Over 70 And Living Alone.......

[Kika]

I'm really not sure what to think about a separate thread. Hopefully these are isolated incidents.
One thing did run through my mind though. I have been reading that some people sign up, make one post and then disappear.
I noticed that I did get a Pvt message from this same person on the day I registered. I did not see it (was trying to learn how this forum worked) until the next one came several weeks ago. Had I seen it on my first day, I might have disappeared also.

 

[Jan14]

I got hit on right here about ten days ago. He sent me a private message at 8:00 am. He was a new member. I was surprised and thought it was strange to be contacted by someone who had recently signed up and hadn't posted more than a few words on the forum. We hadn't exchanged a word on the forum.

He started out by asking me how I was doing today. I was reluctant to respond to him, but I did and said I was fine and asked him how he was. He told me he was having fun giving his daughter cooking lessons and asked me what I was doing that day that was fun.

Although I thought it was strange, I didn't want to be rude, so I responded briefly and said, "No fun today, just taking care of business." Then I said I hadn't seen him posting much on the forum. He said he wasn't often online here and told me he lived in Illinois. Then he asked me where I lived. At this point, I was sorry I answered him to begin with. He wrote back a couple of hours later, asking me what I liked to do for fun and then telling me what he liked to do. I thought something was fishy, didn't respond back, then blocked him.

I wouldn't be surprised if he contacted other women on the forum with the same story. I went looking for him the other day to see if he was still afoot and couldn't find a trace of him. A friend who's in the know told me he'd been banned. She also told me that the same thing had happened to her several times. Evidently, it's not uncommon for people to sign up to senior forums and lie about their age. Then they start looking for people to hit on. What do you think they're looking for? It ain't LUV, it's .




Bella

That’s why I’m reluctant to put too much info out. That happens on my Facebook account all the time.

 

[Jules]

I got a PM too but just ignored it. Unless someone has been here for a good length of time, I just ignore.

 

[Bella]

That’s why I’m reluctant to put too much info out. That happens on my Facebook account all the time.

Ditto. There are no photos of me on the forum, although I've been tempted to post one. I've only posted a photo of a tiny corner of my house. I don't think it's wise to share too much personal information about where you live and what you have. It just fuels the trolls.

 

[Pinky]

I whittled down my personal stats a lot .. it keeps the wolves from the door.

 

[Blessed]

@Bella Got the same private message. I reported what I thought was a catfish, he has been removed. Always be vigilant.

 

[Pepper]

@Bella Got the same private message. I reported what I thought was a catfish, he has been removed. Always be vigilant.

I got the same message from same guy. I did not answer, obvious fake. But.............why did his message disappear from my inbox?

 

[Blessed]

I got the same message from same guy. I did not answer, obvious fake. But.............why did his message disappear from my inbox?

I guess Matrix checked it out and confirmed it was someone catfishing and removed all information and messages sent just to keep us all safe. Even the pm.

 

[Bella]

I got the same message from same guy. I did not answer, obvious fake. But.............why did his message disappear from my inbox?

Yeah, all traces vanished when he was banned, including PM's.

 

[StarSong]

I got into credit card debt and am desperate to move out of my tiny apartment in Brooklyn, New York! There is nothing to do here and no places to go to especially since the pandemic!...

When I saw this in her opening post, I thought, "You're pretty pathetic if you expect us to believe that your body is still in good condition (so walking wouldn't be a problem), and you can't find anything to do or anyplace to go in freaking Brooklyn, one of the five boroughs of NYC!"

 

[Kika]

Yeah, all traces vanished when he was banned, including PM's.

I had a different guy. Info is still there, including PMs

 

[Blessed]

Maybe you should report it and let Matrix check it.

 

[Kika]

I won't do that now. In his defense, when I said STOP, he stopped.

 

[Blessed]

Good that he stopped but if you think he might be any trouble to others on the board it still might be good for Matrix just check it out. If the person is legit they will not be bothered.

 

[Kika]

Good idea. I will think about it. stay tuned!

 

[MickaC]

Not sure if I have anything to contribute to this thread, and I’m not 70, and I’ve not been hit on with pm’s.
But…..
I’ve enjoyed reading all your comments and opinions.
It certainly takes all kinds.
Trolls…..I’m getting the drift of what that word means.
Must be a very lonely world for some who starts a conversation as she did and left….does make you think of what she was really after.
I’m happy that SF in not a dating site…..there’s enough out there giving the word dating a bad run.
Being 70 and alone……I’m not 70…..but I have decided that I don’t need a partner at this stage of life.
Having female and male friends…just friends…can be just as rewarding, maybe more.
Having an over 2 year relationship end last fall…..went through the stages of loss….but….by doing a lot of thinking and soul searching, it’s ok to be on my own…..friends are very welcome.
I am actually alone being in the sense of, that I have no family anywhere, I have a foster daughter, but that is a hit and miss.
I hope anyone that is searching for someone at this stage of their life, finds that special one.
I also commend any of you who choose to fly on your own, that’s great, enjoy.
This is a good thread…..even if she didn’t stick around to learn something.

