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palides2021 said:
This was the first time my neighbor wasn't around to do our driveway and get rid of the snow. He and his family were away, so I had called a snow removal company to get rid of the snow. They said they'll come by Monday. I called them three times between Friday and today to make sure. Meanwhile, this afternoon, I had gone out and shoveled the steps and path, and the snow had become icy, so much so, that my legs were trembling because it weighed so much! I also went to the front of the driveway to get rid of the mountain of snow that is piled up there from the passing snow removal trucks. Hard as ice. They were literarily ice rocks. I threw several to the side. I got out of breath fast. My other neighbor saw me and came out to see if I needed assistance. He's in his 60s and I didn't want to bother him. God forbid something happened to him while he tried clearing my driveway!

I told him,"I'm expecting the snow removal company, but they haven't come yet."

He shook his head and left.

I called the company again, and now they told me they'll be coming soon. I told them it's really icy.
He said "no problem" but my legs are still shaking from being out there, and that reminds me of my limitations. I used to be able to shovel our driveway in the past (although it does take time).

Without my son and neighbor to help this year, it has been quite a revelation. This will be my new normal.
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Take care of yourself!
 

Jules said:
What a nightmare for you to know about and have so little input, @hollydolly It seems like a government agency needs to get in there quickly, if you don’t feel you‘re overstepping your bounds. The old fellow obviously doesn’t have the capacity to be on his own or making decisions.
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That's the problem I would feel like I'm overstepping my boundaries Jules, being as I know the son since we were all teenagers.. and he's clearly told me today his father ''doesn't want' any home help... I know the father is and always has been Bombastic, and a few years ago I would have agreed that he'd refused help because he would have said in no uncertain terms that he didn't want help.. but now he's not aware of his surroundings or who is who in his home, or even what room he's in which was one of the questions asked of him by the paramedics.
We were in fact in his livingroom at the time ., but his reply at first was to say which town he's in, and after some coaxing and wild guessing, he finally said he was in the BIG room.. ( they wanted to hear livingroom of course but big room satisfied them) , and then he started rambling about there being 4 rooms in the livingroom... and then tried to coax the wall unit to eat a sweet from his candy bowl ...yet the paramedics, felt he didn't need any extra care..

I got them to call the son directly , and the son then called me and said he felt assured by the paramedics that his father only needed a little 'help aid watch' and was as fit as a flea ... 😣
 
I knew he;d fallen the evidence was that he;d got out of bed, fallen hard, and in his attempt to steady himself he's knocked over numerous items including the lamp which was smashed.. This had clearly disorientated and confused him to the point where he perhaps went looking for help without shoes or a coat.. and no keys..

However.. when the Paramedics questioned him as to if he;d fallen, he denied it.. no, never fell.. they asked him again 4 times over about 20 minutes, and not until the 5th time did he admit ( or remember ) he'd fallen.. but then of course couldn't describe how or where he;d fallen...
 

hollydolly said:
That's the problem I would feel like I'm overstepping my boundaries Jules, being as I know the son since we were all teenagers.. and he's clearly told me today his father ''doesn't want' any home help... I know the father is and always has been Bombastic, and a few years ago I would have agreed that he'd refused help because he would have said in no uncertain terms that he didn't want help.. but now he's not aware of his surroundings or who is who in his home, or even what room he's in which was one of the questions asked of him by the paramedics.
We were in fact in his livingroom at the time ., but his reply at first was to say which town he's in, and after some coaxing and wild guessing, he finally said he was in the BIG room.. ( they wanted to hear livingroom of course but big room satisfied them) , and then he started rambling about there being 4 rooms in the livingroom... and then tried to coax the wall unit to eat a sweet from his candy bowl ...yet the paramedics, felt he didn't need any extra care..

I got them to call the son directly , and the son then called me and said he felt assured by the paramedics that his father only needed a little 'help aid watch' and was as fit as a flea ... 😣
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This begs the question of what level of cognitive loss or confusion does one need to have before authorities report it or step in?

I'd guess your neighbor is already a danger to himself. He could easily accidentally set his house on fire, wander outside and get lost while improperly dressed for the weather, ingest non-foods, and so forth. His son might also take into consideration that his father's mental state leaves him highly vulnerable to scamming fast-talkers, in which case any inheritance could quickly be gone with the wind.

What a sad situation.
 
hollydolly said:
There's a family friend who comes once a week to bring him some food.. and she's supposed to clean, so for all these years I've just presumed she has been cleaning, because the lace curtains to the outside world are clean as is the doorstep... but it's clear she's not been cleaning.. probably just taking a vac over the carpet and nothing more.. . and as for the food well I think she must be eating that herself.. because aside from the rice pudding cans, there is no food in there except some biscuits ( cookies)... the kitchen floor has all sorts of detritus all over it, and there was no surface I could touch without getting my hand stuck to it, door handles etc..

His son says he's refused any kind of social help, but IMO he's not in the position to make decisions for himself.. he doesn't understand what's being said to him very much.. and he's almost totally deaf and blind, but as I say because his vitals were strong and despite not drinking water or any liquids the paramedics stated for some amazing reason he's not dehydrated so there was nothing they could do, they couldn't insist on taking him for further tests at the hospital.
Since the pandemic there has been such a shortage of ancillary workers.. and nursing staff of any kind

My ex sister in law has dementia, and Cellulites at only 66, and due to the lack of hospital or care home places she's been provided a Hospital bed for the downstairs bedroom of her house, and has to rely on nursing staff to care for her along with her son...
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You (if you want) could probably notify your Dept of Social Services, and tell them you suspect some form of 'elder abuse ' going on. They would then send someone out to investigate him and his living conditions.

