What is the Best thing you can do for yourself?

Serenity4321

Serenity4321

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I took this idea from the other thread what is the worst thing that can happen to you. My reply there was this because I could not think of what would be my worst fear. I think the best we can do is learn to love and accept and forgive ourselves and others and leave the future up to a Power greater than ourselves whether we call that God or any other name. I also like the phrase 'may the Force be with you' :)
 

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Well, When an unhealthy thought creeps into my mind and makes me sad, the best thing Ican do at that moment is to
KICK IT OUT OF MY HEAD immediatly and replace it with feelings of thanks, of love, of gratitude for being alive and healthy,
for my kids, for everything! The best thing I can do for myself is stay cheerful and full of expectancy for wonderful things
to happen.
and,
Now that allergy season is over, maybe I can start wearing mascara!
 

I have been diagnosed with having manic depression disorder. When I feel low and down trodden, I can feel instantly better if I give someone something of value. Elvis Presley also had this illness and was the reason why he would buy a stranger a new Cadillac.

I don’t buy people a new Cadillac, but I will pay for their dinner or pick up their grocery bill. If I get to thinking about my parents and losing them when I was 9 years old, the pain can sometimes be very overwhelming. I kept thinking if only my mom and dad were alive and with me. It was a horrible few hours. I went into the grocery store and got in back of a lady with a grocery cart full of food and a small child sitting in the cart and chewing on a cookie. When the clerk had finished ringing up her cart, the bill was $144.00. I said to the lady, ‘Excuse me, Mam. If you don’t mind, I would like to pay for your groceries.” She looked at me with a stunned look. I said, “OK?” She nodded ever so slightly. When I walked out of that store, I felt 100% better than I did when I walked in.

My Therapist told me that by doing this, it gives me an ego boost and makes me feel people connected. It also relieves stress and seeing people smile also makes me smile. He said that it’s an all around boost to my emotional support system. I do this maybe 5 or 6 times a year and each time, I enjoy it more. I will add that my Therapist also told me that right now this is not a problem, but if I see myself beginning to do this more and more, we may need to have a more serious conversation about this.
 
Been There said:
I have been diagnosed with having manic depression disorder. When I feel low and down trodden, I can feel instantly better if I give someone something of value. Elvis Presley also had this illness and was the reason why he would buy a stranger a new Cadillac.

I don’t buy people a new Cadillac, but I will pay for their dinner or pick up their grocery bill. If I get to thinking about my parents and losing them when I was 9 years old, the pain can sometimes be very overwhelming. I kept thinking if only my mom and dad were alive and with me. It was a horrible few hours. I went into the grocery store and got in back of a lady with a grocery cart full of food and a small child sitting in the cart and chewing on a cookie. When the clerk had finished ringing up her cart, the bill was $144.00. I said to the lady, ‘Excuse me, Mam. If you don’t mind, I would like to pay for your groceries.” She looked at me with a stunned look. I said, “OK?” She nodded ever so slightly. When I walked out of that store, I felt 100% better than I did when I walked in.

My Therapist told me that by doing this, it gives me an ego boost and makes me feel people connected. It also relieves stress and seeing people smile also makes me smile. He said that it’s an all around boost to my emotional support system. I do this maybe 5 or 6 times a year and each time, I enjoy it more. I will add that my Therapist also told me that right now this is not a problem, but if I see myself beginning to do this more and more, we may need to have a more serious conversation about this.
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@Been There , Fascinating. I've never known anyone who did this to relieve depression. Regardless of the depression motivation, I believe you have a flame of true goodness and love in your heart! 🌹
 
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Been There said:
My Therapist told me that by doing this, it gives me an ego boost and makes me feel people connected. It also relieves stress and seeing people smile also makes me smile. He said that it’s an all around boost to my emotional support system.
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Oh yes, helping others and doing good to people without expectation of return is what they call "chicken soup for the soul". The human creature is a very social one, the connection to others is vital.
 
Nathan said:
Oh yes, helping others and doing good to people without expectation of return is what they call "chicken soup for the soul". The human creature is a very social one, the connection to others is vital.
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I guess that sounds about right. It’s surprising how good you can feel about yourself when you do something nice for someone without expecting anything in return. To know that you may have made someone’s day very pleasant is worth a few bucks. Someone did that to me and my wife probably 15 years ago and that was the first I ever heard if it. My wife has since passed, but she would talk about that for weeks on end about how nice it was that someone wanted to treat us without expecting anything in return.
 
Best thing to do for myself is to make sure I involve my wife in every aspect of everyday life. From bill paying to when our car needs an oil change. It gives me peace of mind knowing she will be capable of handling day to day issues instead of wondering what to do.
 
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