Time for me to zip up….you’d almost think I knew what I was talking about….not necessarily. .

 

[Em in Ohio]

Hmm, @Kika - Ya know what? I almost started a thread about being contacted by that sleaze bag as a warning to others on the forum. I'm wondering if we should have a thread about this crap that alerts others when we get trolled by sleaze bags. What do you guys and gals think? When it happens should we just put it out there?

Bella

I say yes, as long as we post direct quotes from said person, and nothing that we or the site owner can get sued over! No one has hit on me at this site. It was just the one other senior site I tried, ever-so-briefly. I had actually researched for good senior sites, and this site and the other came up as recommended (and NOT dating sites.) I guess we have sleaze- bags trolling everywhere. /-;

 

[Blessed]

I don't know but I am new to all of this. Maybe send a email to Matrix for clearance before doing that?

 

[Kika]

I don't know but I am new to all of this. Maybe send a email to Matrix for clearance before doing that?

I agree.

 

[katlupe]

Yup, with the same opening line too. I did not respond.

Me too. Just ignored him and now I see his message is gone. Maybe I deleted it, I can't remember.

 

[Bella]

Not sure if I have anything to contribute to this thread, and I’m not 70, and I’ve not been hit on with pm’s.
But…..
I’ve enjoyed reading all your comments and opinions.
It certainly takes all kinds.
Trolls…..I’m getting the drift of what that word means.
Must be a very lonely world for some who starts a conversation as she did and left….does make you think of what she was really after.
I’m happy that SF in not a dating site…..there’s enough out there giving the word dating a bad run.
Being 70 and alone……I’m not 70…..but I have decided that I don’t need a partner at this stage of life.
Having female and male friends…just friends…can be just as rewarding, maybe more.
Having an over 2 year relationship end last fall…..went through the stages of loss….but….by doing a lot of thinking and soul searching, it’s ok to be on my own…..friends are very welcome.
I am actually alone being in the sense of, that I have no family anywhere, I have a foster daughter, but that is a hit and miss.
I hope anyone that is searching for someone at this stage of their life, finds that special one.
I also commend any of you who choose to fly on your own, that’s great, enjoy.
This is a good thread…..even if she didn’t stick around to learn something.

Time for me to zip up….you’d almost think I knew what I was talking about….not necessarily. .

I'm not over 70 either. In my post, I didn't even address "Over 70 And Living Alone..."

I think almost everyone knows that what I stated wasn't directed in particular to the original poster. As I was reading through the thread and because of some comments, I felt compelled to give a shout out to other members that I'd been trolled (cat-fished) right here on the forum. I'm not an expert on trolling, but I can smell a rat. My intent was to inform them as to what happened to me, not to point a finger at her.

I don't know for sure if she's trolling or not. In her post, to sum it up, she states: she's alone, beautiful, broke, in debt, looking for marriage, and picky. It seems like she's looking for a way out of her situation. She put it out there, and if you do that, you have to be prepared for incoming remarks that you might not like. Whether she's actually hoping to find someone on this forum, I don't know. Who knows if she'll be back?

As far as being over 70 and living alone... I'm with you @MickaC > "I hope anyone that is searching for someone at this stage of their life, finds that special one. I also commend any of you who choose to fly on your own, that’s great, enjoy." Well said, my dear.

Bella

 

[Ruthanne]

Yup, with the same opening line too. I did not respond.

I heard from him too.

 

[Bella]

I got hit on right here about ten days ago. He sent me a private message at 8:00 am. He was a new member.

I wouldn't be surprised if he contacted other women on the forum with the same story.

Yup, with the same opening line too. I did not respond.

I got a PM too but just ignored it.

Got the same private message.

I got the same message from same guy.

Me too.

I heard from him too.

I knew I wasn't the only one and there had to be others that he contacted as well. I'll bet there's more, but unless they read this thread, we won't know. That's why I suggested posting about when we get hit on, to give others a heads up.

Bella

 

[Blessed]

Has anyone sent a message to Matrix for input.

 

[MickaC]

I'm not over 70 either. In my post, I didn't even address "Over 70 And Living Alone..."

I think almost everyone knows that what I stated wasn't directed in particular to the original poster. As I was reading through the thread and because of some comments, I felt compelled to give a shout out to other members that I'd been trolled (cat-fished) right here on the forum. I'm not an expert on trolling, but I can smell a rat. My intent was to inform them as to what happened to me, not to point a finger at her.

I don't know for sure if she's trolling or not. In her post, to sum it up, she states: she's alone, beautiful, broke, in debt, looking for marriage, and picky. It seems like she's looking for a way out of her situation. She put it out there, and if you do that, you have to be prepared for incoming remarks that you might not like. Whether she's actually hoping to find someone on this forum, I don't know. Who knows if she'll be back?

As far as being over 70 and living alone... I'm with you @MickaC > "I hope anyone that is searching for someone at this stage of their life, finds that special one. I also commend any of you who choose to fly on your own, that’s great, enjoy." Well said, my dear.

Bella

Big THANKS for your post.....sorry you were targeted.
Your post is truer than true.
We can all learn from each others posts and experiences.
Thanks for being you.