Living Alone Should Be Temporary ONLY

Mitch86 said:
If folks live alone, they should always be on the lookout for someone of the opposite sex who is also living alone. Two lonely people can get together and never be alone again. I am married for 61 years now, BUT, if my partner died, I'd be looking for another mate. There is always someone out there who can be a companion to ease your loneliness if you agree to ease their loneliness.

By the way, we each cover a unique part of our joint existence. My wife is my caregiver, food preparer and home maker. I am the financial manager. We each fill weaknesses in the existence of the other.
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When I read this Mitch86 I thought "nonsense!" but, on further consideration, you may be on to something. Might be nice to have a bloke do the cooking, shopping, housework and cater to my every need and desire while I "manage" the finances ;):)
 

Mitch86 said:
If folks live alone, they should always be on the lookout for someone of the opposite sex who is also living alone. Two lonely people can get together and never be alone again. I am married for 61 years now, BUT, if my partner died, I'd be looking for another mate. There is always someone out there who can be a companion to ease your loneliness if you agree to ease their loneliness.

By the way, we each cover a unique part of our joint existence. My wife is my caregiver, food preparer and home maker. I am the financial manager. We each fill weaknesses in the existence of the other.
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Good for you Mitch86. I agree with you 100% but I had to laugh when I first read your comment. Why? There are so many ladies on this website that over the years I have read their comments which basically boils down to "I'M FINISHED WITH MEN." I am glad that you made your comment but I wouldn't be surprised if the Voodoo ladies are already sticking pins into your likenesss! Like you, I think that you are never too old to find love or to be loved but then I have always blown against the wind. As for me, I'm not finished with ladies and I don't think I will be; not as long as I'm still breathing. Once again, more power to you Mitch86 for speaking your piece.
 
Autumn72 said:
7 years is too long for me totally alone. So I would want a good life with a good person to love each other and not betray or disrespect
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That's a great statement and the key word is "good." There is nothing as good as being married to a good person. No one wants to be married to an abusive person, a gold digger, a druggie, an alcohol or anything along those lines. Some of us are lucky and some of us are not. I have been married twice and boy or boy, was I lucky and that is why I believe that I will never give up on love.
 
Packerjohn said:
Good for you Mitch86. I agree with you 100% but I had to laugh when I first read your comment. Why? There are so many ladies on this website that over the years I have read their comments which basically boils down to "I'M FINISHED WITH MEN." I am glad that you made your comment but I wouldn't be surprised if the Voodoo ladies are already sticking pins into your likenesss! Like you, I think that you are never too old to find love or to be loved but then I have always blown against the wind. As for me, I'm not finished with ladies and I don't think I will be; not as long as I'm still breathing. Once again, more power to you Mitch86 for speaking your piece.
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Oh oh ladies our secret voodoo society has been found out! 🤪🤣😂👀😵😉
 
Ruthanne said:
Why should we always be looking for someone of the opposite sex? Some people like the same sex for friendship or a sexual partner.

We are not all cut out the same as you. Some enjoy living without someone.
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Yes, and if economics or health factors make it wiser to not live alone--- find a compatible roommate. Someone to share expenses and be around daily to make sure each other doing ok.

If my daughter was not here i likely would live alone until it seemed wiser to have live in company. But romance would complicate what could be a practical if friendly relationship.
 
Can understand the perspective of those long married and now content to cruise mateless through years into eternity.

Before 2017 retirement was often too busy with career and leisure activities to feel alone. Working in large labs and offices provided continuous opportunity for gregariousness. Especially since the pandemic began stifling activities with others in public, now at age 73, I do not like being alone. But the thread is more about finding a compatible soul mate than just a friend and to that end indeed also would be much more happy with the right woman to share my remaining time as I seek something immensely deep.
 
I always said if I found myself alone I'd give a woman free room and board if she would do housework and cook. She wouldn't really have to cook I could live on TV dinners. However now I would give our son the master bedroom and I would take the front bedroom we could share the living room and kitchen he could have the large back room that right now serves as a parking lot for our scooters and his work room. We would have to have the mother of all yard sales!
 
