Would you tell someone they are underdressed?

Trish

Trish

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Today, I met up with a group of friends who all live locally, we were off to a Jubilee thingy. It may be useful for you to know that the age group is roughly 50's through to 70's and it might, I'm not sure if it does, make a difference if you know that they are mostly ladies and that everyone usually gets on.

To cut to the chase; we have a much younger (late 20's/early 30's) lady who previously caused a bit of controversy when she turned up to a triple 70's birthday party; some of our group refer to her as having been "topless" but, that's not true, she was wearing a top but it just didn't cover very much. Today, the same lady turned up in a pair of very short shorts which also didn't cover much. A couple of the men thought it embarassing but, for the most part, they didn't seem offended. The ladies however were in two camps, some (like me) thought that as it's her bottom, she can do what she wants with it but, some of the ladies thought it was disrepectful.

Fortunately, everyone kept their thoughts to themselves and I don't think it spoilt the day but, later on, some of us did have a conversation about whether it is ever appropriate to criticise someone's choice of clothing (a couple of the ladies were initially going to take the younger lady to one side). I don't think it is ever appropriate but, it surprised me how many thought it was.

I would be interested to know what you think. Would you be offended or not?
 

Mutton dressed as lamb.

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I would keep my opinion to myself as it is no reflection on me.
 

Gaer said:
Hope it's alright to add another comment:
Eleanor Roosevelt said:
"Great minds discuss ideas.
Average minds discuss events.
Small minds discuss people."

Trish, i AM IN NO WAY talking about YOU!
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No worries Gaer. I think it's human nature really which is why the gossip magazines sell. I have to admit, I was surprised at how upset some people were. :)
 
At a wedding on a very hot day, my aunt was going to wear a housedress to the reception. The rest of us were wearing gowns despite the heat because that's what ladies did back then and I was just a teenager but was wearing a gown too. We told my aunt it was WEDDING and she was mother of the groom, so wear a nice dress for heaven's sake. So she changed into a lace dress she had worn to the church and she thanked those of us who chimed in because she would have been so embarrassed if she hadn't changed.

I don't advise or judge people on what they choose to wear but there are exceptions to every rule and this as one of them. I'm not sorry I gave her my opinion.
 
oldaunt said:
I wouldn't say anything, but I wouldn't sit next to her either. It would embarrass me. But I am always embarrassed around people who make a display of themselves.
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I think a couple of the men felt embarrassed but, I really don't think the lady concerned intends to make a display of herself, it is just her style. Hopefully it will blow over before they meet again, the party episode seems to have been forgotten now. (y)
 
It's funny after I read this. I remembered years ago my husband and I were at a wedding. My gown was a little low cut. My Husband told me to keep the top covered with a cape on it. I did what he asked until I noticed him viewing a woman with a slit up her dress exposing her leg.So I took off my cape and hubby never said anything again.
 
Sassycakes said:
It's funny after I read this. I remembered years ago my husband and I were at a wedding. My gown was a little low cut. My Husband told me to keep the top covered with a cape on it. I did what he asked until I noticed him viewing a woman with a slit up her dress exposing her leg.So I took off my cape and hubby never said anything again.
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Good for you Sassy :)
 

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