People you know who dont smile when you meet them, (are they taking themselves too seriously?)

[grahamg]

I have a few "so called mates" who are rather prone to withhold a smile when you meet them, (as though you've done something wrong, or that has displeased them, even though there has been nothing going on for anyone to get upset about).

In my opinion they are so full of their own importance, the not speaking or smiling when they meet you is just an act they put on to demonstrate "dominance",..., after all the time you've known them, they still find it necessary to put on a worldly wise face, or "hardnosed" face!

There we have it, a thread about not very much, but some folks "pouting" or putting on a serious face for effect!

 

[Patricia]

I have a few "so called mates" who are rather prone to withhold a smile when you meet them, (as though you've done something wrong, or that has displeased them, even though there has been nothing going on for anyone to get upset about).

In my opinion they are so full of their own importance, the not speaking or smiling when they meet you is just an act they put on to demonstrate "dominance",..., after all the time you've known them, they still find it necessary to put on a worldly wise face, or "hardnosed" face!

There we have it, a thread about not very much, but some folks "pouting" or putting on a serious face for effect!

Somewhere I read that Russians think it looks foolish to smile.

 

[Della]

I agree with Patricia that it can be a cultural thing. I've noticed a lack of smiling in lots of African American men and I expect it's due to all the times in the past when they were forced to adapt an ingratiating manner in order to get along in a racist world.

I was taught to smile a lot from my father, who told me I was pretty when I was smiling, but not when I wasn't.
I've had a few people tell me I smile too much.

Shirley Temple Black said that she had a high school teacher tell her she didn't have to smile while she sat in class.

 

[Right Now]

It is a sign of welcome when I see a person I know coming toward me to smile at them. It's an invitation to say "hello", and I hope itshows them I am happy to se them.
Yes, I smile quite a bit when I am out.

 

[grahamg]

This kind of thing:

 

[Remy]

Often it has nothing to do about you. Once on a Monday after working 3, 12 hour shifts the maintenance guy at the apartment I was living in after I sold that house, came by for a request regarding the kitchen faucet. He literally commented on the fact that I didn't smile when I opened the door. A couple of reasons: I was damn tired and strangers in my home make me very, very nervous. His comment was inappropriate.

Another time on my day off I had a headache (not unusual I used to get a lot of headaches in my 20's and 30's) I didn't just want to sit at home, so I went to an antique mall. I took something up to the counter I wanted to get. After I walked away the guy behind the counter commented to the woman how I didn't smile. After a minute or two, I left without making the purchase.

Again often it has nothing to do with you. Never know what's going on with the other person.

 

[Lee]

As long as their manner is courteous I don't mind if they smile or not.

 

[oldaunt]

""so called mates""
That might explain a lot.....

 

[Pepper]

@Patricia
"A Russian proverb goes like this — “Laughing for no reason is a sign of stupidity.” So, people in Russia don't smile until they have a valid reason for it. Casual smile or smiling at strangers is not a part of their culture. That's the reason you will never find any Russian salesperson smiling at the shoppers.Nov 13, 2021https://medium.com/the-masterpiece/the-reasons-why-russians-dont-smile-a-lot-5e6c7b0ba1e0#:~:text=A Russian proverb goes like,salesperson smiling at the shoppers.

The Reasons Why Russians Don't Smile A Lot - Medium​

https://medium.com › the-masterpiece › the-reasons-why-...

 

[senior chef]

Consider the possibility that some people are not happy with life. It's not a matter of someone taking themselves too seriously, but rather a chronic unhappiness.

 

[Just Jeff]

Consider the possibility that some people are not happy with life. It's not a matter of someone taking themselves too seriously, but rather a chronic unhappiness.

I think more than one in four in the usa is on drugs for anzietty or deprssion,
so there's that - they're not happy and won't be for some time....

 

[Just Jeff]

putting on a serious face for effect!

What "effect" would that be then, eh ?

