Are some people just born stupid or do they practice..?

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A mother-of-two has gone viral on social media after writing a memoir about leaving her husband of 14 years to pursue a stranger who she thought could be her 'soulmate'.

Amanda Trenfield, from Sydney, explained that she spent 20 years building a 'somewhat predictable life' with a career in the financial services alongside caring for two young children and her marriage.

In an extract from her new book, published by The Sydney Morning Herald, Amanda said that she was hoping to reconnect with her husband during a three-day conference in Margaret River but found herself drawn to another man, Jason, at the event due to the 'strong and raw' electricity between them.

'It travelled to my core,' she said. 'It was so intense I needed to break eye contact. He. We. The energy. It was electric. My body was completely charged. I was completely “on”.'

Convinced he was her soulmate, despite nothing physical happening between them, Amanda left her husband a month later, even though she'd had no communication with Jason, who ultimately rejected her.

Amanda's decisions sparked a viral discussion on Twitter among commenters who were shocked by the way she 'blew up' her life, with one writing: 'Never in my life have I encountered someone romanticizing a one night stand that *didn't even happen*.'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/...sband-14-years-stranger-thought-soulmate.html
 
hollydolly said:
Amanda's decisions sparked a viral discussion on Twitter among commenters who were shocked by the way she 'blew up' her life
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I had a friend a little like that, she had a horse, a very nice supportive husband and a well behaved daughter, then she met the divorced father of some girls taking riding lessons at the stable and they had some crazy over-sexed attraction. They had sex all over the stable very inappropriately and pretty shockingly considering they were both mature grownups not teens and should have had better behavior.
She left her husband for the guy and he was an extremely dishonest person with no morals and his daughters were also without any apparent morals, and the previously nice daughter was led into stealing.
I think all of us who were friends with her thought she'd gone nuts. The creepy new guy was insisting she wear high heels and fringed clothes to the barn and she complained a bit about the inappropriate footwear and didn't really like fringed clothes but she did what he wanted.
After I bought a horse and started riding at a different stable I lost touch with her, but it was just sad to see how little of what I considered to be a normal character had any permanence. Kind of sickening and weird.
 
hollydolly said:
A mother-of-two has gone viral on social media after writing a memoir about leaving her husband of 14 years to pursue a stranger who she thought could be her 'soulmate'. (Break)
Amanda's decisions sparked a viral discussion on Twitter among commenters who were shocked by the way she 'blew up' her life, with one writing: 'Never in my life have I encountered someone romanticizing a one night stand that *didn't even happen*.'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/...sband-14-years-stranger-thought-soulmate.html
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There are a few things to say here, firstly being the way folks seem to wish to live vicariously, getting all het up in a "twitter storm" about the behaviour of someone they're never likely to meet, (the woman herself can expect invitations to go on daytime talk shows too can't she!).

Here's the second thing, how long did it really take any of our ex's who left for another to make that choice?

Not all that long I'd suggest, (though no where near as uncertain as this woman has been of course).

Maybe a week or so, or a bit longer, though they'd known the individual concerned much longer.
 
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This says to me something was seriously missing in her marriage and her life. It could also be mental illness, who knows?. But maybe now she's being crazy like a fox...that is if her book makes money and like @grahamg suggested...she starts getting asked to appear on T.V. talk shows. She'll get her 15 minutes of fame and maybe some money. But as we know, money doesn't buy happiness. Looks like she blew up her life for nothing. Hope she can put the pieces back together again.
 
