money to go with is a terrifying concept for the young but more so for older folks who usually have no financial income of their own, so hence the question...do You now..or did you ever in the past, have an escape fund or even wished you'd had one?
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Never had one..Been married 51 years and honestly I don't ever think she did either. We got married at 19 (1963) and started our family (6) at 21..
 
I've never had one but could have used it with husbands number 1 and 2. If I'd had the money I would have been gone like a shot much earlier.

Don't need it with this one. 100% sure we are staying together.
 
I never needed one; because I always earnt enough to go and change my bank account and survive.
 
That's the thing tho' VJ...so many people ( women especially) either only worked part-time or not at all and were often stuck in partnerships due to lack of available funds to enable them to leave .
 
I have two bank accounts and two savings accounts in my name. And gold and silver coins in the gun safe. My ex knew I had the coins, but there was no way to prove it, or to find them. :playful:
 
No Hollydolly, never had one myself or needed one, but I agree it is a good idea to have one. Reminds me of this story about a guy at work who had a secret savings account. Not sure the real reason for it, but I think his wife was very controlling. Anyhoo, he confided in another female worker about it, and she went back and told his wife. That's how I found out about the whole thing, he told me what took place and said he was in very hot water with his wife for the secrecy. One thing for sure, if I had an 'escape' fund, I'd shut my mouth about it and keep it to myself, lol.
 
Never had such a fund and never will. Wife and I just don't have that kind of marriage! "Escape", heck no! I love my wife and she loves me! Such nonsense!
 
hollydolly said:
That's the thing tho' VJ...so many people ( women especially) either only worked part-time or not at all and were often stuck in partnerships due to lack of available funds to enable them to leave .
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That's the thing HD.... it is usually the woman who would need such a fund, particularly if she never worked outside the home and her husband kept tight control over the money. I've seen women use all sorts of tricks to squirrel away money for a rainy day. Buying groceries and returning them... etc.. just to put a few bucks aside for contingencies.
 
AZ Jim said:
Holly, if I felt the need for a "escape fund", I would be gone now. No need here.
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Jim, although where escape funds are concerned men are definitely part of that equation, the majority of people who nurture an escape fund are women, and mostly abused women at that.
So many women rely on their abused husbands for a roof over they and their childrens' heads and have nowhere to go because financially they are strapped. If it's at all possible for people who are living with abuse whether emotionally or physically.. to squirrel away some kind of back up fund to allow them to escape their abuser, then why shouldn't they?...I am all for that believe me!!
 
QuickSilver said:
That's the thing HD.... it is usually the woman who would need such a fund, particularly if she never worked outside the home and her husband kept tight control over the money. I've seen women use all sorts of tricks to squirrel away money for a rainy day. Buying groceries and returning them... etc.. just to put a few bucks aside for contingencies.
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sorry QS I posted that last post before seeing your last one....absolutely I totally agree with you, if people can do this , it not only gives them a chance of escape but also Hope.
 
Agree, Holly; didn't mean to appear smug; just lucky......and I did leave!
no violence or abuse though.....lucky again.
it is usually women; often with children; who have no money and nowhere to go; and who have no support or advice either.

but I did meet one woman; who was beaten up regularly; who refused to leave; she liked the lifestyle too much......each to their own i suppose..
 
hollydolly said:
Jim, although where escape funds are concerned men are definitely part of that equation, the majority of people who nurture an escape fund are women, and mostly abused women at that.
So many women rely on their abused husbands for a roof over they and their childrens' heads and have nowhere to go because financially they are strapped. If it's at all possible for people who are living with abuse whether emotionally or physically.. to squirrel away some kind of back up fund to allow them to escape their abuser, then why shouldn't they?...I am all for that believe me!!
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Absolutely Holly. Women trapped in an abusive relationship should not only stash some cash but should have a woman's shelter telephone number at the ready.
 
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