 

[Pepper]

Consider the possibility that some people are not happy with life. It's not a matter of someone taking themselves too seriously, but rather a chronic unhappiness.

Yeah. The Russians consider Dostoevsky to be light reading.

 

[Beezer]

A while ago, a senior was taking a long time at the Automated Bank Machine when I was out that day.

This middle aged man in front of me kept rolling his eyes and stomping his feet with a sour look on his face. I said...

"Hey! No offense, but you don't look important enough to be impatient."

The whole bank line-up started giggling and the guy just glared at me like he wanted to kill me...but never responded.

 

[Aunt Bea]

I find it a bit unnerving when people see me and burst out laughing,

I think some men withhold a smile or an enthusiastic greeting when they meet another man because they feel it would be seen as an inappropriate PDA.

 

[Just Jeff]

The whole bank line-up started giggling and the guy just glared at me like he wanted to kill me...but never responded.

Just like elephants never forget, maybe he is just waiting for the right time.

 

[Just Jeff]

I find it a bit unnerving when people see me and burst out laughing

No worries.... our trust is in God , not in people....

And that laughing at old people happens all the time... behind our backs and right out in front of us, every day in places.... young people are not like they used to be, respectful at least some of the time.. are they ?

 

[katlupe]

I used to smile a lot. Since I have had dental issues for the last few years I had to stop smiling. Now I am in the process of getting that taken care of so I am hoping I can feel comfortable smiling again.

 

[Just Jeff]

I used to smile a lot. Since I have had dental issues for the last few years I had to stop smiling. Now I am in the process of getting that taken care of so I am hoping I can feel comfortable smiling again.

I've met and talked with and worked with a lot of people of all ages without teeth, and me too missing teeth, and we smile a lot. No worries.

 

[katlupe]

I've met and talked with and worked with a lot of people of all ages without teeth, and me too missing teeth, and we smile a lot. No worries.

I still have some because they are in the process of being extracted. I won't even go out in a restaurant until they are finished. When they are done I will smile again.

 

[Bellbird]

The way I see it is so many people have forgotten, or don't want to, smile, be friendly, say hello. Over the years we have become part of the ME generation that is all about them and no one else matters. I remember smiling at my neighbours , greeting my friends or acquaintences on the street over the years, it was a good feeling.

 

[Just Jeff]

I still have some because they are in the process of being extracted. I won't even go out in a restaurant until they are finished. When they are done I will smile again.

No worries. Dentists wanted to extract some or all of my teeth also, but I found out about oregano and did not let them. From testimonies online and in person, a lot of people have avoided dentists, avoided root canals and extractions totally, using oregano itself, and sometimes other simple methods to heal and defeat infections and decay.

 

[Aunt Bea]

The way I see it is so many people have forgotten, or don't want to, smile, be friendly, say hello. Over the years we have become part of the ME generation that is all about them and no one else matters. I remember smiling at my neighbours , greeting my friends or acquaintences on the street over the years, it was a good feeling.

I grew up in a friendlier world too.

Sadly, several generations have been taught not to talk to or trust strangers.

In my city neighborhood most people walk around with an ugly resting bitch face as a sort of defense against strangers, panhandlers, etc…

 

[Just Jeff]

I grew up in a friendlier world too.

Sadly, several generations have been taught not to talk to or trust strangers.

In my city neighborhood most people walk around with an ugly resting bitch face as a sort of defense against strangers, panhandlers, etc…

Well we cannot trust our own government or doctors or schools or churches or pastors or priests, so do not trust strangers either.

We may have to , or get to, and even enjoy talking to someone, but don't trust them.

 

[Alligatorob]

People you know who don't smile when you meet them, (are they taking themselves too seriously?)

Maybe, but some folks don't smile naturally, and some are just shy.

I have make an effort to learn first names of all the regulars at the gym I go to, and to greet them with a smile and good morning. Did not work at all with one lady, she never smiled back and rarely returned my greetings. It has taken over a year, but she has finally gotten somewhat friendly, but no smile. I don't think her facial muscles work that way.