Would also notify his son...
 
dobielvr said:
You (if you want) could probably notify your Dept of Social Services, and tell them you suspect some form of 'elder abuse ' going on. They would then send someone out to investigate him and his living conditions.

Would also notify his son...
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he's not being abused, his son is well aware of how he lives... that's the problem. The house is not messy , it's filthy but no mess if you see what I mean.. so it's not being given a deep clean, the floors are horrible.. and counter tops are dirty, and it's not against the law to have it like that if the old guy is deemed of sound mind. According to his son, he's refused any help.. and his son comes and visits him every few weeks in the summer to do the gardening, which is clearly for outsiders eyes, because there's nothing being done in the home..
 
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moviequeen1 said:
I went on my early walk this morning around 7:10 just to see if the sidewalks had been shovelled which is a city ordiance,most were I went halfway down my street temp was 26
I needed to go to Walgreens so I walked to the corner of my street where there is bus stop which had not been cleared,the snow pile was too high to stand. I walked to the next bus stop 2 blocks,the pile was smaller but I had to stand in the st by the curb
The Walgreens I go to is notrious for not shovelling their sidewalks in a timely manner. I took into consideration the 18 inches of snow we got yesterday, notice other businesses had their sidewalks shoveled. The driveway at Walgreens was plowed looked the sidewalk had not be touched at all. I went down a path that had been made by others hanging on to small tree branches,part of a brick wall. I said to the manager'you need to shovel your sidewalks its a city ordiance,its awful out there' She told me 'the guy came yesterday we' re waiting for him' I didn't believe her
I got my items&left, standing around the driveway were 3 Buffalo police cops shooting the breeze. I thought to myself 'we pay them to do this?" went back up the same path which was difficult since I have a partial knee with arthritis. I slid&fell started crawling to push myself back up.I heard a voice behind me 'are you ok' I said 'yes 'as I was swearing to myself As was waiting for the bus across the street notice the plow guy was back doing the driveway but not the sidewalk
When I got home, I iced the knee as I usually do
After lunch/nap took another walk the sun was out went halfway down the street.The joys of living in a 'winter wonderland' I'm ready for spring!
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Sorry you had to go through that! Slipping and sliding on the snow/ice is no fun! Take care of your knee and please take it easy.
 
Having said all that about my 100 old neighbour..

... just about 20 minutes ago, my other very sweet neighbour rang the bell.. with these for me.. 🥰..They are my daughters' age , she's Polish, and they have lived here for over 10 years. I helped her and her husband with something .. and she dropped these off as a thank you gift.. how lovely was that ?.. I don't drink alcohol, but she doesn't know that, and I didn't tell her but what a lovely gesture.

Sorry for the darkness of the pic but I only had low light on in the livingroom...I was in such a rush to show you ll..

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Perhaps I should have posted this on the friendly neighbours thread...😃
 
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hollydolly said:
Well it's been a very interesting and hectic morning.. my elderly neighbour 2 doors along, is 100 years old and lives alone. he fell this morning at home, and got disorientated, left his home without wearing shoes, and locked himself out of the house in the freezing cold.. so it's been a morning for me to call a locksmith and get his door open to get him in, despite explaining the circs, and the urgency, they took 3 hours to come. The ambulance are here now they've been there now for 2 hours, I left them with him to come back home after staying with him for over an hour while we waited for the paramedics and then explaining all to them, , but despite the fact that he's clearly incapable of looking after himself, he has stopped drinking fluids so now he's dehydrated, his vitals are all looking good so they can;t take him to hospital. he has no idea who they are..and should not be living alone..

I called his son who lives 2 hours away and he can't get there today... :rolleyes:..I know the son well, from when we were young, and IMO the son is just waiting for the father to die, so he can inherit, hence not getting him any home help
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Thank goodness you were there, HD!🌹
 
Stella is sick, had diarrhea last night so had to wash all her bedding and her this morning. She refuses to eat and is just sleeping; but she did drink a little this morning. Strange as we never take her out. She has decided to sleep all day. She will have to go to the vet if she does not feel better.
 
Have a Dell UHD 24 inch 4k external monitor running off my laptop. Watching the below, my eyes about 1 foot from screen center. Below is for the Windows 10 Firefox browser.

8:41pm PST. Just spent last half hour sequencing through portrait art images. Not something I've done before with my computer but hey new things to find every day. This photographer (landscape/nature) will repeat in the future since looking at women's pretty faces close up has always made me happy though don't do portraits.

On https://www.yahoo.com/

Search with "faces women beautiful"
mouse select one's browser Images tab.
Thumbnails display.
Mouse select the top left image that then displays that center screen.
Use the arrow at frame right to sequence through images.
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Lots of smiling beautiful eyes and lips has put me feeling...kissy. Like the close-ups with high skin detail. Notice in the below the rectangular white reflections in her eyes that reflects the shape of the studio lighting used.

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Also tried "faces womens brunette" and "faces womens eyeglasses" that had good results. The latter I liked best, had many images from eyeglass businesses so many more professional, everyday, and a look of intelligent inner deepness in the models. More attracted to women looking so.

The Yahoo site Images were also easy to view conveniently on my Android smartphone using same search terms.
 
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Yesterday I started the process of adding photos to a USB for use in a digital frame. Today I'll scan the framed photos that inhabited the fireplace mantel and will put the frames in the donation box. Hope to get through this chore today and move onto something tomorrow that I've been putting off for several years - going through all our out-of-date desktops and laptops, learn how to wipe their hard drive (or remove them???) so I can drop them off at the city haz waste recycling center this weekend.

Will look under the SF "Computers and Phones" heading to see if anyone has posted instructions (or links) for how to do this. Yes, the internet is loaded with advice, but I'm hoping to be pointed in a good direction from my SF friends.
 

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