Packerjohn said:
That's a great statement and the key word is "good." There is nothing as good as being married to a good person. No one wants to be married to an abusive person, a gold digger, a druggie, an alcohol or anything along those lines. Some of us are lucky and some of us are not. I have been married twice and boy or boy, was I lucky and that is why I believe that I will never give up on love.
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I for one love your outlook on life and love
You sure gave me thst extra boost to believe thanks to your help in seeing beyond the heartaches
 
oldiebutgoody said:
Wait a sec -- are those women who dislike the old traditional ways are misandrist?

Just for the record, I don't quite think so.
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"Yossarian is alive and well and living in Sweden"
is bringing such odd feelings of wellness and calm into my heart and I don't remember why, just feels so good.

Thank you for bringing this back to me.
A permanent truce between us, forever.

eta
Doesn't mean we will never argue, but you know that!
 
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Pepper said:
"Yossarian is alive and well and living in Sweden"
is bringing such odd feelings of wellness and calm into my heart and I don't remember why, just feels so good.

Thank you for bringing this back to me.
A permanent truce between us, forever.

eta
Doesn't mean we will never argue, but you know that!
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re Yossarian ~ Catch 22 was a perennial classic on campus. Seems like that term was used each and every day. I believe every CCNY Beaver read the book back then. Was quite the fashion in Gotham back in the day.

''permanent truce" ??? Why, I have not begun to "fight"! En garde!


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For folks who don't know it, we CCNY Beavers are long standing fans of the great sport of fencing - our team goes way back to 1920. I subscribe to FIE channel on youtube and watch many tournaments every year. (By the way, this is further proof there is no such thing as being "alone".)


Allez!
 
I think this is a typical case of different strokes for different folks. I have lived alone for seven years and it's the happiest I have been since I was in my twenties. For me it's a very peaceful life, free of others influence on how I spend my day.

I actually feel sorry for people who are afraid to be alone.
 
It's interesting to see all these posts and different viewpoints in response to @Mitch86's statement. I respect Mitch's post, and all your posts and wish you all the best of luck! :)

I've had the opportunity to be in two relationships in my life: a short, abusive relationship with a mentally ill person, and it took me a long time to heal. I thought I was finished with relationships, then I found the love of my life (I wasn't looking, it just happened) and I consider it a miracle. After a rocky start, we both began to trust each other and our marriage became heaven on earth. I told him that it was like living in paradise. I stayed at home and raised our son after being a career woman, and he was the breadwinner. We were sister, brother, mother, father, lover, friend, to each other. We were like two peas in a pod. This was a beautiful feeling to be in love, and it spurred me to write clean love stories based on my own experience. He passed away suddenly after several years of marriage, and it was heart wrenching, like a piece of your body being ripped away. I've been alone since then. Its been 8 years.

About four years ago, I was thinking of doing what Mitch suggested, looking for a love interest. I had experienced a wonderful relationship with my late husband, and wanted to re-experience something like that. Mitch, I did try looking for someone, but it's not easy as we get older. I'm not the only fish in the pond. Many single women are out there looking for good men. Also, I realized how picky I was when offers did come. As men get older, they also come with a lot of baggage, hurts, and ailments. Over these years, I have made friendships, but nothing serious. I am open to a relationship, but I've lived on both sides of the fence and know what will work for me and what won't. I am getting used to living by myself, but I'd also prefer, like a few others here, a relationship. Maybe I'll never find someone like my late husband, but it's worth a try. So don't give up, ladies and gentlemen, if you feel strongly about being alone or being with someone. It's who you are at this stage of your life.
 
There is a kind of sentiment I keep hearing from some people that a woman doing feminine things for a man is bad even when the relationship is mutual and amicable. I'm all for doing what you want to do without the constrains of your gender but I also still often see people ridicule other people of the same gender when they enjoy doing things that traditionally associate with their gender. I'm wording it this way because it applies to both sexes.

I agree with @Mitch86 that both parties should fill each other's weaknesses and it doesn't seem like either one of them is being forced to do anything they don't want to.
There's also no point in being with someone who drags their feet and take you down with them. A recipe for an unhappy relationship.

So I agree with being alone and not being alone under the right reasons and circumstances.
 
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