HoneyNut said:
I had a friend a little like that, she had a horse, a very nice supportive husband and a well behaved daughter, then she met the divorced father of some girls taking riding lessons at the stable and they had some crazy over-sexed attraction. They had sex all over the stable very inappropriately and pretty shockingly considering they were both mature grownups not teens and should have had better behavior.
She left her husband for the guy and he was an extremely dishonest person with no morals and his daughters were also without any apparent morals, and the previously nice daughter was led into stealing.
I think all of us who were friends with her thought she'd gone nuts. The creepy new guy was insisting she wear high heels and fringed clothes to the barn and she complained a bit about the inappropriate footwear and didn't really like fringed clothes but she did what he wanted.
After I bought a horse and started riding at a different stable I lost touch with her, but it was just sad to see how little of what I considered to be a normal character had any permanence. Kind of sickening and weird.
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I'll never do it in a stable again. That hay gets into the weirdest places. And the horses & pigs got excited watching us.
 
hollydolly said:
A mother-of-two has gone viral on social media after writing a memoir about leaving her husband of 14 years to pursue a stranger who she thought could be her 'soulmate'.

Amanda Trenfield, from Sydney, explained that she spent 20 years building a 'somewhat predictable life' with a career in the financial services alongside caring for two young children and her marriage.

In an extract from her new book, published by The Sydney Morning Herald, Amanda said that she was hoping to reconnect with her husband during a three-day conference in Margaret River but found herself drawn to another man, Jason, at the event due to the 'strong and raw' electricity between them.

'It travelled to my core,' she said. 'It was so intense I needed to break eye contact. He. We. The energy. It was electric. My body was completely charged. I was completely “on”.'

Convinced he was her soulmate, despite nothing physical happening between them, Amanda left her husband a month later, even though she'd had no communication with Jason, who ultimately rejected her.

Amanda's decisions sparked a viral discussion on Twitter among commenters who were shocked by the way she 'blew up' her life, with one writing: 'Never in my life have I encountered someone romanticizing a one night stand that *didn't even happen*.'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/...sband-14-years-stranger-thought-soulmate.html
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Well, she did get a book deal out of it.
 
I think in both cases their lives had become rather mundane and lacking excitement. Perfectly understandable. Interesting that they were both women and were condemned for their actions. If men had wild sex with a stranger, it would be viewed differently. (and I'm sure we all know somewhere where strangers do meet up for just that purpose).
Their stupidity lay in giving up their safe lives for someone who turned out not to be worth it.
 
I used to be on Facebook but I stopped over 2 years ago. There were a lot of "nuts" there writing about what they ate or how cute their doggies or pussies were. I don't miss it. I'd rather read a good book or watch "Gunsmoke." That Fetus guy on Gunsmoke is pretty dumb but not as dumb as some of the folks on social media. Remember, I said "some" of the folks; not all. Some are pretty smart but the dumb ones seem to get all the attention and even end up on the 6 pm news.
 
oldaunt said:
No, popular. Actual birth control is necessary. It prevents the need for abortion at LEAST 90% of the time.
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You know, I was kind of joking. But I've seen first hand the miserable lives of children born to people who are too irresponsible and lazy to drive to the nearest health center to pick up all the free birth control pills and condoms they want. So, in all seriousness, I'll stick with necessary.
 
Packerjohn said:
I used to be on Facebook but I stopped over 2 years ago. There were a lot of "nuts" there writing about what they ate or how cute their doggies or pussies were. I don't miss it. I'd rather read a good book or watch "Gunsmoke." That Fetus guy on Gunsmoke is pretty dumb but not as dumb as some of the folks on social media. Remember, I said "some" of the folks; not all. Some are pretty smart but the dumb ones seem to get all the attention and even end up on the 6 pm news.
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I could have sworn his name was Festus. :)
 
hollydolly said:
....found herself drawn to another man, Jason, at the event due to the 'strong and raw' electricity between them.

'It travelled to my core,' she said. 'It was so intense I needed to break eye contact. He. We. The energy. It was electric. My body was completely charged. I was completely “on”.'

Convinced he was her soulmate, despite nothing physical happening between them, Amanda left her husband a month later, even though she'd had no communication with Jason, who ultimately rejected her.
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This all sounds like she has attachment issues stemming from childhood. Such people are susceptible to becoming Limerent, which some characterize as being addicted to love. Perhaps the correctional officer who recently ran off with the inmate was also Limerent, her behavior does also match the typical profile.
 
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