Over 70 And Living Alone.......

I read this original post several times, and noticed that she didn't offer up any positive thoughts at all. Sounds too desperate to be believable. Relying on another to make you happy, and not finding ways to make yourself happy is a train wreck from the start.

Counseling would be a beginning.
 

I am not trying to rain on your parade but picky men and picky women tend to forever live by themselves. There are no perfect people for them. Too bad! We should look for good men and good women. Forget the perfect! That is junk that is given to us by TV and advertisers.

My former mother-in-law, who is dead now, always had 4 criteria for the perfect man:
1. Tall
2. Handsome
3. Good Dancer
4. Rich

Of course, she never met that perfect man. They were never good enough and of course, she died a widow. There is a moral to this story for all of us.
That is absurd criteria!
 
I never introduced myself when I first came on months ago. I was skeptical to put myself out there until I got comfortable. As time goes on I’m feeling better about this forum. My ex husband used to stalk me on internet and I try to be a bit careful. Being alone in life can be scary and traumatic. I’ve been alone for 4 years now and I’m doing pretty well. I look for friends not necessarily a boyfriend.
 
I was already admonished for calling someone who never introduced herself and just poured out her life story a Troll. I won't do it again. ;)
Maybe she had been drinking. Who knows the reason? I remember reading a post with a woman rattling., I assumed others on the forum had a better understanding of the person, so I didn't pay much attention. Oh, I remember someone on the forum, male, letting her know she would be too hard to please. That's about as much drama I've seen at the site so far.
 
Don't you think people would choose another option than a senior forum if they were looking for a dating site? There are dating sites.
Well, having worked at a Senior Center for several years, I do know that just because we are old, doesn't mean we aren't looking. I'm old - but romance is most definitely NOT what I want! Most of the senior websites are actually set up to promote match-making. That's just not my cup of tea. (-;
 
Well, having worked at a Senior Center for several years, I do know that just because we are old, doesn't mean we aren't looking. I'm old - but romance is most definitely NOT what I want! Most of the senior websites are actually set up to promote match-making. That's just not my cup of tea. (-;
Again, I'm just stumbling around. A period of grief followed by shingles and then a sinus worry was the reason I ended up at a senior forum. I was looking for a little company, people to visit, and had noticed that reading at the shingles forums had been helpful.
 
Don't you think people would choose another option than a senior forum if they were looking for a dating site? There are dating sites.
Em, I don't think of the site as a dating site, but I don't know how they could prevent people from dating.

Of course, the site can't stop people from dating. But, the first site that I signed up to for seniors was full of men who were hitting on me on day one - I dropped it immediately! I wasn't about to send photos and personal contact information to complete strangers (who just mimicked my interests to endear themselves to me with 'so much in common.')
 
Maybe she had been drinking. Who knows the reason? I remember reading a post with a woman rattling., I assumed others on the forum had a better understanding of the person, so I didn't pay much attention. Oh, I remember someone on the forum, male, letting her know she would be too hard to please. That's about as much drama I've seen at the site so far.
Oh there’s been more drama on here than that ‘ 😂
 
I was already admonished for calling someone who never introduced herself and just poured out her life story a Troll. I won't do it again. ;)
I've gone on forums without doing an introduction. I did here the second time I came back and changed to this forum name. I guess I'm usually just not comfortable with the introduction part though I've said plenty on this forum.

I do wish more of the people who start posting stayed.
 
Don't you think people would choose another option than a senior forum if they were looking for a dating site? There are dating sites.
Of course, the site can't stop people from dating. But, the first site that I signed up to for seniors was full of men who were hitting on me on day one - I dropped it immediately! I wasn't about to send photos and personal contact information to complete strangers (who just mimicked my interests to endear themselves to me with 'so much in common.')
I got hit on right here about ten days ago. He sent me a private message at 8:00 am. He was a new member. I was surprised and thought it was strange to be contacted by someone who had recently signed up and hadn't posted more than a few words on the forum. We hadn't exchanged a word on the forum.

He started out by asking me how I was doing today. I was reluctant to respond to him, but I did and said I was fine and asked him how he was. He told me he was having fun giving his daughter cooking lessons and asked me what I was doing that day that was fun.

Although I thought it was strange, I didn't want to be rude, so I responded briefly and said, "No fun today, just taking care of business." Then I said I hadn't seen him posting much on the forum. He said he wasn't often online here and told me he lived in Illinois. Then he asked me where I lived. At this point, I was sorry I answered him to begin with. He wrote back a couple of hours later, asking me what I liked to do for fun and then telling me what he liked to do. I thought something was fishy, didn't respond back, then blocked him.

I wouldn't be surprised if he contacted other women on the forum with the same story. I went looking for him the other day to see if he was still afoot and couldn't find a trace of him. A friend who's in the know told me he'd been banned. She also told me that the same thing had happened to her several times. Evidently, it's not uncommon for people to sign up to senior forums and lie about their age. Then they start looking for people to hit on. What do you think they're looking for? It ain't LUV, it's 💰💸🤑.

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I got hit on right here about ten days ago. He sent me a private message at 8:00 am. He was a new member. I was surprised and thought it was strange to be contacted by someone who had recently signed up and hadn't posted more than a few words on the forum. We hadn't exchanged a word on the forum.

He started out by asking me how I was doing today. I was reluctant to respond to him, but I did and said I was fine and asked him how he was. He told me he was having fun giving his daughter cooking lessons and asked me what I was doing that day that was fun.

Although I thought it was strange, I didn't want to be rude, so I responded briefly and said, "No fun today, just taking care of business." Then I said I hadn't seen him posting much on the forum. He said he wasn't often online here and told me he lived in Illinois. Then he asked me where I lived. At this point, I was sorry I answered him to begin with. He wrote back a couple of hours later, asking me what I liked to do for fun and then telling me what he liked to do. I thought something was fishy, didn't respond back, then blocked him.

I wouldn't be surprised if he contacted other women on the forum with the same story. I went looking for him the other day to see if he was still afoot and couldn't find a trace of him. A friend who's in the know told me he'd been banned. She also told me that the same thing had happened to her several times. Evidently, it's not uncommon for people to sign up to senior forums and lie about their age. Then they start looking for people to hit on. What do you think they're looking for? It ain't LUV, it's 💰💸🤑.

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Yup, with the same opening line too. I did not respond.
 
I got hit on right here about ten days ago.
Me too. About 3 weeks ago. It does sound like I had a different person than both of you....at least a different story. When I checked "his" profile, it had no info.
I searched for an introduction post, and he presented himself as female, age 60, retired health care worker.
Told me, age 66 and an electrician.
I then took most info from my profile.
 
Me too. About 3 weeks ago. It does sound like I had a different person than both of you....at least a different story. When I checked "his" profile, it had no info.
I searched for an introduction post, and he presented himself as female, age 60, retired health care worker.
Told me, age 66 and an electrician.
I then took most info from my profile.
Hmm, @Kika - Ya know what? I almost started a thread about being contacted by that sleaze bag as a warning to others on the forum. I'm wondering if we should have a thread about this crap that alerts others when we get trolled by sleaze bags. What do you guys and gals think? When it happens should we just put it out there?

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