I Invited My Son To Move Back Home

OneEyedDiva

OneEyedDiva

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After my DIL died last month, their oldest son, who found her, couldn’t stand to live in their three bedroom apartment any longer. Their second oldest had already moved in with his GF. My son now has no one to share the household expenses, which are high and does not need that size apartment anyway. I thought it would be best if he moves back in with me until he finds a decent place. He said a nice studio would do him fine but those with reasonable prices in decent areas are scarce right now.

His wife’s death also left him with unexpected expenses. As if that’s not bad enough, his car needs major repairs so sometimes he has to take an Uber to work in another city and that gets costly. He’s been able to borrow my honorary daughter’s car for the last couple of weeks because she had surgery and can’t drive right now. Moving back here puts him closer to work and will save on his housing expenses big time since our carrying charges (HOA fees) and my utilities are already so low. He’ll gladly split the cost.

It will be beneficial for me as well. He’s already told me he plans to see to it that I eat healthier and will do a lot of cooking. I love that because I hate to cook. He’ll be the company I need and it should be more convenient for us to work on our music projects together. My son was concerned about disturbing me when he gets up to get ready for work (around 2:30a.m.) but with my weird sleeping schedule over the past few months, I’ll already be up anyway. He called my BFF the other day to thank her for her condolence gift and she told him I’m excited about him moving in. He told her he’s excited too. My son and I are known to keep each other laughing. We both need that right now. @Pecos
 

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Tish said:
Great thinking.
You are such a beautiful caring person.
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Awwww...Thank you so much Tish; you're so sweet❣️ @Aunt Bea there shouldn't be too much of an adjustment. He often has long hours either due to work and/or familial responsibilities. He usually goes to bed around 8:00. The biggest adjustment for me is that I'll be either watching my shows on T.V. during the daytime or using earbuds to watch them on my tablet after he goes to bed so as not to disturb him. No biggie.

Another positive is that this has forced me go through papers that I've had for years which can be discarded or shredded and to get rid of some things I meant to get rid of years ago. I'm bagging the papers that have to be shredded to take to the shredder truck.

@Aunt Bea @terry123 @Tish @Lavinia @Devi Thank you so much for your well wishes❣️
 
Well, that should work well for both of you Diva. You can keep each other company as well. When my DIL passed 3 years ago, the first thing my son said, was that he couldn't stay in their house. But, they had just renovated it and I stayed with him for awhile. Well, he's still there, and while he couldn't stand it alone, I wish he hadn't gotten himself involved with the woman who move in with him. She's almost 5 years older, has ruined one husband's life and driven her son from the bosom of their family. I've known her for 30yrs.. and she is trouble with a capital. T.

Better, that you son is with you for a lot of reasons, Diva. Enjoy each other.
 
OneEyedDiva said:
After my DIL died last month, their oldest son, who found her, couldn’t stand to live in their three bedroom apartment any longer. Their second oldest had already moved in with his GF. My son now has no one to share the household expenses, which are high and does not need that size apartment anyway. I thought it would be best if he moves back in with me until he finds a decent place. He said a nice studio would do him fine but those with reasonable prices in decent areas are scarce right now.

His wife’s death also left him with unexpected expenses. As if that’s not bad enough, his car needs major repairs so sometimes he has to take an Uber to work in another city and that gets costly. He’s been able to borrow my honorary daughter’s car for the last couple of weeks because she had surgery and can’t drive right now. Moving back here puts him closer to work and will save on his housing expenses big time since our carrying charges (HOA fees) and my utilities are already so low. He’ll gladly split the cost.

It will be beneficial for me as well. He’s already told me he plans to see to it that I eat healthier and will do a lot of cooking. I love that because I hate to cook. He’ll be the company I need and it should be more convenient for us to work on our music projects together. My son was concerned about disturbing me when he gets up to get ready for work (around 2:30a.m.) but with my weird sleeping schedule over the past few months, I’ll already be up anyway. He called my BFF the other day to thank her for her condolence gift and she told him I’m excited about him moving in. He told her he’s excited too. My son and I are known to keep each other laughing. We both need that right now. @Pecos
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This is a wonderful plan for you both, Diva. You will be a comfort to him and he will be company for you now and then. A cook too! 🌹
 
It's a fabulous idea.. I feel that your son needs company and of course love since his great loss, as well as help with regard his financial situation... and who better than his mum for both of those.. and you Diva, would be delighted to have him there as well for company too, your beloved son.... so I think it's the best thing all around even if it's only while your son's heart heals...
 
Thank you all so much for your positive and encouraging words❣️ Things are working out very well. We are company for each other when needed and we stay out of each others' way when needed. :D As I suspected, we are working on our music projects more and it's easier being here together. I didn't have to make too many adjustments in the way I do things; in fact some of the changes I made are for the better.

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OneEyedDiva said:
After my DIL died last month, their oldest son, who found her, couldn’t stand to live in their three bedroom apartment any longer. Their second oldest had already moved in with his GF. My son now has no one to share the household expenses, which are high and does not need that size apartment anyway. I thought it would be best if he moves back in with me until he finds a decent place. He said a nice studio would do him fine but those with reasonable prices in decent areas are scarce right now.

His wife’s death also left him with unexpected expenses. As if that’s not bad enough, his car needs major repairs so sometimes he has to take an Uber to work in another city and that gets costly. He’s been able to borrow my honorary daughter’s car for the last couple of weeks because she had surgery and can’t drive right now. Moving back here puts him closer to work and will save on his housing expenses big time since our carrying charges (HOA fees) and my utilities are already so low. He’ll gladly split the cost.

It will be beneficial for me as well. He’s already told me he plans to see to it that I eat healthier and will do a lot of cooking. I love that because I hate to cook. He’ll be the company I need and it should be more convenient for us to work on our music projects together. My son was concerned about disturbing me when he gets up to get ready for work (around 2:30a.m.) but with my weird sleeping schedule over the past few months, I’ll already be up anyway. He called my BFF the other day to thank her for her condolence gift and she told him I’m excited about him moving in. He told her he’s excited too. My son and I are known to keep each other laughing. We both need that right now. @Pecos
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hope that works out well, for you both.

My wife and I have been here 3 years. Prior to my mother going into a nursing home, we lived with her for 7 years. It always helps a lot. People need to be connected. Our society is far too isolated.
 

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